When to Stop Wearing a Bikini

sarah

So interesting, Angie. I don’t really know why, but I thought that your take would be different on this issue. Perhaps your attitude stems from your European background (it seems that Europeans is much more accepting of skin on the beach than we Americans are). Anyway, I don’t really judge other people with respect to whether they wear a bikini or not. However, I judge *myself* very harshly, and have never owned a bikini in my life – until this year! I don’t know why – maybe it’s a mid-life crisis or the fact that 50 is around the corner, but I decided this year that it’s now or never as far as bikinis are concerned, and I purchased one on sale late last fall. I have been thinking that I need to lose 3 more pounds before I bear my belly to the world and actually don the thing, but after reading this post, I’m thinking that maybe I should just go for it! (in the relative privacy of the cabin dock…).

May 31, 2011 at 4:45 am

Polly (thunalata)

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How interesting! You have a very life-affirming point of view on this.

For myself I have never worn a bikini – I was always uncomfortable showing that much of myself. Also, as a practical person and (at times) a keen swimmer I only ever had my speedo one piece! And I don’t spend time on beaches really or sunbathing.

These days I have a slightly more stylish one piece that still suits my practical side.

I am not sure I mind very much what other people wear. It’s always nice to see people looking stylish, of course. I think the thing that really upsets me more than what they’re wearing is people who spend too long in the sun without adequate protection and are clearly sunburnt! Very upsetting! Thanks for making me think about this.

May 31, 2011 at 4:51 am

Laura

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We were at the pool yesterday (along with about one million other people in a sudden 90-degree heat wave), so I feel up-to-date on this issue. Lots of moms in their 30s and 40s were wearing bikinis – I’d say it was a 50-50 split between bikini and one-piece suits. I’m always amazed at how good the moms look!

While I am happiest in a one-piece and haven’t worn a bikini since I was in my early 30s, hats off to those who do.

May 31, 2011 at 5:08 am

Anya

This is intresting. As an Euro girl, i had never much option. Everyone wears bikinis, even the middle-aged womans. I have a one piece I use for swiming, and my whole family would get annoyed when I wore it. They were like “You’re so young to look like a grandma” and “Let that poor skin of yours breathe a litle”, “You need to see some sun” , etc etc.

May 31, 2011 at 5:10 am

Cynthia

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I’ve never worn bikinis, but then, maybe that’s because I’m an American with a less-than-perfect body and when I was younger I always feared being judged. And also the ones I could get when I was younger, had I wanted to, were constructed in a way that didn’t seem like they would securely support and not randomly expose even my fairly modest C+ cup rack. I’m sort of tempted to try one now that they have all of these new bra-cup-sized suits. Basically, I think people in this country spend way too much time judging and scoring other people’s bodies and it’s kind of sad. Beaches in Europe seem like much happier and less judgmental places.

May 31, 2011 at 5:27 am

Irene

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Yeah, I’m with Anya here. One-piece swimsuits are not very common in Spain’s beaches/swimming pools. I don’t think I’ve ever seen my mum in a one-piece, and I’ve been going to the beach with her for 23 years. I used to wear a one-piece sometimes when I was a kid (I would have like a bikini, a bottom only and a one-piece) but when I grew up to be a teenager, not anymore. I think I personally don’t judge someone by how a bikini fits them. If I see a 50 year-old woman on the streets wearing a pair of short shorts that look horrible on her, well, I may wonder why on Earth she’s wearing those, but if she’s at the beach… you are not supposed to cover much of your skin at a beach, and she’s got the right to go too, so it’s not like she has many options left. It’s only a midriff, after all, no big deal. I’ve actually seen mature women doing top-less (in their 40s/50s) and it is perfectly fine, there’s nothing weird about that for me. It’s just, well, breasts, and I have them too

May 31, 2011 at 6:04 am

Diana

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Honestly, I don’t see that much difference between bikinis and one-pieces in terms of revealing or not revealing things, other than American cultural perception of bikinis as younger, fitter, etc. Yes, the one-piece covers your stomach but still reveals your shoulders, thighs, legs, the shape of your body etc. So yes, I think you should wear whatever you want – it’s the beach and everyone is in a bathing suit! If you are in your bikini and having fun/getting exercise/enjoying yourself, who cares what other people think? I think we are all self-conscious of our beach bodies when we first set foot on the beach, and then we get into enjoying ourselves and forget about our bodies.

The thing that bugs me (which may only happen in certain places like where I live, where not very many people have pools or yards to lie around in the sun in) is when people lie around in their bathing suits sunbathing in the park or other public, non swimming locations. I find that a little strange and offputting. In the town where I live, I have actually seen people in bikinis lying on the lawn in front of City Hall!

So I guess I’m saying that the appropriateness of bathing suit wearing in general is very very tied to environmental norms.

May 31, 2011 at 6:12 am

Ginger S

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I lived in England when I was a teenager and admired the older European women who dared to bare (not just bikinis, but topless) on the beaches in France and Spain. I was always afraid of others’ judgement as well. Now I’m one of those 40-something women and while I still wouldn’t wear a bikin for support reasons, I understand how they could stand it: they no longer cared so much about the judgement of others but only what they were doing. I don’t look that shapely in a tankini or one-piece either, so if I wanted a bikini and felt my breasts were supported, I don’t think it would make that much difference.

May 31, 2011 at 6:17 am

modgrl

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There’s no way I would subject beachgoers to my jiggles. But if you’ve got it, flaunt it. I don’t see any reason for an age limit to rockin’ a beautiful beach body.

May 31, 2011 at 6:26 am

anna

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I completely agree with you, Angie. Maybe because I am European but to me a bikini is appropriate beach wear regardless of age or body. You go to the beach to get some air, sun and water on that poor body of yours that has spent months under heavy winter clothing ….. why should that be restricted because of how your body looks ? But I also feel that a bikini top does not count as clothing anywhere else than pool / beach regardless of how young and fit you are. I do not like seeing girls in shorts and bikini tops walking around down town in warm weather.
As a side note I do Bikram Yoga ( hot yoga ) where the yoga gear you wear is very similar to a bikini, just a bit more covering ( the bottoms come down an inch or two on your legs, the top is like a sports bra ). This is also regardless of shape or age, it is just the appropriate apparel for hot yoga. It would be silly if you couldn’t do yoga because you did not feel like you could expose your skin.

May 31, 2011 at 6:29 am

cyan45

i think all ladies should enjoy wearing a bikini, regardless of ‘the rules’…(my years as a student taking figure drawing classes have taught me that confident body language can go the distance).

like others mentioned, i too am extremely harsh on myself, but have learned to slowly let it go and focus on flattering fit and details to detract attn from the not so attractive bits.

that said, i DO have a problem with improper fit, ie 1) tops too small that almost cause breasts to fall out and 2) bottoms too skimpy that it is just a stone’s throw away from a thong. some cellulite is ok (don’t most women have it?), but covering up some bum is much appreciated

then again, if she can rock a brazilian swimsuit, go for it! i will jealously admire from afar, lol.

strangely, if a lady is walking around a beach town or boardwalk WITHOUT a cover up, it drives me crazy! even if the sand/beach is just a few feet away, she has committed a breach of etiquette in my (albeit illogical) mind. this applies only of she is clearly done with enjoying the beach and is strolling around with sandals and a bag.
i’ve seen it while at the santa cruz, ca boardwalk on a hot, busy weekend. gah!

May 31, 2011 at 6:31 am

Fernanda

I’m with Anya and airin on this one. I’m from Brazil, and women here NEVER stop wearing bikinis. we simply don’t, no matter how old (or chubby) we are. wearing a one-piece is just not something you do. and bear in mind that bikinis here are way smaller than they are around the world. I have a Spanish bikini, for example, and I love it very much, but people sometimes tease me because it covers soo much of my butt: “hey, why are you wearing this ‘American’ bikini?”. I don’t care, of course, because I really like it, but be sure that a “huge” bikini calls much much more attention here than a 50- (or 60-) year-old wearing a small bikini. it’s just deeply rooted in our culture, I guess.

May 31, 2011 at 6:33 am

Clover

Yesssss! I agree that if it is within your personal comfort level to wear a bikini- go for it at any age. It feels great to be bare in the sun and sea without the extra fabric of a one piece or the floppiness of a soggy tankini top. Yay!

May 31, 2011 at 6:33 am

Joy

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I think it really depends on the situation and the suit. I’ve seen women who look like they are in their 80s on the beach in Florida in skimpy bikinis. They don’t look fab but it doesn’t bother me except maybe when they have hanging breasts that clearly need more support than the bikini top is giving them. Still, it’s great that they are that comfortable letting it all hang out.
On the other hand, our suburban neighborhood has a pool where families gather with children. When even a young, fit mother wears a skimpy bikini that she could never actually use for swimming and is chasing toddlers, doing lots of bending over…you get the picture…it seems in poor taste. She would look great on a boat at the lake or in her own backyard. Parents would just rather not have their pre-teen boys oogling her every move.

May 31, 2011 at 6:34 am

Sihaya

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I think this is totally a personal choice by the wearer. While I might consider some people sporting bikinis more in the eye sore zone, I might have a bigger problem with someone who wears leggings at pants (my favorite rant)! I don’t think age has anything to do with it. I bet Helen Mirren would look smashing in a bikini. For me personally, I have never felt comfortable wearing bikinis so I definitely don’t see myself attracted to them now

May 31, 2011 at 6:38 am

Kari

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I don’t really have any preference one way or the other about what other women decide to wear at the beach or while swimming, but I feel much more comfortable, confident, and sexy in a one-piece myself. I think I’d have to be significantly slimmer to feel okay in a two piece suit again.

This brings me back to a vacation where I visited some friends in Southern California and went to the beach. I think I was the only young woman there who was not slim, tan, toned, and in a bikini. Redheaded, pale, curvy, overweight, and in a (still somewhat skin baring but not bikini) one piece suit kind of stood out. I felt really self-conscious.

May 31, 2011 at 6:39 am

Lisa

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When someone walks past me with a less than perfect magazine ideal body in a bikini, I marvel and applaud their self confidence. The age of the person, or how fit they are doesn’t matter to me. In the heat and when going into the water, I think it’s more important to be comfortable. If someone else doesn’t like how that person looks in their swimsuit, they can always choose not to keep looking at them.

May 31, 2011 at 6:41 am

nicoleb

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I only own bikinis. I’m pretty sure my mom still wears bikinis. The only time i ever feel slightly uncomfortable is when i’ve taken my son to swimming lessons or something like that and i’m the only mom in a bikini and the other moms give me mean looks. So yes, lets not judge each other!!

May 31, 2011 at 6:47 am

Jonesy

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I agree 100% that people should feel free to be comfortable, enjoy the sun, and wear what they want, regardless of whether or not they look like swimsuit models. I think the judgment toward people, especially women, who don’t conform to some ridiculous body ideal (or are deemed “too old” to be at the beach in swimwear) is for the birds. It’s nice to hear that in other parts of the world there is less judgment.

May 31, 2011 at 7:03 am

suzanne

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Well said, Angie! I think that basically it’s fine to wear a bikini as long as you don’t cause offence. (E.g. I never wear bikini’s when my grandparents are on holiday with us AND I never wore a bikini in front of then boyfriend till I had him hooked… Then I let it rip

May 31, 2011 at 7:07 am

Patti @ NotDeadYet Style

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I’m smiling at Suzanne’s post — she was strategic with the boyfriend! : >
I’ve never been comfortable in bikinis, but I enjoy seeing a confident woman of any age, size or shape wear one at the beach. It’s a playful environment, and we don’t have to follow all the rules of “figure flattery”.

May 31, 2011 at 7:30 am

Emma B

I don’t see the point of covering up stomachs when arms and legs are still exposed, and overall body shape is perfectly visible. It’s not like skirt lengths and trouser shapes, where well-chosen clothing with more coverage can make you look thinner. If you are overweight, everyone will see anyway it no matter what type of swimsuit you wear. Wear what you like and find most flattering, no matter what size you are.

(This, by the way, is why I despise “slenderizing” swimsuits. They pinch you in funny places and create unflattering bulges around the edges, and they can’t do much for any body part except your stomach anyway.)

May 31, 2011 at 7:30 am

Angie

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Thanks for your fabulous thoughts and keep them coming! Very few people are tackling the pool and bikini question, though. Is there a difference? Thanks Joy, for your meaningful point of view on the subject.

Anya, I would like to think that you always have a choice

Diana, I also tend to prefer seeing a bathing costume covered up when away from the beach or pool.

Lisa, I guess people *can* look away!

Modgrl, I think you may have missed my point, which is “flaunt it when you don’t have it”, or at least, don’t have what we are led to believe that we should have to wear a bikini in public! What do you think?

Nicole, that’s a shame. You rock that bikini.

Kari, stay proud of your curvy body in a one piece the next time you are in Southern California!

Jonesy, I like your spunk.

Suzanne, that’s a great personal perspective. And thanks for making me chuckle this morning

Sarah, your actions 100% validate this post. And my perspective here is “very Euro”, because it’s how I was brought up (although for many reasons I prefer to wear a one piece).

May 31, 2011 at 7:49 am

Jenny M

The only time it bothers me is at kid’s swimming lessons. I’m all for bikinis at the beach, public pool – whatever, but seriously? At an indoor children’s swimming lesson? Just stop it.

May 31, 2011 at 7:51 am

Linda

I’ve never worn a bikini in my life because *I* don’t like the way I look in them (or even in a one-piece, for that matter), but I feel a person would have a lot of gall to be “offended” by the fact that someone *else* deemed not fit enough was wearing one. I’d be offended if someone wore a bikini to a wedding or funeral. To the beach or pool? No, that’s exactly what it’s for.

May 31, 2011 at 7:52 am

Susan

So happy to hear you say this. I am a 45 year old living in Germany…we go to the Freibad (pool) in our neighborhood weekly…and 85% (at least) of the women there (all ages/shapes/sizes) are wearing bikinis. European women definitely do NOT have all the body image issues we Americans do. My German friends regularly ask me why I *don’t* wear a bikini. Someday I will get over my American ‘perfect body’ hang ups…and it just might be this summer! I was looking at a bikini yesterday, as a matter of fact…

May 31, 2011 at 7:54 am

Queen Mum

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While I want to be on team “whatever floats your boat” I have to confess to being the one at the beach or pool thinking to myself “Good heavens, does she not own a mirror? How on earth does she possibly think anyone wants to see all that?” I think there is a fine line here between self-acceptance and self-respect. I’m not advocating that the only bikini clad gals be 21 and have super model bodies, but there is a line for me.. not sure where exactly the line is, but I know “over the line” when I see it.

May 31, 2011 at 7:57 am

rute

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Love the post! I had noticed already that women here are very conscious and avoid exposure, but for us is cultural, like in Brazil, women don’t mind wearing bikinis at the beach and very small ones… I see women of all different kinds of shapes wearing bikinis and that is normal for us!

May 31, 2011 at 8:00 am

Maya

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Once again the topic revolves around age when I think it should be more about body type. There are definitely 40 year olds who look better in a bikini than 20 year olds.

That said, I don’t care either way. Anyone who is “offended” by someone else’s body shouldn’t be on the beach anyway.

As others have mentioned, a one-piece bathing suit is hardly what I would call modest and covering. If you’re out of shape or overweight, you’ll still look that way in a one piece.

While swimwear can be cute and help a little bit with minor body “flaws,” it is primarily gear and should be understood that way.

I’m on Team Europe.

May 31, 2011 at 8:21 am

FancyMomma

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I started wearing bikins last year. I am not in the kind of shape may expect of a bikini wearer…but I am proud of my body and what it can do, and even how it looks! Also, as an F-cup gal, I find them far more supportive than one-peices or tankinis. Larger breasted ladies, I recommend you check if your favorite bra manufacturer makes Bikinis? If so, that is the way to go. My bikinis are like Bras…but prettier bikini worthy fabric! Panacheand Freya both make fabulous and supportive Bikinis for the larger bust!

May 31, 2011 at 8:28 am

Mo

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As someone who goes to the community pool twice a week in FL, where there are tons of retirees, I see all the older ladies in one pieces exclusively. Now, I’m talking 60 and 70+, not 40’s or 50’s. At 41, I wear a bikini unless I am only going to be doing laps and not sunning and reading a book between dips. Then I don my one piece lap suit. I might also add that the retirees wear very bright prints on their suits as well. Some of the younger moms will wear bikini’s but pretty much anyone older than me goes for the garish floral print, often with attached skirt.
As an aside, at a restaurant Sunday night the BF and I both commented on a customer who looked like she belonged at the beach – she was completely

May 31, 2011 at 8:30 am

Mo

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Inappropriated dressed for a steakhouse in a gauzey coverup and flipflops. Although the beach is 10 or 15 minutes away, there’s no reason to go out to eat in beach gear!

May 31, 2011 at 8:31 am

Aziraphale

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I would personally feel goofy wearing a bikini at a public INDOOR pool, but I absolutely wear one if it’s on a hot summer day at an OUTDOOR pool. I also wear a bikini top and board shorts/cropped pants all the time at the beach or water park during those hot days, and it seems perfectly appropriate. For the record, I’m 38. I’m not sure how I would feel about it if I were 58. I guess we’ll see.

As for what others choose to wear, I am not offended at all by seeing exposed flesh, whatever a woman’s age, at the beach. However, I think ALL women, regardless of age, look a bit silly wearing their teeny weeny bikinis at indoor pools. If it’s a tankini with more coverage, it’s fine. So I guess I’m with you on this one, Angie. The outdoor setting is key. I would add that sunshine is also key!

May 31, 2011 at 8:33 am

cloud9

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I agree with Angie on this one. In a nature setting, it’s totally appropriate. I’d wear one in a resort or places wear bikini is a norm.

For the urban public pools though, I myself would not wear a bikini because there is just too much skin exposure.. It’s not the same level as public beaches. You may run into other people, like kids from your kids’ school, parents from your kids’ school. Even if you have a hot bod, you don’t want the kids to ogle at you. If you are “over the line” as QM puts it, do you want the chance of you or your kids being made fun of? Seems to me a no-win situation. So, one piece for me.

May 31, 2011 at 8:36 am

DanaLynn

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What a refreshing post and such wonderful responses!!

I wish everyone was as accepting as the group here. The Beach would be a much happier place for everyone!

I agree with the majority, the beach is one place skin is just out there. People should wear what they are most comfortable in, regardless of age and shape.

I also think that public pools require a little more discretion. Especially if you’re taking swim lessons, doing water aerobics or such. A bikini just seems like inappropriate gear at that point. If they are comfortable though, that’s all that really matters.

May 31, 2011 at 8:43 am

Angie

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Actually Maya, I see this subject as a question of context – not about age or body type

Elisabeth, your thinking is always strong and insightful. Why do you think women look silly in string bikinis at public pools?

Mo, I prefer to see non-beach attire at nice restaurants too. The context is different – which is my point.

May 31, 2011 at 8:43 am

mrseccentric

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i feel people should wear a bikini or two-piecer as long as they want – in nature or in constructed public pools. i would draw the line at thong bottoms in a public pool setting, for anyone at any age. it’s all about enjoying the day and being comfortable in your skin, and grown up people realize that in real life not everyone looks like a photo-shopped supermodel. if people don’t want to check out my cellulite and varicose veins they don’t have to i must admit, that’s part of the ‘no more bikinis at age XX’ argument that makes no sense at all to me – my thighs are what the ‘body police’ think i should cover up. so now i’m supposed to be covered from knee to neck to swim? it’s ridiculous.

and it’s not like suddenly at age, let’s say 55, your top and bottom halves magically become the same dress size. There are many people who cannot find a properly-fitting one piece suit, myself included. Theoretically i suppose i could find some suit, somewhere, at some ‘price point’, that fits, or i could get one altered……but the point is to get out there and enjoy life, not spend the rest of it shopping for a swimsuit! steph

May 31, 2011 at 8:52 am

Lauren

It all has to do with comfort. I’m 32 and haven’t worn a regular bikini in YEARS. I have stretch marks and a soft tummy because I’m a mother. I look much better in a one piece (or tankini). I simply wouldn’t have fun in a bikini because I’d be self-conscious.

May 31, 2011 at 8:53 am

saretta

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Well, I live in Italy and the bikini is the norm. It’s really too hot for a one-piece at the beach in the summer and, as others have mentioned, it’s culturally kind of odd. No other women of most any other age are wearing one-pieces, no matter what their size or physical condition.

As for indoor pools, I only go there to swim laps or do acqua-gym and a bikini is not as comfortable for those activities, so I have always opted for a one-piece there, as do most of the other women I have seen.

I do deeply regret the body issues that seem to limit so many American women from wearing a bikini. If you don’t like them, fine, but why should anyone feel they are not fit or young enough? It seems like such a pity.

That said, I have noticed that I get an excess of male leering when wearing my bikinis in the US…and I am a flat-chested pear, so it’s not like I’m a Victoria’s model candidate in my two-piece suit! Do the men act that way because few women are wearing bikinis, so they aren’t used to seeing the female body? Or do women not wear bikinis in part to avoid being leered at? Anyone else have an opinion on that?

May 31, 2011 at 8:59 am

malcontent

Diana, I agree that a one-piece is plenty revealing as well. Almost all bathing suits are tight and brief, and a one-piece only seems modest in context. Bikinis, however, used to be made with very little bust coverage or support, and that is why I have generally avoided them. I might give them another chance now that bra-cup sized bikinis are available, but I’m still leery. Something about putting on a bikini makes me extra critical of my body.

As far as others, I don’t judge who wears a bikini. In fact, I like it when I see women who are a bit curvier or older or heavier wearing a bikini because then it doesn’t seem so much like a garment only for skinny teens. What I dislike though, are extremely trashy bikinis (or one-pieces) such as those with thong backsides. I’m not offended on a nude beach, but I do think it’s gross to go to a place where families and children are swimming and try to draw attention to one’s leathery tanned buttocks. Blech.

May 31, 2011 at 8:59 am

Sammi

In my opinion anywhere a swim suit is appropriate a bikini is totally fine. I think a swim suit should allow you to be active and women should consider their comfort rather than feel pressure to look a certain way.

May 31, 2011 at 9:00 am

Janet

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Yay! I say when it comes to swimsuits, as long as the privates are covered, wear what’s comfortable for you in the given situation. I’m 45 and do not have what the celebrity tabloids would call a “bikini body” but I will rock a bikini when I’m in a place where they are the norm (for instance, last month when we vacationed in Mexico, where barely a one-piece was to be seen at our resort). Then I’ll wear a one-piece when I’m in places where it’s more typical to be a little more covered up. And I have practical suits for lap swimming. As Angie said, it’s all about context.

Here’s the thing about whether or not you “got it” to flaunt it. It’s subjective, isn’t it? By celebrity standards, I do not have a killer bod, but my husband thinks it’s pretty awesome. Not everyone in the world believes you have to be a size 2 with big boobs and no hips to look great in a swimsuit, regardless of what Victoria’s Secret ads would lead us to believe.

May 31, 2011 at 9:09 am

malcontent

About pools versus natural settings, I swim in both, and where I live, bikinis are preferred in both settings. I don’t find them inappropriate except in a lap-type pool, as I do not think they are practical for much besides lounging and splashing. I do agree that there should be a little more leeway to bare skin at a natural setting than at the neighborhood pool. However, I suppose I’m not bothered by bikinis at the pool except when they are, as I said above, trashy, or if they simply do not fit the woman wearing it. A lot of women wearing bathing suits that seem too small of them, and that’s not a flattering look.

May 31, 2011 at 9:10 am

Meredith2

Thanks for this post Angie. I guess I think that women should wear whatever makes them feel their best. If they feel more comfortable covering up in a one piece or a tankini then they’ll be more confident and have more fun, which is the goal of the beach or the pool! But I’m glad to hear the support for the European attitude because I like to wear bikinis but feared that maybe at 46 I should start thinking about converting to the one piece.

Pool vs. Beach – Angie, I’m a bit torn on that. At the neighborhood pool, you’ll be more likely to see people you know for better or worse, but ultimately I have to go back to the rule of whatever makes you feel the most confident is what you should wear.

May 31, 2011 at 9:10 am

Antje

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Angie, I was so happy to read this entry! When I saw the headline, I braced myself a little bit, because to be honest I expected you’d make a case against wearing bikinis. And then I was pleasantly suprised So after this preamble, it should not be suprising when I say that I am pro bikini, at any age and actually at any body type. To me this is a very cultural issue. I grew up in Germany and spent my summer vacations in France, Italy, Spain, Portugal, all countries where bikinis are extremely common (and in many places, especially in Germany and France, so is topless sunbathing). It was never a question of whether a woman has the body or is at the right age.

When I moved to the US, I found things to be very different. Not only are bikinis rare here once a woman turns about 30, many women go beyond the bathing suit to “cover up”, e.g. by wearing swim skirts, shorts etc. And I know I’ve been affected by this as well, and now will only buy bathing suits. I remember one visit in Germany a few years ago, where I went to a friend’s house on a hot summer day to lounge in her backyard, and she opened the door to me in a bikini. Our other female friend was in a bikini too. And there I was, changing into my black bathing suit that I had chosen because of its slimming and shaping cut. It was definitely a culture clash. That afternoon, I wished for a bikini so the sun could shine on my belly, but I also knew I would not wear it once back in Seattle. What a bummer to be so influenced by cultural norms!

Okay, huge digression and personal story, sorry. To sum this up, I’m totally pro bikini and laud of countries/cultures where women don’t feel so self-conscious of their bodies at the beach, but as part of the American culture I personally choose bathing suits as well and have since about my mid thirties…

May 31, 2011 at 9:37 am

Kate

Interesting question, I’ve never really thought of a bikini being any more or less appropriate at a beach vs. a pool. I guess maybe at an indoor pool it might seem out of place because there isn’t any sun to lie out in. Looks like my answer is “no, it doesn’t matter if you are at the beach vs. a pool.”

May 31, 2011 at 9:51 am

Anne (mrsanniep)

I can sum up my “just because you can doesn’t mean you should” argument about bikinis in two words: Donatella Versace.

May 31, 2011 at 9:55 am

Girl X

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I’m totally pro bikinis at any age – because to me the question is like asking if someone can be too old or too out of shape to enjoy a nude or topless beach. Nude beaches aren’t just for young nubile vixens – and frankly, you rarely find them there! So why should bikinis follow different rules? I think the question of appropriateness is more situational, like at a family pool or similar area. And then it isn’t really about bikinis, but about being too provocative. There are some one piece suits that are far more provocative than a boyshort/balconette bikini.

May 31, 2011 at 9:59 am

Lisa

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Well, I have to say I lean more towards Queen Mum’s comments. I don’t think there should be any age limit to a bikini. Good for you if you are in great shape and more so if you are older. Look at Demi Moore. . .I would kill to be in shape like that and may then be inspired to wear a bikini everywhere:)

My issue is when people stomach’s are hanging over their bottoms. I do think a one piece is more attractive for that problem area. I am critical about my shape and try to choose clothes (including swimsuits) that are flattering for me. I always find it interesting when others don’t seem to care. If you are from a culture that would make you look outside the norm if you went with a one-piece then it makes more sense to fit in with those around you.

I do wear my one-pieces at my family’s private pool and choose something less revealing for a water park or beach. I love bikinis for two reasons – 1) they are cuter, 2) you get better overall sun coverage.

May 31, 2011 at 10:10 am

renee

Bikinis at the beach or lake. I don’t care what I look like though I think I look pretty damn good. When I was in Cuba, I only took bikinis and spent the day just hanging out in them. I had a bikini with more material and a few with less and funnily enough I ended up wearing the tinier bikinis the entire time.

I do have a one-piece that I wear to pool parties or when I use the pool in my condo. I don’t know – those places just seem more formal.

May 31, 2011 at 11:05 am

Queen Mum

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I’ve been pondering my thoughts and response to this all morning..and I guess it boils down to the fact that I’m on “team attractive/flattering” for pretty much any situation.
I know that attractiveness is completely subjective and relative to the activity on hand, but I *try* to dress attractively and flatteringly regardless of where I am.. at the gym, at home, sleeping, at the beach or pool, etc. Granted, I’ll never win a beauty contest at the gym, or in my sleepwear, but there is no reason to have to look in the mirror and not feel like what I am wearing is at least remotely flattering. That is why I scratch my head when I see gals in swimsuits that are just not doing them any favors whatsoever. I agree, they have a right to wear what they want and I need to not judge them for it…………….. but then again, why are we all here (at YLF) seeking to improve our style and appearance if that is the case? I have tons of conflicting thoughts running through my head, but I really need to clean my kitchen (because there is nothing attractive about it at the moment

May 31, 2011 at 11:07 am

marianna

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I feel immodest even in a one-piece, so my opinion might be skewed, but I’ve always felt that bikinis were sort of odd — like wearing your undergarments outside. How many of us would feel comfortable walking around in our bra and underwear outdoors? A bikini seems like the same thing to me…

So while I don’t judge those who wear bikinis, I think one piece suits are much more elegant and flattering, for all body types, and all ages. I don’t judge those who wear bikinis (because most people do!) but I never quite understood the attraction to showing so much skin in public. I agree that wearing a bikini is much more appropriate at the beach/lake/natural setting than at a man-made swimming area. Especially if you’re around kids, wearing a bikini just seems really inappropriate to me — regardless of age or body type. Showing that much skin seems unnecessary.

May 31, 2011 at 11:11 am

Bianca

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Such a good topic. I will come back later on, to see what more have said. Funny b/c I was just about to order another bikini for myself. I am 36 and have two kids. My bod isn’t perfect, and my midsection is well….stretched! But I will sport a flattering bikini. For me, I would say ok for public pool and beach. Where I get a little weird is with my husband’s side of the family or with teenage boys I know will be in the area. That is when I go in my one piece. But if its just me and my kids (most of the time it its) I’m fine wearing a figure flattering bikini…..ps Land’s end has some great ones!

May 31, 2011 at 11:26 am

KristineK

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I’ve never thought that there was some arbitrary age cut-off after which women shouldn’t wear bikinis. Hey, I figure if middle-aged and elderly men can still wander around in their Speedos, why should women restrict themselves to matronly one-pieces?

The single issue I have with bikinis is that so often you see women wearing bikini tops that just do not provide adequate support and threaten imminent wardrobe malfunction of the Janet Jackson variety. Sometime it puts me in mind of those folks you see on the freeway with poorly-secured mattresses atop their vehicles — I worry that something will give way, and havoc will ensue.

May 31, 2011 at 11:35 am

RoseandJoan

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Well Mrs. Cox you just opened a rather large can of worms It is such an interesting topic and I have been thinking about this for some time before posting a reply.

I honestly believe it is important for a woman to have the opportunity to leave her body hang ups at home when enjoying time at the beach regardless of her age or body shape. Having said that I also believe an element of age appropriate dressing is evident amongst the bikini wearers for I rarely see a mature lady wearing the type of string bikini favoured by the twenty year olds.

Outdoor pools and parks are a man made recreation of nature and that reason I personally believe the same rules apply.

It has become evident after reading the responses that my attitude to dressing for the beach is European. I believe it is human nature for a teenage boy to ogle an attractive female regardless of her attire, is it not simply a part of growing up? Plus a toddler or small child has only a healthy curiosity of the human body and feels no shame being naked. therefore I see no problem with a lady accompanying a small child on a swimming lesson whilst wearing a bikini.

Out of curiosity did anyone see the results of the small study published last week which claimed the agreed age for a women to stop wearing a bikini is 47 and the age to stop wearing a one piece is 61, what then? The mind boggles.

May 31, 2011 at 11:37 am

mamark

While I myself don’t wear bikinis, I am not offended when other non-hardbody women wear them.

I recall being invited to a pool party thrown by a manager at my first job. I was horrified. I didn’t go. But I do remember one woman in the office saying that is was far more conspicuous to spend all day in a giant cover-up than it was to just wear the bathing suit and jump in the pool. I’ve tried to heed her words at social gatherings since.

However, I still feel bathing suits and work shouldn’t mix!

May 31, 2011 at 11:42 am

mamark

p.s. You know all the magazines at the grocery store checkout lines screaming “BEST AND WORST BIKINI BODIES”?

Those do not help.

Thank you.

May 31, 2011 at 11:49 am

Marigold

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Very interesting topic! I’m European too and the only time I had a one-piece suit, was for swimming classes back at the elementary school (‘uniform’ suit). Growing up, I spent a lot of time at the swimming pools and at the seaside, and most of the women wore bikinis. To this day, I don’t own a one-piece suit, when I feel the need of more coverage (swimming pool with kid, water park), I wear a skirted bottom and a more supportive top, just because I’m more active and don’t want to risk any malfunctions. But at the beach, always a bikini, to me it’s very natural, no matter if you are older, younger, more chubby or rail-thin. I used to go to nude beaches, too, that’s another level of being comfortable in your own body! However, I’d not put a bikini type swimsuit on my toddler daughter. Naked children (or babies/toddlers only in diapers) are very common sight at the beaches in my country, I think that’s wrong though. Swimtrunks for boys and swimsuits for girls, I use a tank top tankini on her or a short sleeve rash guard and bottoms…

May 31, 2011 at 11:52 am

Fernanda

Angie, re: the pool and bikini question: no, I don’t feel like there is a difference here in Brazil. since I live far from the beach (100 km the nearest), I usually go to a private club’s swimming pool for most of the summer, and I don’t see any difference from what people wear there and by the sea.

May 31, 2011 at 12:02 pm

Aziraphale

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I’ll try to answer your question, “Why do you think women look silly in string bikinis at public pools?” It seems to me that woman wears a bikini for up to three reasons: (a) to be comfortable when she gets out of the water, because a minimal amount of wet fabric is clinging to her; (b) to get a tan on her midsection; and (c) to show off her figure. At the beach or an outdoor pool, the first two reasons seem perfectly, well, reasonable, and the third is fine, too, if it’s added bonus to the first two. And if her belly is less than fabulous, but she doesn’t care and is willing to bare it to be comfortable, then all the power to her.

However, at an indoor pool, the ONLY reason you are wearing a bikini is the third reason. You don’t hang out on a towel and sunbathe at an indoor pool. You stay in the water an do laps, or aquafit, or play with your kids. When you get out, you go shower and put your clothes back on.

So, if you’re at an indoor pool and you have a knockout body (regardless of your age), then it just looks like you’re showing off, and not in a good way. It’s an ostentatious show of vanity. If your figure leaves a lot to be desired, you look like you have questionable judgment (or possibly poor eyesight). No one looks stylish when they are inappropriately dressed for an occasion!

There is one exception. I’d give a by-the-skin-of-your-teeth pass to young girls (teenagers) in their bikinis at indoor pools. They’re supposed to have questionable judgment anyway, and we’re all expecting them to be showing off for the boys. Plus, they have smooth, taut belly skin in their favour.

May 31, 2011 at 12:26 pm

RoseandJoan

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At my local indoor pool most people wear a towel wrapped around them and then leave it by the side of the pool as they slip into the water. Once in the water does anyone really notice what you are wearing?

May 31, 2011 at 12:31 pm

Cheryl

Angie, I’m so happy to read your post. I just ordered a bikini from JCrew and can’t wait to get it. I’m 41 and not at all the slim size 6 I once was, but I don’t care, for the last few years I’ve been wearing the ‘mom’ suits, and I’ve decided they make me feel worse about myself, not better. Whenever I go to a beach, it never fails, I expect to see the beach filled with beautiful figures, and the reality is (whether it’s beaches in Greece, down south or here in Canada), that’s far from reality. So I am just going to be happy that I’m healthy and (somewhat) fit and wear what I like. Life is too short for the collosall waste of emotional energy that goes into this sort of thing. My 5 year old daughter flaunts around in her two piece bikinis, not at all thinking about anything but having fun – she’s my hero!

May 31, 2011 at 12:37 pm

Aziraphale

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RoseandJoan: yes, they do. Or at least, I do.

May 31, 2011 at 12:49 pm

nancylee

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Having grown up in the U.S. I’m not accustomed to seeing older women in bikinis, but I have always LOVED how European women wear them regardless of age or size. It actually makes me ridiculously happy to see an older or heavier women proudly wearing a bikini, and it really starts me pondering on why I won’t wear one when I’m in pretty good shape for my age. Hmmm.

I’m 49 and I never wear a bikini here in the states (except for on my honeymoon when I was MUCH younger and on a family trip to Hawaii a few years ago). I guess I’m too worried about what other people will say/think. But I’ll definitely wear one when I’m in Europe since it’s more the norm.

May 31, 2011 at 1:02 pm

Patty

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It’s an interesting thought–a difference between pool and nature. I never thought of it like that. And– weirdly I know–I never really thought of needing to own more than one bathing suit–kids yeah but not adults. Generally tho I am pro bikini for the masses but am glad there is choice for other suits. I still remember my Mom in a bikinia hero in my mind!
My stomach however, is rouched like the curtains in a hearse so I won’t be bikini-ing anytime soon–and that’s just the way it is!!

May 31, 2011 at 1:26 pm

san

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This has been a very interesting read.
I keep flip flopping on what my reply will be. I am naturally a people watcher so in my mind I do sum up what people look like in any kind of swim suit. I also think a woman should wear what ever she feels comfortable in. I love the Euro attitude on this subject which seems very healthy and I would love to clear my mind of the body image issues I have. I wonder do people not judge each other on European beaches like we seem to here in the U.S.?
Even though I believe that women should wear what is comfortable for them, I must admit that I feel a thong bikini is just wrong.

May 31, 2011 at 1:45 pm

Eva

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Beach, pool, indoors or out, I think it is fine to wear a bikini (or a one piece, if you prefer). In Hawaii, where I grew up, bikini wearers come in all shapes, ages, and sizes. The pools are usually near the beach, so why would you change what you wear? The public pool went to was full of bikinis.

I saw a short piece on a style show about bathing suits that flatter your figure and I was DELIGHTED that the models were normal women with curves and a bit of weight (not your Sports Illustrated models) wearing bikinis and looking lovely.

May 31, 2011 at 1:53 pm

Inge

San: I expect a bit of judgement or comparison is inevitable, but that doesn’t stop women of all ages wearing bikinis here, and I quite like it like that:-)

It’s funny though: I absolutely do not mind bikinis on women of any age or shape, probably because I’ve been used to seeing this ever since I was a toddler (both on the beach and public pools), yet I would now feel self-conscious sporting one myself. Talking about setting a double standard for myself, right!

May 31, 2011 at 1:55 pm

NK

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Having gone to a water park yesterday, the visuals are all still fresh in my mind. I don’t think the issue for me is the age or size of a woman in her swimsuit, but the fit and what she chooses to reveal. I usually wear shorts or a skirted suit, which is matronly, but at least the memory of my pasty, lumpy thighs isn’t burned into someone’s brain. Sadly, the visual of a woman’s sagging overexposed breasts is burned into mine.

A lifeguard friend of mine assured me that no one really looks great in a swimsuit and I’m starting to think she’s right. I’ve seen maybe a handful of people over the years that I would consider to have that ideal ‘bikini body’ that we’re all promised in magazines, but honestly, that’s it.

So I guess, like shoes, if the bikini fits, wear it.

May 31, 2011 at 2:16 pm

maryeb

Adding my 2cents. I think women should wear whatever they like. I don’t waste my time judging someone’s clothing choice. It’s enough for me to just think about what I want to wear.

May 31, 2011 at 3:26 pm

Anh

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I’m in my mid thirties and I’ve always worn a two piece and it’s not because I want to flaunt my body. I’ve been married for a long time now so I’m not looking to impress nobody. Nowadays, I find both two pieces and one pieces suits very stylish and I would wear either one. The only reason why I wear a two piece is simple, more practical for tanning. I love to tan, just not on my face too much. But have no fear, I wear Ombrelle all the time.

As for if I think women in general should wear a bikini no matter their age and body types, I don’t mind at all. It’s a personal choice and I’m not there to stare at anyone.

May 31, 2011 at 3:26 pm

Gina

The whole concept of “bikini ready” irritates me. It loads judgement on women, and is intended to make us afraid of our size and shape. The very term was invented by magazines, which first undermine us and then offer the “bikini ready” diet and exercise plan. Its a phrase designed to sell magazines, and it is imaginary, ladies. There is no magic number or dress size, and you do not need a licence to sit on a beach!

Instead of being ‘bikini ready” (whatever that MEANS anyway), lets work on being bikini CONFIDENT. Get our heads right first ladies, then worry about our booties!

May 31, 2011 at 4:02 pm

Gina

I just scrolled up and saw elisabeth’s comment. Elisabeth there are many other reasons why women wear bikinis to public pools. For example, because we dont go to public pools enough to warrant buying a special swimsuit! Or (even more importantly) because a one piece is just not our style.

Style is not just about conforming to other people’s view of what is attractive. It is about knowing what pleases our own aesthetic sense. Knowing who WE are and expressing it. And if a bikini is your style, if it pleases you, then wear it girlfriend! And I’ll be in the pool giving you high 5s!

Thanks for bringing this topic up, and thanks for your perspective Elisabeth, it really made me think.

May 31, 2011 at 4:12 pm

Nadine

I will wear a modest boyleg bikini at an indoor pool (even though I am NOT a fan of my stretch marks!). I will always cover up with a rash vest over the bikini when I am outside (ie beach or outdoor pool), because I live in New Zealand and if I don’t I will BURN.

May 31, 2011 at 4:16 pm

Kyle

Last year, at 49, I wore a bikini and a one piece when we vacationed in Hawaii. The earth did not spin off of its axis, and no one ran away screaming in horror. It’s odd, because I’m overly self critical and never really satisfied, but I do work hard to diet and exercise, and while I may indeed look better or more appropriate in a one piece, sometimes I choose to wear a modest two piece, and I’m perfectly OK with it. My body. My vacation. My choice.

I feel differently when it comes to my everyday clothing choices and will definitely avoid certain things based mainly on my age.

I like your post and your perspective, Angie. Thank you.

May 31, 2011 at 7:06 pm

rosee

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I’m of southern European background, so I am quite used to seeing bikinis on women of all shapes and sizes. The Canadian that I am, I tend to be more covered up when visiting there.
IMO (just opinion), I think bikinis are fine on the beach, and 1-pieces are more appropriate for the pool, especially indoor pools. That said, some bikinis are actually LESS revealing than some 1-pieces (especially with cut-outs and stuff). I agree with the comment above that especially family pools are not places to be letting it all hang out. There is appropriate and inappropriate swimwear just like there is for any other type of clothing. The appropriateness is not so much whether it is an 1-piece or 2-piece (though that matters a little too) but the style of the swimsuit.
I have my eye on 4 coordinating pieces from JCrew (tankini top, bandeau top, brief and swimskirt) but I will be wearing the more covering pieces more than the bikini (the bikini is for future European trips).

May 31, 2011 at 7:33 pm

Meredith

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Great post, Angie!!

Nik is not excited about his little daughter wearing a bikini—ever!

May 31, 2011 at 8:21 pm

Kari

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Angie, will do.
(My self image is loads better than it was back then, even if my body isn’t in as good shape as it was during that vacation. Part of the issue was that I was a bit uncomfortable and self-conscious with the group of friends in question, and we’re no longer in touch.)

Another consideration that I think about RE: my choice to wear a one piece suit – I take medication that makes me more sensitive to the sun, and although my red hair just happens to be fake, I do have a typical redhead’s sensitive complexion (prone to sunburns, not tans.) I wear heavy sunscreen when I’m outside in the sun, and it’s easier not to have to deal with putting it all over on my back on the areas that a one piece suit covers and a bikini wouldn’t.

Years ago during a vacation to Hawaii, I noticed a big red patch on my back that I later found out was a halo nevus – a depigmented area around a mole. It isn’t harmful, but the lack of pigment made it very prone to sunburn. I’d rather avoid burns if at all possible, especially on my back where it’s harder for me to spot potential warning signs for pre-cancerous moles that I’d want my dermatologist to get checked out.

May 31, 2011 at 9:48 pm

Wendy

When I was young & had the body for bikinis I didn’t have the confidence . Now I have the confidence , the body is shot . No longer an issue , our holidays are dog walking in Scotland now – so need our woolies

May 31, 2011 at 11:44 pm

Rose

Regardless of the topic, I may add a comment re: Europe. It may be different in Spain, Italy, Germany or North Europe, but I can say to you that everyone is judged – and harshly judged – at the French seaside. I’ve heard many French girls talking at the beach and, believe me, it’s not pretty. The slightest flaw will be laughed at. It’s just not in-your-face.

So yes, older women wear bikinis, but they are considered a laughing stock by their (somewhat) younger counterparts. They probably know it and don’t mind, though.

I, personally, am firmly in Team “Whatever floats your boat”. You are 90 and wear a bikini ? Go for it.

June 1, 2011 at 5:15 am

mrseccentric

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popping back in:
Hi elisabeth! there’s a fourth reason to buy a two piece – different sizes top and bottom. as a rule i take a size 14 on top and a size 6 on the bottom. one pieces do NOT fit. i don’t see how a tank suit that’s straining across the bust, while sagging around the rump, would be more attractive than a modest, supportive two piece. it’s very difficult to alter a one piece without specialized equipment, so buying top and bottom in different sizes is the most straightforward approach for many.

Hi Kari! i’m with you on “Team Sunburn” i’ll wear a two piece, sure, but under voluminous, light weight and lite colored cotton/linen tunic and wide-legged pants or calf-length skirt. plus parasol and/or hat. sunblock all over, re-applied frequently. of course, on a beach full of skimpily-clad sun worshippers, this is it’s own form of attention-getting outfit

here in california i’m just happy when people on the beach are wearing anything at all! viva la difference! steph

June 1, 2011 at 7:37 am

Gigi

anyone who’s 1, been to france or 2, seen helen mirren in a bikini (in her 60s) can’t argue against older women in small swimsuits.

if you don’t feel comfortable, you won’t look good no matter what you wear. if someone *is* comfortable, who are we to tell them they should cover up? i’m with you 100% on this one, angie — the beach is team skin.

June 1, 2011 at 7:49 am

Liz

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I love, love, love my bikinis, and I’m no supermodel by a long shot. I grew up among Europeans and bikinis (and occasionally topless) were the norm. I now live in the US in the suburbs and since I’m at the neighborhood pool with my kids and all the neighbors far more often than I’m at the beach, context is everything. I tend to wear tankinis, because playing with my active four-year-old is bound to cause a bikini malfunction! And, regrettably, I do feel self-conscious in a bikini at the neighborhood pool. If I wear one, I tend to keep a pair of shorts on when I’m not in the water. At the beach, though, it’s back to bikinis without a second thought.

June 1, 2011 at 8:12 am

Bianca

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I’m rereading some of the posts and here is my conclusion of the rules:

Well fitting bikini at any age is ok if:
A) you are at the beach
B) at an outdoor pool
C) in Europe

Did I miss anything else for the rules?

June 1, 2011 at 7:26 pm

Jenna S.

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I’m never “offended” by anyone else’s swimwear, with one exception: when it’s clearly a bad fit. This completely excludes issues of age or weight. I don’t care if you’re a 20-year-old fitness instructor–if I can see your crack inching above your bikini bottom or your nipple sometimes slips out of your top, something’s wrong.

I’ve been to topless and even nude beaches in Europe, and I don’t mind the nudity there because it’s part of the expectation. But if you’re going to attempt to wear a suit, please find one that fits and covers your tush, and that’s true for any woman (or man!), anywhere.

June 5, 2011 at 7:58 am

Marley

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I have always looked much better in a bikini than a one-piece suit and therefore, up until just a couple of years ago I always wore bikinis (except when I was lap swimming.) But then, I became self-conscious (in my head) about wearing bikinis at my age and so switched over to one-piecers – and I HATED them! They made my torso look longer than my legs – and I just felt frumpy and too covered up and restricted. So . . . a couple of months ago, I bought myself a bikini and decided that this summer, inspite of the fact that I am 59, I am going to wear it – and probably never go back to those one-piece suits again!

June 20, 2011 at 2:56 pm

adrienne

When I was a 30 something mother at the community pool there was an older couple late 50’s that wore rather skimpy swimsuits. I didnt mind the female, she looked fab but her husband needed to cover up that speedo. It was just too much information. The life guards told him to come back with a less revealing suit and he did. And when he walked around the pool to go to his usual seating choice, the pool crowd spontaneously broke into applause. So I wasnt the only one who noticed!

July 1, 2011 at 7:52 am

Mrs C

I am so happy I found this website. We are leaving for vacation in 3 weeks and this is the first year I have debated on NOT wearing a bikini. I am 43 1/2 and don’t feel as fit as I have in the past, noticed more cellulite and just feel lumpier than usual but after reading all you wonderful women’s posts and comments, I’m ready to rock the bikini again =)

I love seeing women of all ages be comfortable in their own skin – no matter how much is showing. I have to say that as I get older, I love my curves and and at times feel more comfortable now than I did when I was younger and much smaller.

July 5, 2011 at 2:47 pm

GB

I really want to wear a bikini, a flattering one and I have gain 10 lbs to being overweight for my height (I am 5’4, 150 lbs) and my weight goes to my booty and not my boobies. My thoughts on wearing a swimsuit isn’t about age. I am a single mom with an active four-year old. Therefore, I believe a bikini bottom that covers my butt and making it possible for me to be active too, is an important issue to address before buying a swimsuit. I think that you should wear a swimsuit that you’re not constantly having to pull up, tie up, pull out of your butt-crack, are deal-with-your-screaming-child-proof (while leaving the water park), and allows you to have a clinging child that’s pulling on your top and keeps your boobies inside and not outside. This isn’t so much as what you look like for me, but for comfort’s sake, I would put more thought into my swimsuit if you have kids.

February 17, 2014 at 7:50 pm

Linda

I think if a woman is in great shape she should be able to wear a bikini even in 50’s

October 2, 2014 at 9:51 am

Kirstjen

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I think a woman should be able to wear what she wants. We women can be awfully harsh critics of ourselves & each other. We worry about our bellies, our butts, our boobs, our cellulite, our waxing, our pedicures… Can you imagine if guys were held to our standards?

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