Finding Emotional Balance in My Style

Balance is a very important component of my style. I need to change things up from day to day, and from season to season, to be happy. It isn’t overly logical but much more of an emotional thing. I’m following my mood and listening to my feelings. 

Here are some examples of what I mean:

  • After amassing a slew of trendy items into my style, I feel the need to ground them with the classics.  And after wearing the classics for a while, I desperately have the urge to inject trends and wildcards.
  • A season of solids makes me crave prints.
  • My personal era of masculine button-down shirts put me in the mood for romantic ruffles and flounces.
  • After wearing slouchy outfits for what seems like forever, I’m in the mood to wear fitted pieces and sharp tailoring.
  • Wearing jeans a little too frequently makes me want to wear trousers, skirts and dresses.
  • Wearing neutrals makes me happy, but only if I can swap them out with lots of colour. And after wearing loud brights for a bit, I miss my quiet neutrals. 

Generally, I can achieve the balance I need from day to day by shopping my closet. That’s time and cost-effective, and I’m grateful that I have a wardrobe that panders to my changing moods. Sometimes the longer term balance does mean purchasing new items, but that takes patience because I’m strict about keeping to my budget.

I encourage people to be in touch with the way they feel about an outfit, and not to take the emotion out of their shopping decisions. This is a very important part of feeling fab in your outfits. On the other hand, you need to also make sure that your moods and emotions don’t boss you around, or you’ll never find peace with your style. And perhaps that’s the most important balance of all.

Ensemble: Ruffle Hem Top & Bottoms

Clu Clu Too Ruffled Striped TopThis ensemble was inspired by some outfits I put together for a client who wanted more than just a basic semi-tucked T-shirt to wear with straight or flared cropped jeans. The top had to be comfortable, covered, easy to launder, and casual. Enter the ruffle hem top. Romantic, on trend, and interesting. 

I’ve put together three versions to get you started. The rendition on the left is very casual. The next two renditions are dressier, and more work appropriate. Choose any colour palette in solids or patterns. 

Here are the components: 

Ruffle Top: You’re after a woven or knitted top with a ruffle on the hem. Choose any sleeve style. Tops can be as casual as a tee, or dressier like a blouse. Fits can be snug or roomy. A peplum top with a defined waist will do just fine. 

Bottoms: Think cropped jeans with straight or flared hems. Straight leg jeans or streamlined boyfriends with rolled hems. Streamlined culottes. Dressier ankle pants, or a pencil skirt. 

Footwear: Wear ankle accentuating footwear to balance the cropped lengths of the jeans and pants. Sandals, pumps and flats with ankle straps are fab, as are oxfords, loafers and mules. 

Accessories: Finish off the look with a bag of your choice. Throw on a neckerchief if you like. Add jewellery, eyewear and watch as desired. 

Ensemble: Ruffle Hem Top & Bottoms

You can also combine a ruffle hem top with long flared jeans or trousers. Add pointy toe heels or heeled sandals and you’re in business. 

I love the outfit on the Shopbop model up top and am eyeing that top to wear with white or faded blue denim straight crops and gold loafers. I did a slightly dressier version with a boho-lite peplum eyelet shirt last year in Arizona.

Arizona Boho Blouse

Two Quick Beauty Tips

After lots of trial and error, and life-changing advice from a dermatologist and savvy aesthetician, I learned that a simple beauty routine with the right products for my skin works best. And inexpensive skincare products seem to work best of all. 

Caudalie’s gentle buffing cream was recommended to me after a recent facial. I was skeptical because I thought it would be expensive (I’m done purchasing pricey skincare products that fight with my skin). But for $15 I was prepared to give it a go. I love this product, and now use it twice a week! It’s very gentle, scent-free, and makes your skin feel smooth and luxurious. It also does NOT strip your skin of its natural oils. What a win. 

As a vigilant daily user of creamy sunscreen on my face and neck, I’m also aware that my hands and bare forearms need sun protection. They catch the sun when I drive or when I’m walking our Yorkie Sam. The tops of my feet also seem to catch a lot of sun when I’m out and about. So I’ve bought Neutrogena’s sunscreen body mist to spray on those parts of my body. You can’t be too careful when you have sensitive pale skin and are frequently exposed to the sun. (YES. The sun continues to shine in Seattle and I’m LOVING it.)

Roundups

Simpler Items

This week's list of top picks list is about basic pieces.

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Assorted Items

Items for Summer, both in and out of air conditioning.

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Casual Summer Vibes

This week's top picks are good for a casual Summer vibe.

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Summery Earth Tones

These items are for those who like to wear casual earth tones in warm and hot weather.

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Hints of Spring

Some tried-and-tested winning items to refresh your style for Spring.

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Dressier Items

An assortment of dressier top picks might be just what the doctor ordered.

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The Neckerchief Trend

ExampleThe resurgence of ‘70s and ‘90s fashion has brought back the neckerchief or “handkerchief scarf”, which is a small square-shaped scarf. It’s tied tightly or loosely around the neck with the ends tucked in or out of sight. 

The bandana has been a fringe trend for a while. It’s probably the easiest type of neckerchief to wear because it’s a casual accessory. You can add a bandana to any casual outfit and not feel like you’re overdoing it or getting too dressed up. As an iconic classic, it stands the test of time and can be moulded to become part of any style persona. Red, black, white and blue bandanas are most popular, but they’re available in all colours these days. Tie-dye and floral bandana-esque neckerchiefs are fun alternatives. 

The silky neckerchief can look glam and gorgeous, but might feel a little much or “precious” at times. Or too much like a flight attendant’s uniform. Dressing it down with sporty or denim outfit elements is one way to temper the look. Or simply go with dressy and glam and rock the vibe. 

Here are some street style shots that might inspire you to sport a neckerchief. You’ll notice how neutral these outfits are — a flop proof way of combining the neckerchief in outfits: 

  1. Treble Classics
  2. Distressed High Contrast
  3. Breton stripes and denim never let us down
  4. Sporty Luxe meets ‘80s Power Dressing
  5. Quietly Black
  6. With a ‘50s Touch
  7. Chartreuse Cowgirl
  8. Nautically Inspired
  9. Boyfriend-y with heels and clutch
  10. Rough Around The Edges Preppy

Examples

Neckerchiefs are a slam dunk on a regular or longer neck, especially when they’re tied tightly like a choker. But shorter necks can wear the look just as well with a few adjustments. Choose a soft and less bulky neckerchief and tie it a little more loosely around the neck. Also, choose a neckerchief that is low contrast against your skin tone if you don’t want to create a horizontally cutting line. 

I saw my Mum wear silky neckerchiefs in the ‘70s, and I wore them a lot in the early ‘90s. I also wore red and blue bandanas, while Greg wore grey and black bandanas. So far, I have not felt inclined to try the neckerchief again probably because I’ve just rediscovered my pearl necklaces and am focussing on those as my neck accessory. That said, never say never, and I love the look of the neckerchief on others.

Over to you. Would you wear a neckerchief?

Matchy-Matchy Floral Workhorses

This outfit has been a workhorse and fast fall back outfit for Spring. I’ve worn it many times to work with clients and out to dinner. The individual items, remixed with other items in my wardrobe, have been workhorses too. I bought them early in the season and have been able to wear the heck out of them already in our lovely warm and sunny weather. 

I was drawn to the Ditsy Chorus Floral Handkerchief Hem Blouse because it’s bright, happy, romantic, and pretty. Its ‘70s vibe appealed to my love for Modern Retro. But when it arrived, it looked different to the online photo. More neon in colour and more voluminous in silhouette. I loved the neon coral pattern but I couldn’t size down. Being a stickler for good fit, I gave this some thought.

Matchy Florals - Shoulder

Making sure that tops, dresses and toppers are sufficiently tailored around my neck, shoulders, and on the arms is extremely important to me and I will not compromise. So I moved the back button and added a snap to make the neckline fit more neatly around my neck. That pulled the shoulder seams into the right place and made the neckline a little higher. The sleeves were already a great length for my long arms. 

Matchy Florals - Close

Matchy Florals - Side

Matchy Florals - Full

The additional structure that I created up top, plus the stellar soft drape of the fabric made me feel completely comfortable with the voluminous swing on the torso. I don’t feel like it overwhelms my slight frame because the fabric collapses back onto the body. The side views don’t look overly “muu muu” either — at least not to me. Sorted! 

There are few things that make me feel as good as a great fitting pair of white jeans, which is why I have several pairs across silhouettes. Current Elliot’s straight crops are my favourite white jeans at the moment because they showcase the alluring ankle and are ever so slightly relaxed. I prefer to wear the floral swing blouse with white jeans because it looks more dressy, crisp and dramatic than it does with blue. It looks nice with my extra long, white flares too. 

Matchy Florals - Blouse Close

Matchy Florals - Blouse

I saw the bright red jacket at Zara and it was love at first sight. The colour launched me into orbit, as did the stiff popped collar. The ‘60s vibe was perfect, and so was the fit. The very tailored shoulders, structured collar, and cropped length offset the boxy silhouette. I’m not usually a fan of belted jacket welts but this belt is short, attached, lightweight and therefore not fussy. I wear the jacket open, and it works over many of my tops and some of my skirts and dresses. Wearing the boxy jacket over the swing blouse surrenders the waist in a big way, so I’m going with “just flattering enough.” 

Matchy Florals - Shady

Matchy Florals - Shady Side

Louise et Cie’s Esperance Pumps in a vibrant floral pattern seemed like an appropriate way to celebrate sunny and warm weather. Their ankle straps are a match made in heaven with cropped jeans. They’re very comfortable and were mine right after trying them on. Most fashionistas are wearing trendy chunky footwear at the moment, but I’m sticking with pretty, dainty and tailored because that’s better suited to my feet and style. I once went shopping with a client all day in these shoes and they go the distance.

I couldn’t resist pairing the floral pumps with the floral blouse and pearl grey satchel to create a very Matchy-Matchy look. Why not! That’s a new thing for me, as is the boho-lite blouse. I’ve left off the pearls, but added my specs, watch, wedding ring to complete the outfit. 

Matchy Florals - Heels

A new bright Spring and Summer jacket becomes an instant workhorse for me. Four years ago, I wore my citron blazer with everything. It wore through, so it’s resting in peace. I replaced it with a better quality neon green jacket that I wore so much Greg’s eyes began to hurt. Last year’s Dutch orange blazer was a hit, and this year’s Retro red jacket is the winner. As for the jeans and blouse, they’re workhorses because I miss them when they’re in the laundry. Instead of purchasing more of the same, I’m simply going to continue wearing the heck out of these pieces.

Matchy Florals - Path