Clothes that just gotta go (or do they?)

I’m drawn to do-and-don’t lists. You have the option to disagree and come up with your own set of style rules which makes for a worthwhile exercise. It caused quite a stir when I posted on Charla Krupp’s list of forbidden fashion for the over 30’s (from her New York Times best seller “How Not To Look Old”, a book I enjoyed). The overall YLF consensus was that age 30 is too low as a cutoff point for the items mentioned on the list. Situational context, body type and persona play a huge role when sporting a so called young item with effortless style, and there are exceptions to every rule.

Charla’s list of Top 25 Clothes That Just Gotta Go is also food for thought. She does not attach an age to this list, but her book is targeted at the over 40’s.  Charla feels that no matter how attached you are to these pieces, they have to go because they make you look dated and old lady. Holding onto them for lounging purposes won’t do either. Here’s the list with my two cents for each item:

  1. Holiday sweaters with bells and appliqués: Hard one. I realize that this is tradition in some American households especially in child friendly settings.
  2. Granny/Mommy necklaces that tell you how many grandchildren you have: Another hard one. Making the exception to wear unstylish sentimental items occasionally is fine in my book.
  3. Souvenir T-shirts: They can make fun lounging items and comfy sleepwear.
  4. T-shirts with meant to be funny sayings: Same as above. If it makes you smile when you’re at home and out of the public eye – why not.
  5. Overalls: Agreed. There is superb maternity wear to choose from these days, so give dungarees a miss.
  6. Acid washed jeans: Look at our Kyle and you’ll soon change your mind. If you’re uber polished and the rest of the outfit is fabulous, I say go for it.
  7. Ripped jeans: Generally I’m not into torn and overly distressed denim, but Kyle’s jeans were subtly ripped and she absolutely wore them with style.
  8. Shoulder pads: They are coming back into fashion so I say never say never.
  9. Flannel shirts: The oversized grunge variety are awful, but Ralph Lauren makes a tailored range every holiday season and they can look great.
  10. Muumuus: They aren’t my cup of tea either but you’ll get away with the look in Hawaii.
  11. Photo handbags: It’s fine to sport not so fab looking sentimental items occasionally. I’ve also seen stylish designer photo handbags that I’d sport in an instant.
  12. Flesh colored hose: I’m not a fan, but if a dress code requires it that’s fine by me.
  13. Penny loafers: No way. Loafers can be trendy or traditional, and absolutely stylish. It’s a very Euro look and when my ballet flat days are over, I’m onto fab looking loafers for sure.
  14. Oversized blazers: Structured jackets are always flattering, but trendy unstructured styles get my vote too.
  15. Mommy robes: I must admit I’m not sure what this is. Anyone care to enlighten me?
  16. Thin-gold-chain necklaces: They’re not the height of style, but they’ll work if you prefer dainty gold jewelry and the rest of your ensemble is current.
  17. Elastic-waist pants: Structured pants with waistbands are definitely best for public dressing, but by all means wear elastic-waist lounge pants at home.
  18. Granny undies: Wearing the best possible bra is a must, but if you like to wear big knickers and shapewear, go for it.
  19. Baggy sweats: Great for lounging at home.
  20. Bearlike, full length fur coats: I’m against any type of real fur so I can’t comment objectively on this one.
  21. Short shorts: I say wear them at home if they keep you cool when it’s desperately hot.
  22. Cargo pants: I have clients built like string beans in their late 40’s sporting this look with style. It can be done.
  23. Stockings with reinforced toes: It won’t make a difference if you wear closed-toe shoes.
  24. Three piece suits with vests: An androgynous look can look stunning when worn with edge and sass.
  25. Backpacks: Versions that are gear get my red light too, but the trendier basic Euro staple has made a fashionable comeback and we’ll probably see more people sport the look.

I would agree with much more of this list if Charla excluded lounging. I do advocate lounging with style, but there are times when you want to be really comfortable at home because it’s extremely hot or cold, or when you’re feeling under the weather. These are times when you’re out of the public eye and forgoing a bit of style won’t harm your style quotient. The danger arises when lounge dressing becomes the norm for all aspects of your life. This is probably why Charla is stricter about these items than I am – eliminating the item completely eliminates the temptation of wearing it at any time.

Over to you. What are your thoughts on the items on Charla’s list?

Dove grey shoes are sassy for Spring

Metallic wedges, sandals and pumps are an easy “go to” option for warm weather dressing. They’re neutral, light in colour and very versatile. We’ve also talked about grey patent making a nice alternative to black and brown shoes in Autumn and Winter. But what I’m most into at the moment is dove grey, non-patent footwear. New, no shine and lots of edge.

This colour might look blah and boring at first glance but don’t let that put you off. It’s a pretty fabulous look once you know how to work it into an ensemble. Definitely not as cheerful as a bright colour, but super sophisticated and just as fun. Dove grey peds work well with a pair of white, cream, or light grey pair of pants, and any wash of denim. I also like to sport mine with leggings, black pinstriped slacks and a denim skirt. I’m totally hooked.

You won’t find many MATTE dove grey shoes around at the moment because stores are still on metallic and patent overload. If the trend does not make it to mainstream fashion, that’s fine too. It will stay fringe and I’ll enjoy it just as much.

Wanted Drape'Bella' Huarache PlatformFLY London Women's Vidal Pump

I have the dove grey pumps with the white piping and they’re my favorite peds for Spring (the brand is called “Fly London” and their range is well worth a look). It’s nice to give my metallic wedges and patent flats a break and sport the matte look for a change.

Denim and the dress code debate

The business casual dress code does not allow denim jeans because they’re thought to be too casual for corporate settings. While I agree that a pair of light wash jeans generally looks really casual, I wholeheartedly believe that a pair of dark wash jeans or trouser cut style can look business appropriate if the rest of the ensemble is dressy and uber-polished.

I often see women in ill-fitting khaki or corduroy pants with a T-shirt, cardigan and loafers walking around in business casual settings. To me, this particular ensemble choice is not only dated, but actually MORE casual than a lass spiffed out in a fab pair of jeans, button down shirt or knitted top, structured jacket, dressy shoes and statement handbag. It makes no sense. The smart casual dress code can look a whole lot more professional and stylish than a sloppy and passé business casual one.

The reason most corporate companies don’t allow jeans into their dress code (other than on casual Fridays) is that there’s room to abuse the privilege. The assumption is that before you know it you’ll have employees pitching up in worn out denim, sweatshirts and shoddy shoes. But a pair of unstylish casual pants worn in an unpolished way is just as bad.

So what’s the solution? Should denim be banned all together, or is there a way of convincing the powers-that-be that dressing up the right denim can be business appropriate, particularly in a less conservative corporate environment.

Roundups

Simpler Items

This week's list of top picks list is about basic pieces.

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Assorted Items

Items for Summer, both in and out of air conditioning.

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Casual Summer Vibes

This week's top picks are good for a casual Summer vibe.

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Summery Earth Tones

These items are for those who like to wear casual earth tones in warm and hot weather.

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Hints of Spring

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Dressier Items

An assortment of dressier top picks might be just what the doctor ordered.

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PZI Jeans: great skinnies for curvies

Atlanta based company PZI Jeans has just launched a unique collection of skinny jeans made for curvy women. PZI Jeans Co-Founder and Vice President, Claire Jason explains:

“The industry said curvy women should never wear skinny jeans or they would look like an ice cream cone, so many lines did not offer a skinny jean for curvy women. Initially we did not offer our customer the skinny jean either. But, our customers kept asking for the skinny jean. So we started researching, studied and developed the perfect Skinny Jean for curvy women,”

As a result, PZI Jeans has 10 different skinny jean fits and styles which are suited to women with waistlines, fuller hips and curvy bottoms. The fits are available in a variety of washes, sizes (4 to 16), and inseam lengths (30 to 38 inches). The jeans claim to be premium denim quality but at an affordable mainstream price of $69 to $79 . Promising!

I haven’t yet tested the product so I can’t vouch for the fit, but I like what I see. As someone who believes that the curvier lass can sport skinnies with style, I can’t wait to get one of these jeans onto a suitable client. But if you feel you fit the body type criteria for this brand, by all means have go. There are other denim silhouettes to choose from if skinny jeans aren’t your thing.

PZI Skinny Jeans

Note that PZI Jeans is an advertiser on YLF, but that didn’t factor into my decision to write this post. These skinnies for curvies really are a great idea.

10 Ways to Conceal Muffin Top

Shapewear helps to flatten out our bodily lumps and bumps, and is effective for special occasions when we want to look our very best. But shapewear is also too hot, uncomfortable and time consuming to wear every day. Your alternative is to dress in ways that camouflage the “extra bits” around the midsection.

Here’s how:

  1. Wear higher rise pants, jeans and skirts: This is probably one of the best ways to feel girdled and comfortable. Most of the time, the idea is that you wear tops over bottoms with higher rises, but sometimes you’ll get away with tucking a top into a high rise skirt and look quite svelte.
  2. Wear a camisole: This offers a similar effect to shapewear with ten times the comfort.
  3. Layer your clothing: It’s easy to conceal a midsection by layering a structured jacket, waistcoat or cardigan over a top because it draws attention away from the midriff. This strategy does require cooler weather, but it’s hands down the most effective.
  4. Look for prints and texture: They have better “camouflaging capabilities” than tops with solid colours.
  5. Select ruched tops: The effect of the folds is forgiving.
  6. Select items that float away from the waistline: Think empire cuts (with or without gathers), banded tops and subtle trapeze silhouettes. Volume in the right place can be your friend.
  7. Opt for woven tops: The rigidity of form fitting garments made of woven fabric will skim the contour of your body instead of clinging to it like jersey knit does.
  8. Wear knitwear: Look for cotton, viscose and merino wool blends in fine gauge knitwear. Their thicker texture is less clingy than drapey jersey knit and therefore more flattering.
  9. Wear dresses: Most fit-and-flares, some empire cuts, trapeze frocks and dresses with front and side ruching can work wonders to smooth out your silhouette, especially if printed.
  10. Stand tall and be proud of your style: Good posture and confidence makes all clothing look better.

Do you have other strategies to share? Shapeless caftans and huge Muumuus don’t count. We want to see your cute shape in clothing.


Donna Ricco Tie Front Crop Cardigan
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Fit and flare dress layered with a cardigan, empire cut knitted mesh top and woven trapeze style blouse.

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Knitted A-line voluminous top, ruched knitted mesh top and woven banded blouse.