When people give us genuine compliments about our style, we can’t help but enjoy them. Who doesn’t enjoy an ego boost now and then. I certainly do.
But some compliments are not entirely positive. Although part of the comment was probably meant as praise, the rest leaves us with a slightly bad taste in the mouth. Here are some real life (first and second hand) examples of what I’m talking about:
- “You look great in that outfit! It’s because you’ve lost all that weight”.
- “You’re so dressed up, but you look really cute”.
- “You look fabulous. Must have taken you ages to get ready. I can’t neglect my children like that”.
- “People are going to start hating you if you always look so good”.
- “You have great style, and I know its not easy to look good at your size”.
- “Your beautiful bright outfit hurts my eyes”.
- “You look nice. What’s different?”
- “You always look so chic. Urrgh. Now I have to change my shirt and shoes when we go out tonight”.
I’m sure that many of these comments are an innocent oversight, but sometimes I think that they are intentionally snide. The question is, what’s the best way to respond to them? Should we take the high road and politely brush them off? Is confrontation in order? How about a witty and clever comeback?
As much as I like the idea of a clever comeback, I don’t often think of them on the spur of the moment. I’m also not a confrontational person, so rightly or wrongly, when I receive a somewhat cutting compliment, I end up politely biting my tongue, thanking them for their kind words and moving on.
Over to you. Have you ever received cutting compliments about your style? If so, how did you respond? Even if you haven’t been the recipient of a cutting style compliment, what do you think is the best way to deal with them?