The Gift

This post was written by Ana, long time member of the YLF forum.

BagI sat in the dimly lit restaurant listening to the chatter of the ladies around me. Absent mindedly, I chewed my lip. The beautifully wrapped gift sat at the other end of the long table. In a few minutes I was going to present it to Angie, and I still had no idea what to say. What words would adequately express the gratitude and fondness I, and many other women from the YouLookFab forum, had for her? How could I thank her for creating an online community that is supportive and friendly and goes beyond merely deciding what to put on in the morning? Through YouLookFab I had met so many wonderful women and started relationships off the forum that enrich my life on a daily basis.

It was during one of these “offline” conversations that a few of us hit on the idea of trying to do something for Angie in return. Laura (laura65) sent an e-mail to me and other members Tanya, Inge, and Sandy (san) in October and we began brainstorming a list of forum members who might like to participate. We knew we could only contact a small fraction of the overall community, but we felt that the gesture would reflect the sentiment of many others. After we had a master list together, we divided it up and sent members a private message on the forum, detailing our idea and inviting them to contribute.

The response was overwhelming!

Almost all of the women we contacted were eager to help and many said they had wanted to do something similar but didn’t know how to go about it. We set a deadline for December 1. Our goal was lofty—everyone agreed that the Valentino petal satchel (that Angie had listed as her dream bag) must somehow be hers.

Laura kept us updated on the running total as the deadline approached and the contributions poured in. By December 1 we were getting there, but still short of the price of the bag. YLF member Patience suggested we call Nordstrom and see if they could do anything for us. Sandy took it upon herself to do this, working her way up the management chain through a series of phone calls and finally speaking with the manager of the handbag department, who offered to sell it to us for a price within the amount of money we had collected! Sandy picked it up and had it wrapped just days before we planned on presenting the gift. Included with the bag was a gorgeous booklet that long time YLF member Maya had designed and hand-made containing sentiments from the women who had donated.

The next order of business was deciding how to present the gift. I knew I just had to be there when Angie received her bag. I was planning a cross-country road trip to Idaho from Texas for the Christmas holiday, and Seattle is just one day’s drive beyond that. I e-mailed forum member and Angie’s friend, Antje, who had organized a previous Seattle YouLookFab gathering. She jumped at the chance to put something together. To avoid arousing suspicion, we used my visit as an excuse for a dinner. With Greg’s input, Antje booked a private room at a restaurant in downtown Seattle, and invited Angie and local forum members who had contributed to the gift.

Faces

As the ladies arrived lots of hugging and laughter took place. I felt like I had met them all before, even though it was the first time I had even seen some of their faces. We settled down into our seats and I stood and thanked everyone for coming and explained how incredibly excited I was to be there and meet them all. I thanked Angie for creating such a welcoming and special community on YouLookFab, and that even though we couldn’t ever begin to repay her for all the work she and Greg put in, we wanted to try and do something for her to show our appreciation.

Unwrapping

We all sat with anticipation as Angie slowly opened her gift. She loved the wrapping and pointed out that it was apple green and pink—YLF colors. She got the wrapping off and noticed the box was from Nordstrom. “Oh, it’s from a good store,” she joked. She took the lid off the box and said, “Oh, tissue paper, thank you!” and we all laughed. She looked down at the red dust bag and paused. She reached down and touched it, then gasped and covered her mouth with both hands. “You DIDN’T!” She opened the dust bag and peeked inside. “I’m finished,” she said and began tearing up. “I’m gobsmacked… I don’t even know what to say.”

After Angie had wiped away her joyful tears, read the booklet and regained her composure, she wanted to know all the details that went into her surprise. The rest of the evening was spent chatting and filling everyone in on the story.

I still can’t believe we pulled the whole thing off. It was really a group effort, and the response from the women we messaged was amazing! YouLookFab is truly a fabulous place full of wonderful, kind and selfless women. Thank you Angie and Greg for putting in the time and effort you do. Angie—enjoy your bag, and when you carry it, we hope you’ll think of us.

Well, I’m no longer speechless, but words still won’t completely express my gratitude for your thoughtfulness and generosity. I was emotionally overwhelmed for days upon the receipt of this gift and it still feels surreal. I would never, ever have treated myself to a Valentino handbag, so you are the only reason I am sporting it right now. To me this is so much more than a material possession. It represents the love and kindness of the entire YLF community. I shall cherish my exquisite Valentino handbag for the rest of my life, and proudly carry it with your affectionate sentiments engraved deeply into my heart. —Angie

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Good Tidings of Comfort and Joy

No white Christmas for us this year in Seattle, but a cold day with brilliantly beautiful sunshine and blue skies is just as welcome. Whether you’re looking out of a snowy window or celebrating in the sun, Greg, Rosie, Jasmine and I wish you a very Merry Christmas. We hope your day is filled with fun festivities, fabulous food, great gifts, peace in your hearts and above all, loads of love and laughter.

Why you want to look fab (revisited)

The question I posed last week — “Why do you want to look fab?” — generated a lot of very interesting responses. Not surprisingly, many readers saw fashion and style as an opportunity for self expression, whether that was expressing confidence, respect for others or one’s own personality. Several people talked about the way looking fab on the outside enhances the way they feel about themselves on the inside. The reaction of others was also a big factor.

Then there were some fascinating reasons that I didn’t touch on at all: looking fab as a catalyst for social interaction, the feel of great garments, and the process and ritual of looking fab as “me time” in a life where so much of the day is focused on the needs of others, for example.

Here are some excerpts from the comments:

“If you don’t care about yourself, why should anyone else”.

“I also like to dress well out of respect for others, or for the situation”.

“As a blind person, one of my primary goals is to be able to function in the sighted world and interact with my peers without feeling at a disadvantage. My clothes are a crucial way in which I help to define that interaction. For me it’s not enough to simply have clothes that don’t clash and aren’t marred with stains. If I want to be accepted in the sighted world, I better dress the part”.

“People are nicer to you when you’re dressed well!”

“I’ve concluded that the reason I want to look ‘fab’ is because I have decided that I am just as important as everyone else in my life”.

“Putting on a cute outfit (even when I had to practically force myself) was part of my journey to regaining my self-respect”.

“For me, how I dress is an expression of myself and my personality”.

“It gives me stuff to talk about with other women, like my coworkers. Basically, I don’t like to go out to bars and fancy places or watch girly films, but I feel like we all have our love of style in common”.

“The visual yes. but also the feel. the feel of a lovely material against your skin. the feel of solidly made quality boots cradling your feet. satiny, silky, soft, caressable, they’re some of the things that make clothing so vital to life”.

“It may be shallow but I wish to project the qualities of my character which I consider important”.

“Learning to dress well has turned out to be a great form of therapy… it has also done wonders for my body image too, so I’ll add that reason”.

“I am afraid my need to look fab is deeply rooted in wanting to fit in, and avoid horrible embarrassment!”

“I am a quiet, reserved individual, but I enjoy people. My clothing items and accessories give people a reason to approach and speak to me, which means I can enjoy interacting with people even while they are the ones doing the initial approaching. I’m working on becoming more outgoing and expressive, but in the meantime, anything I can do to open the door to others and then be receptive when they approach, the better that is for me too”.

“As a stay at home mom of two young boys, getting dressed and doing my hair is my ‘me’ time”.

“I’ve realized that caring about style doesn’t take away from anyone else’s happiness, it may even add to it in a small way. It doesn’t have to get in the way of helping others, in fact it makes me a more powerful advocate”.

Food for thought.

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Bargain shopping with your mobile phone

A few days ago an article in the New York Times explored the way people are using their phones while they are shopping. I’ve been using an iPhone for the last few months and I’m warming to it, but I’m definitely not as savvy as some people.

According to the article…

“One in five shoppers said they intended to use their cell phones to shop this holiday season, according to an annual survey by Deloitte, the accounting and consulting firm. Of those, 45 percent said they would use their phone to research prices, 32 percent said they would use it to find coupons or read reviews and 25 percent said they would make purchases from their phones”.

Wow. In this new world it seems that everyone is as gadget happy as 007. Software applications for cell phones are helping bargain hunting consumers locate the best deals in retail stores in a matter of seconds while they shop the aisles of the store.

This is how one mobile power shopper goes about finding the best deals in town:

“Heather Reed, a mother in Cypress, Tex., is one of those mobile power-shoppers. She uses several apps on her Samsung Moment phone to whittle down her spending. She was recently considering a $29.99 Hot Wheels video game for her son at Wal-Mart. With a quick scan of the bar code, an application called ShopSavvy found it at Target, just across the freeway, for $19.99. Another app from MyCoupons.com provided a Target coupon that sliced off $10 more”.

As impressive as it sounds, bargain shopping on cell phones is not all smooth sailing. Inaccurate information and bad network connections can make the process frustrating. Plus, viewing items on a cell phone screen and typing from a tiny keypad is not ideal.

Needless to say, I am in awe of all tenacious and savvy bargain shopping skills. But I’m not yet using my cell phone to track down deals online. Are you a mobile power shopper? And regardless of whether the answer to that question is “yes” or “no”, what features would you like to see in a great shopping app for the phone?

Autumn Mom on the Go: flop proof outfit #9

We are near the end of tackling my 10 casual outfit formulas for Mums and gals on the go (refresh your memories with formulas #1, #2, #3, #4, #5, #6 , #7 and #8). Today we bring back super stylish, Chicago forum member Laura, who is a freelance writer and busy Mum on the go. Frock gal Laura was intrigued by knit pants as an alternative to jeans and this is how she put together her look.

When Ponte knit pants began appearing in the stores this fall, so many YLF forum members were raving about their comfort and style that I decided to try a pair. I bought mine in the INC. department of Bloomingdale’s, and was instantly converted. They are warm (a big plus in Chicago winters), don’t constrict, and miraculously don’t stretch or bag out. Truly a great option for Moms on the go, travel, huge holiday meals, or any time you want to appear pulled together while staying comfy. Here is Angie’s formula #9:

Skinny stretch knit pants + button down tunic shirt + casual belt + tall boots

Laura

Because of my body type (hourglass tending toward pear), I find it most flattering to wear my knit pants with a good amount of coverage, with a top that hits at mid-thigh. And, because the pants are knit, I prefer to wear a woven top. The one exception to my woven preference is my grey, a-line turtleneck sweater tunic, which I accessorize with loads of long chains. I love that look with the pants, and it’s the ultimate in coziness on a cold winter day.

These pants have become my winter replacement for the leggings I wore to death in spring and fall. Angie encouraged me to be creative with the formula, so I paired the pants with dresses, tunics, cascading cardigans, and added a coat at times for extra coverage. Angie’s formula calls for a belted tunic shirt, and although I do wear a tunic shirt with Ponte knit pants,  my shirt doesn’t work with a belt, so you won’t see one pictured here. Unlike formula #3 (casual dresstights or hose + tall boots), which I road tested and found very straightforward, you may need to do some experimentation. And remember, you can always post your outfits on the forum for feedback.

When looking for a woven tunic or dress, try patterns and color. Plaid is big this season, in reds and blues and taupes and grays, and I found myself drawn to berry reds and grey. But, I have also paired the pants with a ruffled chiffon dress, and by adding a casual sweater coat, found the pants took the dress from formal to casual, giving me more opportunities to wear it.

Tall black boots play a big role in making this look work. I love the long, lean line they create. Riding boots or my waterproof patent leather La Canadiennes are my favorites. Try booties as well, especially if you’re in a warmer climate. The red booties are a fun alternative that provide a pop of color.

Handbags? Well, although my kids are out of diapers, I still find that a roomy bag suits my MOTG needs best. I usually go for a casual, hobo-style bag. My go-to handbag of the moment is from Ecco, and has a pretty bluish silver metallic finish. It goes with everything in my color palette!

Ladies, over to you. Are you wearing formula #9? Have you changed it up to suit your preferences? Let’s hear from you!