Bending the Body Type Guidelines

I like to think of personal style as more of an art than a science, which is why there are very few absolute rules on YLF. I love to encourage ensemble creativity and out-of-the-box thinking because no one likes to be boxed into a rigid way of doing something forever.

Guidelines that take into account your body type are important though. I believe that you need to master some principles of good style and dressing to flatter your body type before you begin to manipulate these guidelines. As Maya put it in the forum:

“you can’t break the rules until you understand them”

Artists like Picasso, Van Gogh and Chagall developed their abstract style over time. They were well trained in the classics first, studying the basic principles of line, colour, depth and composition for years before they defied the odds and came up with the non-traditional abstract master pieces that defines their artistic style today. They mastered painting what they saw, and then they began to paint what they felt. The same can apply to you and your personal style.

Once you know what works best for your body by following the guidelines, you can either keep things simple and leave it at that. Or, you can challenge yourself by bending the so called “rules”. The point is not to regress by deliberating wearing unflattering outfits in an effort to be creative and individualistic. That’s counterproductive. At the end of the day, our goal is still to look and feel good in what we wear. The challenge is to make a typically unflattering look, look flattering. And it can be done.

I like to challenge my body type guidelines because I enjoy trying something new. This keeps things interesting and after all, it’s my bread and butter.

Here are some of the ways I bend my own guidelines:

  • Wearing V-necks and scooped necks: my long neck, regular bust size and bony chest looks best in high necklines (turtle, funnel, slash, mandarin or cru). Lower necklines end up making me look like an ostrich and my bony chest is unattractive. But by finding low necklines that are cut high at the shoulder neck point but low in front helps shorten my neck. Also, a chunky necklace or scarf adds just enough chest coverage to make the style work.
  • Surrendering my waistline: I look best in form-fitting, waist- defining styles because they add curve to my straight-ish body. But I’m all over the deconstructed revived 80’s silhouettes of right now so I had to make them work too. For starters, I keep the bottoms extra sleek and the shoulders of the tops or jackets extremely tailored so that my ensemble is somewhat structured. I also add girly detailing like low heels, ruffles and pretty accessories to balance out the androgyny of the look.
  • Wearing shorter length skirts and dresses: my shapeless legs look best in knee-length skirts that finish around the knee cap. But hemlines have been getting shorter and finding skirts long enough has been hard. But for the first time ever, I’m wearing hemlines five inches shorter than what I’m used to as long as I wear them with slouchy boots. That way I get extra coverage and a bit of volume around the lower leg area.

Sally from alreadypretty.com and I were telepathic last week as we both thought about tackling this subject at the same time. Sal’s great post entitled “figure flattery as a limiting factor” cuts straight to the chase and you should definitely have a squizz.

You’ve just been challenged to take a make a traditionally non-flattering item for your body type look flattering. I can’t wait to hear what you come up with.

Red Chair Confessions (sponsored post)

I have never done a sponsored post before, but this one was too intriguing to pass up. I don’t have much information, but it looks like a teaser campaign for a new brand of some sort. The campaign is running on the website Red Chair Confessions, and so far two videos have been posted.

In the second video (below) the patient in therapy is discussing an activity that she describes as a relapse but, ironically, finds therapeutic. I wonder what that could be. The therapist seems very preoccupied with her outfit. Hmmm. I’m sure that has something to do with it.

The first video in the series, “forgive me father“, has a similar theme, with our lady confessing to a priest about something “she never thought she would do”. At least, not until she was older. I really like what the actor is wearing in this first video. She looks classically chic in her trench white shirt and scarf, but adds just enough spunk with the white straight leg jeans.

The campaign also has a page on Facebook, but this doesn’t seem to have attracted much attention yet.

So what do you think of the videos? Do they spark your curiosity at all? Do you find them entertaining? Any guesses as to what this is all about?

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Your opinion on skinny jeans

When skinny jeans resurfaced four years ago, fashion magazines and style experts were convinced it was a fad that would be gone in six months. Now we’re all eating our words as the look gets stronger each year. The upcoming season is no exception.

Our eyes have readjusted to the look of the tapered denim leg. We know how to wear the style in flattering ways. If you’re shy about your thigh area, this means tunics, heels and boots, instead of with normal length tops and flats. The right pair of skinny jeans looks great on anyone if they’re worn in the way that looks best for their body type.

So it surprises me that after seven fashion seasons and loads of style guidance, I still hear people saying that they can’t wear skinnies. Obviously, if you loathe the look there is no point in trying. So I’d like to get a sense of what the YLF readership thinks of skinny jeans. Do you wear them? Would you like to wear skinnies but can’t find a style to fit your bod or your budget? Do you like the look on others, but not on yourself? Or, do you wish skinny jeans would disappear. I want to hear exactly how YOU feel about skinny jeans right now.

Classic Skinny JeanDistressed Skinny JeanClassic Zip Skinny Jean

Mainstream retailers like Banana Republic are pushing skinny jeans as one of their 7 biggest trends for Fall with slogans like: “skinny jeans and rich layers give us a first look at what’s ahead for cooler weather”. That’s a huge statement. Skinnies are everywhere alongside their forever flattering bootcut buddies. There’s no stopping the force of what has become a well seasoned mainstream basic.

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Tsonga shoes create a thread of hope

I couldn’t believe my luck when we saw the “Tsonga” sign. I recognized the name immediately. It’s a South African brand of handmade comfort footwear that’s sold all over the world. When I saw the brand name for the first time at Nordstrom several years ago, I suspected that the item would have African heritage. And sure enough, marked in two distinct places on each shoe are the words: “made in South Africa”.

And here we were, in the middle of rural nowhere in South Africa, driving past their factory. Can you believe it. Hah! Intrigued and excited, I dragged Greg and his parents off to see what Tsonga was all about.

On the Road To TsongaEntrance

We followed the sign along a narrow dirt road to get to the Tsonga premises, which are situated at the foot of the Drakensberg mountain range in Kwazulu-Natal (South Africa). Tsonga looks more like a farm than a factory. So, so beautiful. We parked the car outside the entrance and walked into the factory shop, a small retail space attached to their factory that sells their products at lower prices. It’s always worth looking at factory shops if you’re bargain minded.

The shop was pretty fancy and I was impressed. While my parents-in-law and I were fitting on numerous pairs of shoes, I couldn’t help but notice that the windows and doors of the shop opened out onto a lovely grassy courtyard. It was filled with rural African women sitting on benches singing, yakking and laughing as they skillfully hand stitched shoes. Wow. I was blown away. The entire setting and ambiance at Tsonga was moving. Serene, friendly, productive, and professional. A highly unusual set-up for any production line.

Tsonga Employees at Work

There is a lot of poverty in the rural areas of South Africa. Basic needs, such as housing, food, healthcare and education, are scarce and heart breakingly below par. In the light of these socio-economic conditions, the Tsonga story is especially heartwarming because the brand was established to empower women in the nearby rural village by creating jobs:

“Using their meticulous skills, a community of women are uplifting themselves by crafting Tsonga shoes, turning their abilities into a real future for their children. They are not only stitching a spirit of our African heritage, but the very essence of hope into each Tsonga shoe they sew”.

Making of a Thong SandalThong Sandals

Back in the shop, my eye caught a pair of creamy, bone-coloured driving shoes, or loafers. They fit perfectly, provide ample support and are as soft as my slippers. Very classic, flat and not everyone’s cup of tea, but they’ll make an excellent pair of transitional weather shoes that can be worn with or without socks. These shoes are about the colour, not the design. They weren’t nearly as appealing in black or brown, but the red was cute too.

Don’t write them off quite yet if you think the style is too classic for your tastes.  Loafers can be worn with spunk if the rest of the ensemble is right, and next month I will write a post on how to make traditional shoes look hip.

New Loafers

Like most comfort shoe brands, Tsonga peds are not fashion forward, but they are superbly made and extremely comfortable. I was never drawn to the ultra classic and somewhat casual styles the brand offers in retail America, but with the best selection on home ground, I was able to support the Tsonga cause and bring home a pair that I love (and have already put through their paces).

Making the Purchase

You can read more online about the current facts and future plans of the Tsonga Thread of Hope Farm. In addition to hand crafted shoes, Tsonga grows fruit and vegetables for the children of the community day care center and has plans to construct a training college. A thread of hope indeed. Watch out for the Tsonga brand when you next shop for shoes and try on a pair of their peds. They might not be fashion forward, but your foot will love the way they feel while your heart remembers the Tsonga story.