Wearing White to a Wedding: Taboo or Acceptable

I am often asked whether wearing white to a wedding is still taboo, since at Western weddings, most brides wear a shade of white. And wearing white as a wedding guest is thought of as “upstaging the bride”, taking away her limelight, and being disrespectful. 

In my experience, this aspect of wedding guest dress code etiquette has relaxed a bit over the years. I usually suggest that wearing a white dress or suit to a Western wedding where the bride will wear white is probably not the best idea – just to be on the safe side. But wearing a white separate like a skirt, top, or jacket with a non-white support act is acceptable, as is wearing white shoes and accessories. As long as you’re not wearing white from head to toe, you’ll be fine. I’ve worn a white shirt and accessories to weddings, and as far as I know, it was not frowned upon at all.  

I believe that wearing white to a non-Western wedding is not a problem because the brides themselves don’t usually wear white. But let me know if I’m wrong about that. I’ve also once dressed a client for a Western wedding in which the guests were requested to wear all-white. Fancy that! 

What’s your take on wearing white to a wedding when you’re not the bride? Is the “rule” dated? Is it a regional thing? Should you stay away from any and all white items in order to avoid creating offence, or is wearing a white separate, accessory or shoe perfectly acceptable?

Fab Finds: Tunic Tops Over Shorts With Sandals

This outfit combination puts this morning’s post on de-bombshelling shorts into action. Some of the items are on sale, and be sure to look through all colour options. 

The intention is to wear the tunics with the shorts and sandals, which is a fresh look for Summer. But by all means mix and match them with other separates that are more to your liking.

Karen Kane Handkerchief TopBCBGMAXAZRIA Mazie Tunic TopKUT from the Kloth Catherine Boyfriend ShortMiz Mooz Papa Sandal

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De-bombshell Shorts with Big Tops

This is similar to de-bombshelling a pencil skirt. Wear untucked oversized tops with length over shorts and take out “the sexy”, but look just as alluring. By showcasing a fair amount of leg, forearms or the entire arm, and some collarbone, you also add structure back into the outfit. 

The pictures below showcase de-bombshelled shorts perfectly. Choose roomy classic soft blouses or shirts, perhaps with a high-low hemline. Peasant blouses, oversized silky tees, big tees and bohemian tops with bat wings will also work. And although untucked tops are the way to go, the last photo shows a semi-tucked tunic that covers the shorts at the back. A nice effect.

The shorts here are quite short, but by all means sport lengths that are several inches longer in both denim and non-denim fabrications. But don’t go too long if the shorts are baggy. Opt for a sleeker shorts silhouette or clamdiggers if you’re doing a length on or below the knee.

With baggy shorts below the knee, you’ll probably need to add more structure on top, which is a topic for another day. 

As for the footwear, the world is your oyster. Wear dressy heeled sandals, flat gladiators, booties, pumps, slipper flats, sandal booties, peep toes or thong sandals, depending on whether you want to dress the look up or down.

Finally, a de-bombshelled shorts look straight off the street for further inspiration.  

So who’s going to de-bombshell their shorts? Go on Team Legs! And if you don’t like it for your own style, can you appreciate the look on someone else?

HATCH The Button Down ShirtWillow Illusion TeeJoie Pinot Top

ASOS Shirt With Embellished Collar And Dip Dye

Olive& Oak Jacket, Bellatrix Top and J Brand ShortsFree People Tee & ShortsFree People Tunic, Bandeau & Denim Cutoff Shorts

Zara Stones Embroidered ShortsMango Mini Sequins Shorts

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Roundups

Simpler Items

This week's list of top picks list is about basic pieces.

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Assorted Items

Items for Summer, both in and out of air conditioning.

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Casual Summer Vibes

This week's top picks are good for a casual Summer vibe.

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Summery Earth Tones

These items are for those who like to wear casual earth tones in warm and hot weather.

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Hints of Spring

Some tried-and-tested winning items to refresh your style for Spring.

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Dressier Items

An assortment of dressier top picks might be just what the doctor ordered.

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The Power of Classic Items in Modern Style

I previously wrote about the power of classic wardrobe pieces, and now more than ever want to shout this from the rooftops. Their versatility knows no bounds. Classic pieces can be molded and worked into any style, and therein lies their power. 

There is no need to wear classics from head to toe if that’s not your thing. Wear them with hot-off-the-press trends. Ground fashion forward ensembles with classic items. Add crisp classics to a bohemian, arty or avant-garde outfit. In fact, here’s my bold statement of the month: whenever you’re stuck about what to match with a particular item, reach for the classic piece because more often than not, it’s going to work. 

This list is by no means exhaustive, but the following items, when worn in tailored or loosely tailored fits, are true classics:

  • Tops: button-down shirt, soft button-down blouse, denim shirt, silk shell top, lace shell top, plaid shirt, layering T-shirt, striped T-shirt
  • Dresses: sheath dress, wrap dress
  • Knitwear: striped pullover, fitted turtleneck, V-neck/crew neck pullover or cardigan
  • Bottoms: knee-length pencil skirt, bootcut trousers and jeans, straight leg jeans
  • Toppers: denim jacket, moto jacket, trench coat, peacoat, double breasted military coat, single breasted coat with revere collar, simple blazer with one or two buttons, cropped tweed Chanel jacket, tuxedo jacket
  • Footwear: riding boots, cowboy boots, Frye harness boots, pointy or round toe pumps, the original Dr. Martens Boot, Converse sneakers, ballet flats, loafers
  • Accessories: stud or hoop earrings, pearl necklaces, Chanel 2.55 handbag, Rayban Wayfarers, Rayban Aviators, animal print belt

Street style visuals speak louder than my words, so do look through these outfits on my Pinterest boards. You’ll see the classics incorporated with all sorts of trends, resulting in a thoroughly modern and interesting look.  

I also have an entire pinboard devoted to how the iconic Chanel 2.55 handbag is worn with just about anything. From the dressiest outfits to micro minis, sneakers, sweatshirts and jeans. 

The trick to keeping the classics looking modern and fresh is to update their silhouettes, wear them with trendy/arty/avant-garde pieces, and in non-neutrals. You don’t need to satisfy all three criteria at once, but it’s certainly a possibility. 

So here I am again, sticking up for the incomparable power of the classic piece. It is not my intention to convert you to a classic style. The point is that the classics can be transformed and integrated into YOUR look when mixed and matched YOUR way. For that reason they are powerful and have my unconditional respect.

Link Love: A Different Perspective on Beauty Products

E and M have been reviewing beauty products at Facegoop for a couple of years now… in their own inimitable, irreverent and hilarious way. Now they have been chosen to be part of The Guardian’s fashion bloggers network. Watch that space!

A recent poll carried out by online beauty retailer Feel Unique revealed that women spend £248 (about $383) per year replacing lost makeup items. Feel Unique sees a new business opportunity here: they are going to talk to insurance providers about creating a stand-alone makeup bag insurance policy for women. Would you be up for that?

This week The Telegraph reported that some leading manufacturers are misleading the public with their labelling, and that chemicals have been found in ‘organic’ beauty products. In a follow-up article beauty editor Katy Young writes about the real do’s and don’ts of shopping for green beauty.

Fab Links from Our Members

Although “Clothing Fit: Dealing with Weight Loss and Gain” was written with menswear in mind, Elle points out that it contains universal, useful tips on the subject.

Deborah picked up some great tips from Garance Doré’s blog post on “7 Ways To Look Better in Photos“.

This exercise over at My Year Without Clothes Shopping really helped Vildy hone her style, by approaching it indirectly. Working out the second part of the answer, the “why”, was especially useful.

Charmian enjoyed skimming Free2Work’s thorough report on various apparel brands’ attempts (or lack thereof) to address labour issues in their production lines.

Behold: the most beautifully packed suitcase in the world over at Park & Cube. Angie and I were both beyond impressed.

Bj1111 recommends this post on The Vivienne Files about buying for a fantasy life, while this quote on showing up really resonated with her too.

Last but not least Bj1111 also wanted to share L’age Moyen’s musings on “Women at their most subversive“. She could see Angie wearing the outfit in the first photo, by the way.