Aging and Adapting to Your Newfound Maturity

While having a pedicure last week I stumbled across a quote by Elle Macpherson in People magazine. I enjoyed the 52 year old supermodel’s thoughts on aging. She suggests that you learn to love change, and went further to say: 

“I don’t prance around in a bikini anymore, or a one-piece, or cutoff shorts, or very short dresses. It’s just not what I do. I’ll leave that to my 16- and 18-year-old stepdaughters. At this point I like to keep it simple and not adhere to any trends. That’s the secret—the beauty of a woman as she matures is not how she tries to look younger but how she adapts to her newfound maturity.

When it comes to bikinis, my thought process is different. Regardless of your age and so called body flaws, if wearing a bikini floats your boat – I vote wear it as long as you are mindful of harmful sun exposure. 

I also believe that you cannot separate fashion from style. You don’t need to be a trendy, avant-garde, arty, creative or fashion-forward person to have a great sense of style. Not at all. But a certain amount of “trendy now” is key to a stylish appearance because a current look is always better than a dated one. And you can be stylish and enjoy fashion at any age. 

It’s Elle’s final sentence that truly resonated with me. Accepting the way we look as we age requires soul searching, discipline, and a commitment to be kind to ourselves. Staying confident and upbeat about our appearance as we grow older is ultimately what makes us shine. Aging is merely moving into a new phase of beauty. The sooner we embrace this, the sooner we can stop fighting the aging process and start celebrating the miraculous journey that is your life.

Shapewear and Your Style

Shapewear is underwear that smoothes out the contour of your body. It reduces or eliminates the lumps and bumps across the midsection, upper torso, bottom and thighs. You usually wear shapewear over a regular bra and panties. It’s made of stretchy manmade fibres, is fairly pricey, and lasts a good long while. 

I shop for shapewear fairly frequently with clients. The items have come a long way over the years. Gone are the days when there was only one option that cut off your circulation. These days there are many different brands, each with a variety of options to suit all sorts of body shaping requirements. 

First, five tips to help you navigate the world of shapewear: 

  1. Shapewear is NOT essential. It’s a lot more comfortable to find clothing that’s in line with your figure flattering properties so that you can wear regular underwear and leave it at that. That said, you might wear shapewear a few times a year with a specific outfit for a special occasion. 
  2. Shapewear varies in performance control: You don’t need to wear high power “firm control”  shapewear. Gentle and medium control shapewear can do the trick and is more comfortable. Some of my clients wear gentle control shapewear daily, and feel uncomfortable without it! 
  3. Spanx is not your only option: Brands like TC, Commando, DKNY and Yummie can be better suited to your needs, so make sure that you fit a variety of brands before you commit to the final item.
  4. Size Up: The last thing you want is shapewear that, quite ironically, creates muffin top under the bust, on the waist, or on the thighs, because the hem openings are overly tight, or when the waist of the shapewear rolls down the body. Size up so that the hems create a snug but relaxed fit on the skin. 
  5. Match the shapewear to the item: You’ll need different styles of shapewear for different items in your wardrobe. You might need briefs for a skirt, thigh boxers for trousers, shape shorts for jeans, a slip or bodysuit for a dress, and a camisole or waist cincher for a top. If you’re shopping for shapewear in brick-and-mortar stores, take the clothing with you and pop them straight over the shapewear in the dressing room to assess how things feel, fit and look. 

Here’s a selection of winning shapewear to get you started if you’re in the market for the items. Read their rave reviews. Most of the styles are available in a selection of nudes and black. You can see the items alongside my descriptions on the collection page.

Do you wear shapewear? If so, would you like to share your experience?

 

Celebrating High-Low Style

I have high-low style, which means that I shop budget, mid-range and designer price points. I enjoy shopping this way because it achieves a sense of emotional balance and creates a diverse harmony in my style. I absolutely enjoy an Ann Taylor top as much as a Milly handbag. A higher price does not guarantee you quality, good fit, polish, or comfort these days, which makes this way of shopping, dressing and grooming even more beneficial. The fact that I wear items across a range of price points also makes me more relatable to a range of clientele. 

I get a kick out of combining an Alexander Wang bag with KUT from the Kloth jeans, a Marc Jacobs pullover with a Zara jacket, Stuart Weitzman shoes with a Gap top, Current Elliott crops with an Ann Taylor top, or a Gap turtleneck with a Smythe blazer. Every day I wear expensive underwear with a $12 cotton camisole. My pricey haircut is tempered by my inexpensive skincare regime. My pricey eyewear is tempered by costume jewellery. This way of dressing makes me support and appreciate all retail markets, which I find very satisfying. 

On that note, I’m celebrating some inexpensive wardrobe items that I wear over and over again by giving them a much deserved shout-out. The quality, fit and comfort levels are stellar, and of course, I like the way the items look too. An $11 ink and white striped peplum knit top from the Gap that handles itself beautifully after every laundry cycle. The fabric is substantial and quite luxurious. An old $9 distressed gold belt from Macys that’s on its last legs, but I can’t find a good replacement. It’s the most worn belt in my belt capsule, and it shows. Gold suede ankle strap flats that I picked up for $45 this season, and are as comfy as can be. Well made, on trend and supportive. And $12 cotton camisoles of which I have several in black and white. They are one of the few items that I throw into the tumble dryer, and wear like iron.

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I say it over and over again: Leave no retail stone unturned, and it doesn’t matter where you shop. High-end, budget, mid-range chain store, thrift store, Goodwill, clothing swap, eBay, boutique, or make your own clothes. This is 2016 and it’s ALL good when you love your stuff, when it works for your lifestyle, climate, budget and style sensibilities, and most importantly — makes you feel great when you wear it.

Roundups

Simpler Items

This week's list of top picks list is about basic pieces.

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Assorted Items

Items for Summer, both in and out of air conditioning.

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Casual Summer Vibes

This week's top picks are good for a casual Summer vibe.

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Summery Earth Tones

These items are for those who like to wear casual earth tones in warm and hot weather.

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Hints of Spring

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Dressier Items

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Two Fab Pairs of Pearl Earrings

Both sets of earrings are pricey but they’ll stand the test of time, each making a statement in a their own subtle way. They’re different and look beautifully made. The CZ Cube Earrings encase a pearl within a see-through cube, AND they’re double sided. The Cat Saltwater Cultured Pearl Stud Earrings are for kitty lovers. They are extremely delicate, which is what I love most about them. They would be mine if they were Yorkies — and I don’t even wear earrings.

Big Earrings and Your Style

Most of my clients and friends wear earrings. They tend to wear small to medium size studs, hoops or delicate dangly styles. Some will wear big earrings at night or for formal occasions, but only a handful of clients will wear big earrings during the day with casual or smart casual outfits. And by big earrings, I mean LARGE earrings that make a statement, as shown on the models below. 

serefina Peacock EarringsNordstrom Double Wire Hoop Earrings

Big earrings vary in size, mass, and in their level of dressiness. The chunkier the earring, the more noticeable the statement. The more ornate and shiny the earring, the dressier the vibe. You can, though, wear big earrings that are fairly small in mass, like hoops. Their transparent integrity makes them more subtle, and therefore more wearable during the day than chunky or ornate styles. 

I’ve also noticed that it’s often my friends and clients with big hair that sport big earrings. They have thick and often curly hair, which means that small, simple and subtle earrings would be lost. The scale of large earrings complements the scale of their hair. I love the way they’ve made big earrings part of their signature style — to the extent that it would be odd to see them wear dainty studs. 

Kendra Scott Rogan Pearl Stud Earrings

I occasionally see people with very short hair wear big earrings casually during the day. That to my eye makes an even greater statement because the earrings are more visible. You can create the same dramatic effect by wearing long hair up and away from your face. Wearing one big earring and one small earring is a nod to the popular asymmetrical trend, and another way to go. 

Nadri Legacy Crystal Chandelier Earrings

I fully support wearing big earrings at any time of the day if that’s your thing. There is no need to reserve them for occasions, unless they feel off, get in the way, or you have a strict work dress code (smaller earrings tend to look more appropriate in a conservative office setting). Casual big earrings or oversized hoops are a nice way to break in the look when chunkier styles are out of your comfort zone. 

I don’t wear earrings at all, and prefer to make a statement with my specs. Over to you. Do you wear big earrings, and if so, will you sport them casually during the day?