Seven Stylish Resolutions

Although you can make resolutions at any time, here are seven that I like to remind myself of at the beginning of every year. Maybe they will resonate with you. 

1. Create an Authentic Style

Sometimes, our idea of style and wardrobe perfection isn’t suited to who we are, which makes it an unnatural fit and hard to achieve. Style starts from the inside out. There is little point in trying to create a look for an imaginary persona or lifestyle because it’s impractical and a chore. The closer we align our style to our needs and sartorial preferences, the easier it is to create and manage.

2. Resist Poison Eye

We all have a poison eye or two when it comes to fashion and style. These are the looks or trends that we just can’t get used to. Try to keep them to a minimum because there is a version of every trend for everyone. Remember that your poison eye can be somebody’s else’s favourite look. Horses for courses, always.

3. Relax into It

Fashion and style are supposed to be fun. Don’t let them frustrate you or boss you around. Relax into the process and don’t take it too seriously. There will always be another sale or killer piece. There is a workable solution for every fashion challenge, and an opportunity to look and feel fab no matter what. If you are feeling frustrated and finding it hard to shake the feeling, walk away and revisit things when you’re in a better headspace.

4. Be Patient

I CAN’T STRESS THIS ENOUGH. Be patient with your style. Style is a journey, and not a destination. Take it one step at a time so that you’re always aligned with the internal and external factors that affect your style. It takes time and resources to build an effective wardrobe, especially when some fashion seasons are better than others. Focus on what you have and what you’ve achieved with your style instead of feeling dissatisfied and despairing about what you don’t have. Your style will fall into place after a while.

5. Listen to Your Feelings

Pay attention to how you feel in an outfit. Don’t take the emotion out of the closet editing, shopping or outfit creation process because it’s the foundation of an authentic style. The more you are in tune with emotions, the easier it is to sport a style that is effortless, authentic and makes you feel fabulous.

6. Learn from Mistakes

Experiment with new things when you feel the urge to refresh your style or haul yourself out of a style rut. Be surprised at what works, and learn from what doesn’t. We all make mistakes so try not to feel guilty about them. Onward and next, is a good motto.

7. Have Fun with Fashion

Fashion and style unites people from all corners of the globe. Just look at an amazing community like YLF as an example. Shopping with friends can be therapeutic. Your closet might be your happy space. Selecting what to wear can be creative and satisfying. Wearing the heck out of your fabulous wardrobe can spark great joy. Helping others find their style and feel confident in their outfits can be very rewarding. If you enjoy fashion, developing and refreshing your style can be entertaining and creative. Laugh a lot, and have fun with fashion wherever it may take you.

Style is neither a size nor an age, but an energy and confidence that is expressed through clothing, footwear and accessories. I wish you a stylish 2018 filled with lots of fun fashion adventures, confidence-boosting outfits, and busloads of laughter.

Happy 2018!

January is one of my favourite months because it’s the start of a brand new year. A time to reflect, get rid of cobwebs, create positive intentions, set some goals, prioritize what’s important, and become more self-aware. We get to start again, learn from our mistakes, and make the next 365 days more meaningful than the last. 
 
The topic of fashion and style is highly emotional terrain. It has the power to both boost up and break down our confidence levels. The more confident we are, the better we feel about our style and the way we look. This in turn positively impacts those around us, which boosts us even further. 
 
The purpose of YLF and its engaged, supportive community is to help you navigate the emotional terrain, build an effective wardrobe that suits your needs, and boost your confidence to the point that you feel fabulous about your style. There are solutions and opportunities for every style and fashion challenge, and I look forward to working on them together in 2018. 
 
We at YLF wish you a happy, healthy, safe, peaceful and stylish new year. 

Fashion News Roundup: December 2017

A new Bill Cunningham documentary, an Orla Kiely fashion exhibition, Phoebe Philo leaving Céline, and other style news that caught our attention in December.

Fun Fashion Quote

To conclude the news roundups for this year, I’d like to share this Martha Graham quote I found while reading an instalment of My Beauty Uniform over at Cup of Jo. I think it applies to all aspects of life, style included:

“There is only one of you in all of time, your expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and it will be lost.”

Wishing you a wonderful 2018!

Roundups

Simpler Items

This week's list of top picks list is about basic pieces.

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Assorted Items

Items for Summer, both in and out of air conditioning.

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Casual Summer Vibes

This week's top picks are good for a casual Summer vibe.

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Summery Earth Tones

These items are for those who like to wear casual earth tones in warm and hot weather.

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Hints of Spring

Some tried-and-tested winning items to refresh your style for Spring.

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Dressier Items

An assortment of dressier top picks might be just what the doctor ordered.

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The Best and Worst of 2017

As my last post of 2017, here are some thoughts to wrap up the year of style, fashion, retail and beyond. These are completely subjective musings, so feel free to agree, disagree, and add to my list. It’s all in good fun. 

My Highlight of the Year: A casual two-week road trip with my boys through six US states: Washington, Oregon, Idaho, Utah, Wyoming and Montana. Greg is the best chauffeur (I did zero driving) and Sam is a road trip rock star. We ate incredible food, enjoyed blissful hot Summer weather, walked our feet off, saw incredible scenery, and enjoyed quality family time. I am officially on Team Road Trip With My Boys.

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Angie & Sam

Fashion Highlight of the Year: Shopping with Greg for my birthday. We spent the day together and I felt like a princess.

Best Retail Therapy: Shopping with dear friend Inge in the Netherlands when I see my Dad. Every three to four months we spend the day together, yak till the cows come home, find wardrobe gems, laugh a lot, and eat yummy food.

Angie & Inge

Best Super Hero: Super Sam.

SuperSam

Fashion & Style Buzzword for 2017: Diversity.

My Biggest Fashion Surprises: I like polyester in denim, have a capsule of crossbody bags, love wearing utility pants, and built a burgundy capsule.

Best Purchase of the Year: New specs chosen by in-house fashion stylist Greg.

Specs

The Best Trends: The ones that make you feel happy and fabulous.

The Worst Trends: The ones that boss you around and don’t get your style.

Most Saturated Items in Retail: Highly distressed and ripped denim, exuberant sleeved tops, oversized tops, cropped pants, ill-fitting T-shirts, body-con skinnies, and sneakers.

The Worst Fit Problems: Dresses that are too short, fits that are too tight on the calf, long sleeves that are too tight, and overly wide necklines.

Biggest Missed Opportunities at Retail: Trendy items that are tailored, but not body-con. Trendy silhouettes in sizes US14 and up.

Best Online Shipping Service: Amazon, with Zappos as a close second.

Best Customer Service: The Nordstrom valet team at the downtown flagship in Seattle. I’ve been dropping my car off there for fourteen years, and their service is flawless.

Hotel of the Year: The Kimpton Hotel Monaco. They’re a fancy hotel chain that do not discriminate against their doggy guests — all breeds allowed and they stay for free. The staff are extremely helpful and friendly, and the art deco decor is fabulous.

Best Workout for Mind, Body & Spirit: A heated vinyasa yoga class led by a competent yogi, and a long walk with Greg and Sam.

Colour of the Year: Burgundy.

Accessory of the Year: Scarves across all seasons.

Best Maximal Instagram Blogger: Journey of a Stylist. Greet’s outfits are over the top, creatively pulled together, and exquisitely colourful. If you enjoy looking at and wearing bold colour combinations, check her out on Instagram.

Best Fashion Blogger: Carelia from My Small Wardrobe. Not only is Carelia beautifully stylish, but she’s a lovely person. Friendly, fun and full of positive energy. Her smile is sublime.

Most Stylish Man in Orange: My 85 year old darling Dad.

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Most Celebrated Body Parts of the Year: Alluring ankles, sumptuous shoulders, and wonderful wrists.

Most Visually Fab Movie of the Year: Blade Runner 2049.

Best TV Shows of the Year: Stranger Things, Mindhunter, Halt and Catch Fire, and Shetland.

Best Movie of the Year: Dunkirk.

Best Online Community: YLF!

Best Forum Comment: Fabber Joy commented on one of my forum threads with a rhyme. Clever!

Angie has some new floral shoes.
Something pretty for our muse.
She thinks that the flowers
Give her super powers
For shopping, and a cure for foot blues

Best $16 I spent on my Wardrobe: A pair of orange trousers that make me feel fab.

Best Beauty Product: Caudalie Vinisource Overnight Recovery Oil and here’s why.

Most Popular Ensemble: The Pattern-Mixed Kitchen Sink.

Ensemble

Favourite Way to Accumulate Steps: Shop.

Biggest Bang for Your Fashion Buck: Wear the heck out of your fabulous clothes.

Favourite Style Tips: Be patient with your style, listen to how you feel in an outfit, and never stop having fun with fashion.

We at YLF wish you a happy, safe and peaceful New Year.

My Style in 2017

Here’s a detailed reflection on my style in 2017. I will be using this as a base as I refresh and evolve my wardrobe in 2018. 

Footwear Overhaul

I replaced half of my footwear collection in 2017. I now wear heels of up to one and a half inches almost exclusively. A one inch heel is the most comfortable, and that’s what I wear 90% of the time. I passed on all my heels that were higher than one and a half inches apart from one pair of two inch heeled booties that work well with flared jeans and trousers.

It was a costly exercise that took time. I was patient, and prioritized footwear purchases by allocating the lion’s share of my budget to them. I was extremely lucky to find fabulous footwear that make my feet happy and go the distance. Most of the new pairs became wardrobe workhorses, which was very satisfying. I now have an excellent base to work from for next year.

Casual Travel Capsules

Travelling to Europe to see my Dad every three to four months meant that I had to embellish my casual wardrobe and fill a few holes like a dressier rain coat with a hood. This made my need for the right comfortable footwear even more of a priority. I’m thrilled to have that sorted.

Here are some of the casual outfits I posted on the forum this year.

Tall Boots

I began wearing tall boots very regularly in the second half of the year. They felt extremely fresh after six years of bootie mania. I’m back to wearing weatherproof tall black riding boots over skinnies after getting a new pair at the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale. I’ve been thoroughly enjoying my Casual Equestrian outfits that work well in wet and cold Seattle.

I put the cart before the horse a bit at the end of 2016 when I came home with a pair of tall, dressy and tailored ink blue boots that I bought in London. They were a brilliant find, but I didn’t have the Winter dresses to make them workhorses at the time. That changed this year, and I LOVE wearing my dressy tall boots with Autumn and Winter dresses.

Family of Furlas

I’m a Bag Lady, preferring bags over shoes. I swap out my bags frequently, and like them to match my outfit in a deliberate way. I fell in love with Furla bags on our last trip to Hong Kong, and have been hooked ever since. They are beautifully made quality items, gorgeously structured, dressy, very robust, and have gold hardware. They are crisp, simple, and versatile, looking as good incorporated into casual outfits. Over the years, I’ve been steadily adding to my collection and now have a fab Furla family. They are all workhorses.

New Specs & Pixie

Greg chose a new pair of chocolate brown specs with orange inners for me half way through the year. WOW. What a wildcard. It took me a while to get used to wearing dark frames after sporting bright green specs for four years. But after a week, I was smitten, and love them as much as the green. They were the catalyst for a few fun colour additions to my wardrobe.

I’ve been sporting a blonde pixie for eleven years and have no desire to grow it out or change the colour. I do however go through stages of growing out the fringe and cutting it back, and I style my pixie differently throughout the week.

Specs

Scarves, Pattern Mixing & Pom-Poms

‘Tis the season to be maximal, and a welcome way to change things up. I’m back to wearing scarves throughout the year, and like the visual effect. Scarves are essential in the Netherlands, and with my travel schedule, I needed to embellish my capsule across the seasons. Most of my scarves are patterned, which is one way to create a pattern-mixed look. I also fell for faux fur pom-poms, and wear them on my family of Furlas several days a week.

Trousers

It was a style goal to wear dressy trousers more frequently. I had a dodgy start to fulfilling the goal, but it came right by the second half of the year. I also wore casual trousers more frequently after finding some fun pairs in stores. I thoroughly enjoyed giving my blue jeans a bit of a break. I LOVED wearing all sorts of trousers with my new footwear assortment. I added seven new pairs of trousers to my wardrobe this year: four dressy and three casual. Four pairs became workhorses. The olive utility pants were quite the wild card, and my favourite casual Summer pants.

Dresses

It was a style goal to wear skirts and dresses more frequently year round, and I did just that. My tall dressy dark blue boots were a game changer for Autumn and Winter dresses.They made wearing frocks with pretty sheer hosiery in cold weather completely comfortable with coat and scarf. I also enjoyed wearing lighter weight dresses over cropped flares with loafers for Spring and Summer.

I complain profusely about the lack of flattering, sleeved dresses made of substantial fabric with sufficient hem length. But with patience, I eventually find them. I added five new dresses to my dress capsule, all of which can be worn with tall blue boots, gold party shoes and hosiery.

Gold & Pearls

I have completely committed to yellow gold and am trying not to purchase anything with silver hardware. I’m not into mixing metals, so it’s quite the challenge.

I adore classic white pearls. I wear a chunky pearl necklace several times a week, and my pearl wedding ring daily. I wear pearl necklaces together with a scarf and my specs without hesitation.

I also had a set of dainty pearl and gold bracelets custom-made to match my wedding ring and watch. The jeweller popped on a special Italian clasp that’s easy to fasten and unfasten with one hand. They fit perfectly and are lightweight so I can’t feel them on my wrist. Very practical and comfortable. I had two identical bracelets made so that I can wear one or two at a time. I am THRILLED with how they turned out. I love that they are classic, refined yet substantial, and work with every outfit. I wear them daily and often with a chunky pearl necklace. To my eye, matchy-matchy jewellery looks fresh, as does dainty jewellery for that matter.

Pearls

Crossbody Bags

I was the “anti-crossbody” gal, finding them awfully uncomfortable and cumbersome. But the small crossbody bag in a classic shape with a bit of glitz and lots of structure DOES work for me. If you asked me last year whether I would build an assortment of small crossbody bags for my style in 2017, I’d have said, “no way.” Now I have four small crossbody bags.

Three of my smaller Furla satchels can be converted into comfortable crossbody bags, which have been excellent for travel. Wearing crossbody bags is my wildest wild card. For the most part, they have pushed ahead of clutches.

Blazers

My love for the casual equestrian vibe made me crave Autumn and Winter blazers, especially since I’m weaning myself off leather jackets and do not wear cardigans. I added two Boden blazers to my wardrobe that fit like a dream and are beautifully made. One in velvet and one in wool. Both patterns and both workhorses.

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Velvet Emilia Blazer
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Mirabelle Blazer
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Olive

Olive matches my green eyes, but I would often feel blah wearing it. The colour simply didn’t spark enough joy. So I would stick to having one olive wardrobe item in my wardrobe at a time. The Summer utility pants that I got for my birthday were the catalyst for change. I felt like adding a new neutral to my wardrobe, and since the dirty shade of green works well with my new brown specs — why not. White pearls, which I wear most days, brighten the colour against my face.

I’ve been building an olive capsule since June and here are my items. I like that the shades of olive are different. Some tonal, some mismatched, but all working together and solid. I also have olive represented across a range of wardrobe items, which makes the outfit creation process easier. I wear olive with dark blue, denim blue, black, cream, white, gold, chartreuse, citron, burgundy, pink, orange and tomato red. It’s surprisingly versatile.

Burgundy

The addition of burgundy was an accident at first. I fell in love with a pair of boots in my favourite shoe shop in Arnhem in the Netherlands back in August. In the bad light of the store, I thought they were dark brown, which would bookend my new dark brown specs. But as I walked into the natural light, I saw that the boots were a very rich Bordeaux. Well, they still bookended my specs, and I decided right then and there to add burgundy to my wardrobe.

I built a burgundy capsule across a range of wardrobe items to make creating outfits an easy task. That way I can select complements from the capsule — like belt-bag-scarf — to create a pulled together look. I’ve worn burgundy a lot this year, and find it just as versatile as olive. I like to wear it with dark blue, cream, white, orange, tomato red, shocking pink, gold, chartreuse and olive.

Naked Nails

I don’t use fingernail polish, but I used to regularly paint my toenails. Kyoto pearl was my favourite shade. This year I did not paint my toenails at all. I batted for Team Naked Nails and enjoyed it. I might bat for the same team again next year.

Limiting Black

I am very careful about the amount of black I wear and add to my wardrobe, simply because a wardrobe rich in black does not make me happy. For the most part, dark blue is my black. That said I have a very deliberate set of wardrobe items that I love to wear in black. Most of them are old, but a few are new.

A black turtleneck is a wardrobe essential for my style. A gauzy black polo shirt has a fun equestrian vibe. A black dress and dressier top are magical with a pile of white pearls. A pair of tall black riding boots with matching belt are classics. A black mixed media moto jacket is useful. Sailor pants, cropped flares and harem pants look dressiest in black, and I adore my avant-garde black pants suit that I bought in Tokyo.

It has been an excellent shopping season. I’m in a very happy place with my style and wardrobe despite a somewhat stressful year. Amidst the wild cards and bigger changes, I still love to wear sour brights, white jeans, and pretty outfits that amp up the polish. Onward to 2018.