Accessories as the foundation for two wedding outfits

This past weekend the entire family hopped into the car and over the border to Vancouver, Canada to attend a weekend of wedding festivities. We absolutely love the city of Vancouver and were excited to see our friends tie the knot. So it made for the perfect weekend getaway as we traveled with Yorkies Jasmine and Rosie in tow to prevent my very real separation anxiety.

I LOVE weddings! The exquisite dresses, the bouquets, the adorable flower girls, the expression on the groom’s face when he first sees his bride, and the magic between the loving couple warms my heart and brings me to tears every time. And dressing up for the occasion is another part I quite enjoy.

This wedding was different to others we’ve attended in that it took place over an entire weekend, starting on Saturday morning and ending late on Sunday night. The bride and groom integrated both Western and Chinese wedding traditions, resulting in multiple celebrations throughout the weekend. How’s that for bridal stamina! The festivities started early Saturday morning with a traditional Chinese tea ceremony for close family members and the bridal party. That afternoon, our friends Viena and James officially tied the knot at a Catholic Cathedral at 3pm. Saturday night was all about a magnificent Chinese Banquet while Sunday night was the official reception in a sassy hotel. The arrangements ran like clockwork and the bridal couple was simply stunning. Stunning!

We attended two of the events and I needed an outfit for each of them. One for the daytime ceremony in the Cathedral, and another for the fancy reception the following night. I was in a minimalistic modern-classic mood when I shopped in my closet to pack for our trip and that’s clearly reflected in the ensembles. Also, instead of changing out the accessories to the same outfit to create a different look, I kept the accessories virtually the same for both occasions but swapped out the rest of my ensemble.

Wedding Ceremony Ensemble

I chose semi-formal attire for the ceremony at the cathedral, so out came the Anne Fontaine shirt I bought in Paris two years ago and a much loved black pencil skirt. I finished off the look with chunky pearls, a black patent rose chain belt, fishnet hose, an angular red clutch and my Kate Spade party shoes. I left the specs off but the watch on.

For the evening reception I swapped out the shirt and skirt for a short black military styled mod dress. I left off the rose belt but in true dramatic Chanel style added another layered pearl necklace to the one I wore the previous day. The hose, shoes, clutch and watch were the same.

Reception Ensemble

All the items in my ensembles, from the clothes and footwear right down to the accessories are between two and five years old. They’re not the trendiest of pieces but they won’t date quickly either. I felt classic and a little retro on both occasions.

Above all I was extremely comfortable. Although the sun shone brightly throughout the weekend, it wasn’t very warm. I’m utterly miserable when I’m cold, so I chose to wear outfits with good coverage. We took a cab to each venue but walked back several blocks to the hotel IN MY HIGH HEELS both times. My two-hour sitting shoes were very good to me.

Viena & James

Of course, no one could outshine the breathtakingly beautiful bride, Viena, who chose a classic and timeless look with an updo and veil to match. The gown that you see above is the one Viena wore to the daytime Cathedral ceremony. And that was only one of her dresses! She wore traditional Chinese attire to the morning tea ceremony and an off white Grecian gown to the formal reception the next night. She was picture perfect in every outfit and hands down the belle of the ball. With his perfect tux, white tie and hip hairstyle, James rivaled his namesake 007. Killer.

Two footwear brands that caught my eye recently

Footwear brands “Seychelles” and “Jump” have my attention because the styles are sweet, playful, retro, and pretty comfortable. I recently posted about the Seychelles Veronica T-strap pump as a Fab Find.

So far in my experience these ranges are by no means 8 to 10-hour city shoes for my walking lifestyle, but I’ll entertain the flat and low heeled styles of both brands for shorter walking time spans, like 3-hour client meetings, or for  evenings out when I don’t do much walking.

The leather is pretty soft and the foot bed is fine once you’ve added a cushioning insole. You could probably add an orthotic and have certain parts of the shoe stretched if need be. Remember that I have fussy feet and sensitive skin that is annoyingly blister prone, which makes my bar very high on the comfort scale. So these footwear brands might suit your needs down to the ground if you have less fussy feet, or sit behind a desk for most of the day.

If you’re prepared to pay extra and enjoy an immaculately crafted shoe, then I still highly recommend the more expensive Portuguese Fidji brand if their styles are too your liking. But for relative comfort and quality at a lower price, Jump and Seychelles are interesting and I’ll be keeping an eye on their ranges.

Seychelles SophiaJump  BoomSeychelles RitaSeychelles LaurenJump Bianca PumpJump Bess Wedge Pump

I’ve had all of these except the two on the right on myself or my clients, and you can read more about them in the YLF store.

How to wear necklaces with a full bust line

Ladies with full bust lines can absolutely wear necklaces. In fact, large statement necklaces can effectively draw attention away from the bust line, a handy trick to have at your disposal if that’s your goal.

As always, the devil is in the details. It’s about choosing the right combination of necklace and neckline. Here are three options that usually work well:

  1. Lower neckline, higher necklace: Wearing necklaces, or layers of necklaces, with lower necklines like V’s, scoops, sweetheart, open shirt collars and cowls is hands down the best combination for a larger bust. Position a fairly chunky set of beads (single or multi-strand), or a necklace with a chunky pendant, so that it hangs lower down on the chest but no further than the start of your cleavage. You’ll find that sweet spot between one and half to four inches down from the bottom of the front base of the neck. Wearing the necklace lower down as opposed to right up against the base of the neck elongates your long lean line and is generally flattering.
  2. Higher neckline, lower necklace: Sometimes wearing a slightly higher neckline like a boat neck requires a longer necklace because a necklace positioned at your “sweet spot” can catch the edge of the boat neck in an annoying way. So the solution is to go a little longer, with a long  chunky necklace that ends just above the peak of the bust line. But not too long that the necklace dangles over the peak of the breast, or hooks onto one of them. Those are looks you’ll want to avoid.
  3. Soft, long Y-chain necklace: It isn’t a flop proof solution like the two guidelines above, but a soft long Y-chain can lie comfortably flat between the breasts when you wear either a low or higher neckline. This style of chain ends up collapsing against the bust  instead of dangling or hooking.

Also, some well endowed ladies can wear necklaces, or layers of necklaces, right up against the base of the neck if they’re long necked and dainty shouldered. But this more an exception than a general guideline.

If you have further suggestions on how to wear necklaces when you’re well endowed, let’s hear them.

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Foot pain: how far will you go for beautiful shoes?

I won’t go very far. So bye-bye to many beautifully fashionable and trendy pairs of shoes.

At worst, I’ll wear a pair of two-hour shoes that I call “sitting shoes”. That means I can comfortably walk for two hours in the shoes before I need to tear them off my feet. But the two hours can be spread over a longer timeframe if there’s lots of sitting in-between. Typically, occasion, party and evening shoes fall into this category if we take the car or public transport to our destination.

But aside from a few pairs of “sitting shoes”, I have zero tolerance for shoe discomfort because my lifestyle is about walking. My job is active and I’m out with clients for hours on end. I wouldn’t be able to do my job and feel good about it with foot pain. Plus, I’d feel less confident and less stylish hobbling around in uncomfortable shoes.

Not all my walking shoes need to be the 8 to 12 hour variety. Some of the time I’m only out and about for 3 or 4 hours, which means that I can entertain shoes that are a slightly less comfortable. This gives me a little more style variety.

I do like beautiful shoes though, and if I didn’t walk around during the day as much as I do, I’d probably have more pairs of impractical “sitting shoes”.

How much pain will you endure in order to wear a beautiful pair of shoes? Be honest!

Using Shelf Dividers to Store Handbags

If you’re a bag lady like I am, and  have many handbags, you’ll need to find an effective way of storing them. First prize is keeping them in a place where they are easily accessible with the rest of your clothes. I have two such places that work well in our closet space:

  • Hanging behind the door of our wardrobe on a handbag rack
  • Resting on the shelves of our wardrobe above the hanging area

The handbag rack works really well because I don’t disturb the organization of the rest of the bags when I remove one from it’s position. The shelving works well up until the point that I remove a handbag and the rest fall over. I stuff resting handbags to keep their shape, but the clutches in particular still fall over because they rely on the the other handbags for support.

So I’m going to create permanent support for the bags that I store on shelves. I have my eye on the shelf dividers below with the idea that a compartment holds one to three handbags depending on the size and shape. I’ll let you know how the experiment goes.

Shelf Dividers Shelf Dividers

If you lack cupboard space, you can store handbags in transparent boxes and stack the boxes. The only nuisance is that they’re not as easily accessible as when they’re on a shelf ready to grab. Have you found an effective way to store your handbags? I’m always intrigued by clever and attractive storage ideas.