1000 thoughts on fashion and style

Three years, eight months and four days later. I can scarcely believe it. This is the one thousandth post on YLF! Time flies when you’re having fun.

When Greg suggested I start a blog, I said, “okay!”, and then I said “what’s a blog?”. This is what poor Greg was up against. And I didn’t actually like to write, so how on earth was I going to enjoy writing a blog. But Greg had the insight to recognize that I have a lot of experience and passion to share. He also knows that I’m social and love to yak. So as long as I treated each post as if I was having a simple, daily conversation with you, the words would flow freely from my keyboard. So with Greg’s technical expertise and my voice, YLF was born.

I looked back at my posts since April 2006 and noticed a few things about my blogging style. My voice has remained the same, but the subject matter has changed and broadened. In the beginning I blogged about short instant style tips, fashion trends and body type dressing for the everyday person. My focus is still the “how” of style — it’s easy to purchase an item for your wardrobe, but it’s how you’re going to wear the item that counts. But these days the posts are sometimes more serious and sometimes less serious than they were in the beginning.

Anne Fontaine

The blog today also has more of me in it. When I write for YLF, I try to make it more about the reader and the subject, and less about me as an individual. So for the first  two years of YLF I deliberately kept all details about my physical appearance off the blog. I finally revealed myself in a series of blog entries on Paris. You got a glimpse of what I looked like in a post I wrote about my Anne Fontaine experience, and then full portrait shots of Greg and I by the end of that week. It was unexpected and a long time coming, which made it all the more fun.

And while there is more of me in the blog these days, it is also more about you. It was just over a year ago that forum member Antje wrote the first guest post, and since then 14 others have added their voices. This has made for richer and more compelling content, where the guest poster’s words often speak louder than mine. I look forward to accelerating this trend and incorporating as much diversity as possible into the blog.

I’ve learned two big things about blogging. First, it takes discipline and hard work. Those of you who have blogs know how much time it takes to put together a decent post and participate in the discussion that follows. Especially when you have a “day job”. Second, you need to develop a thick skin and take the high road. When you dish out your thoughts and ideas for the world to see, you have to take the heat that goes along with it. People who comment don’t always agree with what you say and some rudeness is inevitable. But being defensive is not the answer and learning the art of self restraint has proved invaluable.

Most of all, I’m grateful for what YLF has become. So many wonderful people, interacting with intelligence, compassion and sincerity. I just love being a part of it.

The floor is open to you. Do you have any questions about fashion blogging or being a fashion stylist? What type of post do you enjoy the most and why? How can we improve YLF? I’m ready to write the next thousand blog entries and making sure I keep you engaged is my main goal. Let’s hear it!

Behind the Scenes

Greg is sneaky about taking candid photographs and these are some behind the scenes moments that he captured. They include writing a blog entry in a Hong Kong hotel room, fixing lips before my NBC interview, and “take a photo of that!” in a department store. And always, always with tea in hand.

What’s new in the YLF store

I’m having a lot of fun slowly but surely filling up our new store. Hopefully you have noticed the new items arriving every day. Note the visual summary of the latest additions that will always appear just below the first post on the blog.

Here are my favourites for the week:

Thanks to Christie for pointing out a problem with the star ratings early this week. We have fixed the bug, so please go back and add ratings if you didn’t manage to do so in the beginning. If you already wrote a review, feel free to add another one for that item to register your star rating.

Finally, Thanksgiving weekend has come and gone, but the sales continue. Through 7 December you can get an extra 25% off the Friends and Family sale at macys.com and free shipping when you spend $99 or more (use promo code MACYSFRIEND at checkout). Bloomingdale’s will be offering discounts of between 20% and 40% on more than 1000 items between December 7 and 9.

Happy shopping.

One wish for your fashion and style

If you were allowed to make one wish relating to fashion and style, what would it be? There is no wish too outrageous and everything is possible.

You could ask for a limitless clothing budget, enjoy perfectly styled hair for the rest of your days, sport a flawless complexion till you’re a hundred, or wake up with a body like Jennifer Aniston. You could live in a fashion capital, be a super model, enjoy the fruits of a fancy walk-in wardrobe, have a stylist pull together a fabulous and appropriate outfit each morning till you retire, entrust someone to do your wardrobe shopping so that you never need to worry about it again, meet your style icon, make all clothing magically fit, or have blue eyes.

My wish is a tall order: I wish for magical comfort levels for every shoe and boot on the planet right now and forever to accommodate my forever fashionable and fussy feet. That way I would be able to wear absolutely any ped and never worry about comfort issues again.

The sky is your limit so let your imagination run wild. Remember though, you’re only allowed ONE wish and you have to live with it forever. Think carefully and let’s hear it.

Roundups

Simpler Items

This week's list of top picks list is about basic pieces.

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Assorted Items

Items for Summer, both in and out of air conditioning.

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Casual Summer Vibes

This week's top picks are good for a casual Summer vibe.

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Summery Earth Tones

These items are for those who like to wear casual earth tones in warm and hot weather.

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Hints of Spring

Some tried-and-tested winning items to refresh your style for Spring.

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Dressier Items

An assortment of dressier top picks might be just what the doctor ordered.

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Amp up your party ensemble with a bib necklace

Instead of purchasing new dresses each party season, I often rejuvenate the look of my frocks with new accessories. I don’t wear earrings so necklaces are my number one choice of jewelry for any outfit. The plainest frock or top comes to life with an eye catching item of neckwear, and for this reason I enjoy the effect of bib necklaces. Simple and bold.

Bib necklaces come in all sorts of shapes, sizes, metals, colours and materials, especially at his time of year when party wear is in full retail swing. Some bib necklaces are wildly ornate, chunky and glitzy, whereas others are earthy, tarnished and dainty. Pop them over either a low or high neckline for instant drama and watch your ensemble transform from drab to dazzling.

Do you like the look of bib necklaces, or is it too much necklace? What’s your preferred choice of jewelry for fancy occasions?

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These necklaces are silver and monochromatic, but bib necklaces are effective in every metal and in stones and beads of every colour. You’re not limited to pairing bib necklaces with party dresses either. Pop them under a button-down shirt or over a dressy knit top for a more casual party occasion. Easy.

Autumn Mom on the Go: flop proof outfit #7

Today we tackle the 7th of my 10 casual outfit formulas for moms and gals on the go (refresh your memories with formulas #1, #2, #3, #4, #5 and #6). This one is all about micro check pants and shirts, so I turned to British forum member Julie (“Rose and Joan” on the forum), whose eclectic style was perfect for showcasing this formula. Julie lives in picturesque Edinburgh, Scotland, where she is a part-time financial administrator, wife, and Mum to two gorgeous little daughters. Julie’s edge, verve, sass and love for all things vintage comes through in how she rocks this formula.

Of all of the looks of the season Angie highlighted at the start of Autumn/Winter, it was the denim shirt that instantly grabbed my attention. I envisioned wearing one belted over a cream lace dress with lashings of lustrous pearls. However, my life as a Mum on the go to two very fabulous but demanding cherubs left that particular outfit firmly in the realms of fantasy. Fast forward to October 7th when the denim shirt made a sudden reappearance as part of Angie’s flop proof MOTG Formula #7:

Micro check pants + denim shirt / knit top + pleather / leather jacket + loafers

I was intrigued. I already owned a pair of cream and black houndstooth micro check trousers (they had fast become my skinny jeans alternative), and this particular combo eliminated the dreaded denim on denim faux pas.

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Finding my denim shirt proved to be more difficult than expected. I tried vintage shirts from the nineties (too boxy), tailored city shirts (too masculine for my feminine, romantic style persona). It was the most unlikely of shops where I stumbled upon my tunic length shirt, a shop which specifically catered for the teen and pre teen market. The material is a little thin but that is to be expected for the price point. Surprisingly the lack of fabric substance helped the shirt to drape and aided belting.

My perpetual Mum on the go dilemma remains, how to balance the clothes I love to wear against the clothes that are practical for my lifestyle? I’m a vintage girl at heart. I love red lips. Love the wiggle heels create. Love the impact of a flirty floral frock. I’m just not comfortable in a full on casual ensemble. I have to add a touch of glamour. I now wear a shorter version of my treasured heels and find the occasional red lip the ultimate pick me up after a sleepless night. I also expect my Mum on the go essentials to work as part of my smart casual capsule with a simple switch of accessories.

I wear my denim shirt belted to add the requisite glamour, interest and curves to my racy rectangle body type. With this particular shirt I prefer a slim belt to cinch my waist and position the belt slightly lower than my natural waist to elongate my extremely short-waisted torso. I also like to add a touch of embellishment with my belt, as the majority of my jewelry wardrobe has been consigned to the bedside drawer until my youngest daughter passes her grabbing stage. To this point, scarves work better than necklaces, worn either muffler style or tied in the Angie knot, my outfit becomes instantly pulled together and child friendly.

I favour a shopper style of bag over the Mum on the go cross body bag. The hands-free option wriggles over my shoulders, slides down my body and eventually lands in a loop around my feet. Not Fab. I look for a shoulder bag which sits comfortably under the arm and yet is roomy enough for the girls’ essentials.

My choice of coat or jacket depends on both the weather and the day’s ensemble. I love to wear my leather jacket on milder days; it adds instant edge to my style. As the temperature drops I opt for my false plain wool coat. To avoid a strobing effect I tweak the formula by substituting my micro check trousers for a casual alternative such as leggings or Ponte knit trousers.

The success of the Mum on the go formulas lies in their versatility: they can be tailored to suit all aesthetics, budgets and lifestyles. I can replicate the silhouette of formula #7 by wearing my dark wash skinny jeans with an alternative shirt, or replace the denim shirt with a tunic or shorter dress. The possibilities are endless and all of the clothes in my limited wardrobe are now in full rotation.

With Angie’s guidance I’m able to spend less time on planning my outfits and devote more time to the family. If only all decisions were as simple as getting dressed in the mornings…