Fashion Inspires Us, then Style Sets Us Apart

Several years ago I read a sentence that really resonated with me: “fashion unites us, but style sets us apart”. Fashion and trends are, by definition, our shared viewpoint on what is hot right now. But style is all about individual expression. Fashion is about being like the “in”-crowd, whereas style is about standing on your own.

It is easy to see how this quickly leads to a “fashion bad, style good” mindset. People talk about being a “fashion victim” or a “slave to fashion”. I see it differently. Fashion definitely has its place as one element of style. I’ll even go as far as to say that you need a certain amount of the “fashionably now” in your look to be stylish. Why? Well, the current fashions are a common starting point. An inspiration.

Here on YLF we often discuss fashion trends and how to wear them at any age, body type and budget. At the end of each post I encourage readers to experiment with new trends and MAKE THEM YOUR OWN. Reader Patience did precisely that last week, making the following comment on my long shorts post:

“While the short shorts are cheeky with boots, I feel very edgy in my longer shorts and boots because I perceive I’m taking a risk by not precisely following the trend”.

Patience was inspired by the short shorts and boots trend, but made it her own by wearing longer Bermuda shorts. In my book that is style, because it is an individualistic expression of the look as opposed to a cookie-cutter version of what she saw in a catalogue.

The other important point that Patience raises is the risk factor. Creating a sense of style is often about taking risks, looking unusual and different to others (or different to the way you are accustomed to dressing). Nothing ventured nothing gained! Experiment and try new combinations. Save the looks that are hits and discard the rest. In this way developing a sense of style is an opportunity for personal growth. And fashion plays a role by kick-starting the process each season.

Another expression I like is that “fashion is in the clothes but style is in the wearer“. So express yourself through your personal style. Do not see the current fashions as a constraint, but rather use them as an inspiration for your style. The possibilities for your individual expression are  limitless. Add your own personal style stamp and you’ll find it liberating and fun. And the number one rule on YLF (the only one you are never allowed to break) is to continue having fun with fashion!

Team Lipstick or Team Lip-gloss

I am Team Lipstick 100%. I do not wear gloss because I can’t bear the sticky texture on my lips. I do actually like the look of gloss so it’s a pity that I can’t get past the ickiness-factor. I wear lip balm combined with lipstick every day and apply the combination several times during the day. I am rather addicted to having a layer of moisture on my lips at all times.

Over to you. Are you Team Lipstick or Team Lip-gloss? Tell us why. I’d prefer you to pick a side, but feel free to sit on the bench if you use neither product. Perhaps you are Team Lipbalm?

How to Wear Jackets Over Dresses

A few weeks ago I posted about layering underneath dresses. Today I’m going to do a first installment on layering over dresses. The sky’s the limit, from jackets, cardigans, blouses and shirts, to coats and even other dresses. Today we’re going to tackle jackets.

It’s all about finding the right combination of two variables:

  1. The silhouette of the dress
  2. The length of the jacket

The following guidelines are by no means hard and fast rules and I frequently see them being broken successfully by stylishly creative and daring ladies who understand how to balance out proportions. But it’s a good place to start if you’re new to wearing jackets over dresses.

Tailored cropped jackets work extremely well

Wearing a really short jacket over a fitted, fit-and-flare, A-line or sack dress is virtually flop proof. By cropped I mean that the length of the jacket hits you on or above your natural waistline. Think of cheeky styles like shrunken blazers, biker jackets, Chanel jackets, boleros, short tuxedo jackets and denim jackets. Extra short retro trapeze jackets and faux fur shrugs work well too. The length of the dress can be either a little below the knee, on the knee, or shorter. Keeping the jacket un-buttoned or un-zipped creates a vertical line down the front of the body, which is very flattering.

These pictures illustrate my points nicely.

Regular length blazers require a little more thought

A classic blazer layered over a fitted knee length sheath dress is ideal for a formal, reasonably conservative, professional work setting. But if you’re looking for a more playful outfit, try combining a shorter dress with a boyfriend blazer or hip length tuxedo jacket. I’ve found that layering longer jackets over dresses works best with form fitting or sack dresses. The proportions don’t work as well over A-line or fit-and-flare frocks unless you belt the layers at the waist. Scrunch up the sleeves for textural outfit interest.

These pictures illustrate my points nicely.

Layering knee-length trench coats and wool coats over any style of knee length or shorter frock is a no-brainer even though you’ll usually take those off inside. Shorter wool coats and trenches can work too, but they never seem to look quite as good as when the coats are as long as the dresses themselves. To my eye anyway.

If you have further questions on how to layer jackets over dresses, please ask away in the comments below. Never done it before? Start experimenting to get more mileage from your wardrobe. Any excuse to wear our beloved frocks for more of the year!

Roundups

Simpler Items

This week's list of top picks list is about basic pieces.

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Assorted Items

Items for Summer, both in and out of air conditioning.

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Casual Summer Vibes

This week's top picks are good for a casual Summer vibe.

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Summery Earth Tones

These items are for those who like to wear casual earth tones in warm and hot weather.

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Hints of Spring

Some tried-and-tested winning items to refresh your style for Spring.

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Dressier Items

An assortment of dressier top picks might be just what the doctor ordered.

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Celebrating the Million Page Milestone

YLF reached a new milestone on Thursday last week when our pageviews over a 30 day period passed the one million mark for the first time! That means all of our readers combined looked at more than a million YLF pages over the last month. Of course, there are many sites that have far more readers than we do, but this was still a significant milestone for us.

Yes, Greg and I have worked very hard over the last four and a half years making YLF what it is today. But we couldn’t have done it without our members and readers. YOU are an invaluable part of our site and we can’t thank you enough for helping us reach this milestone. Your support and continued interest is very much appreciated. Cheers to a million more pageviews per month!

Maria’s New Fall Footwear

When Maria Killam from Colour Me Happy recently posted about our two day shopping adventure, there were lots of questions about her new footwear – where it was from and how to wear it. Maria gave me permission to answer some of them here.

As a Colour Expert and Design Consultant who is on her feet most of the day, Maria’s footwear needs are similar to mine. Maria spends lots of time shopping with clients and traipsing through design warehouses for hours at a time. She is constantly bending over and reaching for things and like me, walks fast because there is no time to dilly-dally about! Comfortable shoes are essential. But they also have to look fabulous, or as Maria puts it, “look designer-y”. Because of my own fussy feet, comfortable shoes that look fab are my forté, so I was up for the challenge.

Apart from a pair of black riding boots from Paris which are still going strong, we were starting from scratch with Maria’s Autumn and Winter footwear collection. Maria is quite tall at 5ft 7 and has a calf circumference of 15 inches. Her feet are quite sensitive so no hard leather, no extra high heels and the option to fit in an orthotic is a plus. She lives in Vancouver, Canada so for the next six months her weather will be wet and cold. Not too much snow, but plenty of rain and ice. Maria was willing to invest in quality footwear because this is her dominant season AND because her feet need to be as happy as she is.

Here is the footwear we purchased together:

Two Pairs of Tall Boots

Franco Sarto Pacaya Chestnut knee-high boots: They run half a size big so you need to size down with these boots. The outside zipper placement is interesting and the rubberized sole ideal. The leather is soft, a little distressed and vintage looking which is right up Maria’s alley. Maria said: “It’s so great to have a non-black boot option. I would never have thought of chestnut boots”. These are perfect over jeans, leans or leggings. Maria wore them over her new Forever Skinny Gap Jeans on day two of our shopping excursion – that’s how comfortable they are.

Stuart Weitzman 50/50 over the knee boots: I bought these at this year’s Nordstrom Anniversary sale and wore them on our first shopping day with Gap leans, button down shirt, scarf and military blazer. Maria was impressed with my outfit and with how comfortable I was charging around town in these darlings. Buttery soft, these boots feel like slippers and are 12-hour shoes for my fussy feet. Maria tried them on over her skinny jeans and was instantly sold, despite the price. Yes, they cost a fortune. But a gal is allowed to splurge once in a while. Maria will have these boots for many years and so will I. I have worn mine frequently and Autumn has only just started. Cost per wear, ladies.


Two Pairs of Booties

Boutique 90 Rusty ankle boot: I popped these into the YLF store before my shopping time with Maria so was able to recommend their comfort and versatility without question. I also insisted that the taupe-y lilac colour was the way to go since they brighten up a dark Winter outfit and bookend Maria’s blonde hair.”It wouldn’t even occur to me to try boots this colour ” said Maria. She wore them while we shopped and was pleasantly surprised at how well they worked with items she fitted on. They look especially great with Maria’s new Gap Real Straight jeans since that style shows off some of the buckle detailing.

Naturalizer Bates bootie: Maria came home with two mod Winter dresses and they were amongst our favourite purchases. Maria was used to wearing dresses with pumps and tall boots, but wearing booties with frocks is where it’s at so enter these Naturalizers. They fit neatly around her ankle and look splendid matched with fun hose. The heel height is stable and the comfort level is pretty good too. Not as comfortable as the other boots but perfectly fab as 4-hour shoes. Great with slacks, skinnies, leggings and boot cut jeans too.

Two Pairs of Closed Shoes

Franco Sarto Nill Black pumps: The low heel and retro nature of these shoes stole Maria’s heart. Although they won’t get as much mileage as boots at this time of year, they are a great little all-year-round basic with hose (or with bare legs in warmer weather). They aren’t soft enough to be 8-hour shoes, but an easy 4-hours for sure.

Miz Mooz Histeric flat oxfords: I encouraged Maria to buy these because the cream and white colour blocking worked beautifully with her hair, AND because they are arty and fun – after all, Maria is a fun and creative person. She loved the concept and was sold as soon as she tried them on, but was still a little unsure about how to wear them. When we matched them up with her Gap straight leg jeans and new dresses, everything fell into place. They are going to be 8-hour shoes no problem.

An Early Spring Addition

Franco Sarto Mount ballet flats: It won’t be ballet flat weather for a while but Maria couldn’t leave these sweet little flats behind. The black and white animal print was appealing and the shoes actually stayed on her feet. The snip toe and buckle detailing is divine. They aren’t killer comfortable, but great for half a day of hard work.

As a colour expert, Maria has an assortment of pumps in various styles and colours so we didn’t need to address that footwear need.

Maria is putting this footwear through its paces and so far so good. After all that’s the REAL test. Every so often I receive encouraging email from Maria saying that she feels stylishly fab, ever so fashionable, not too trendy, and really comfortable in the items that we bought together. It’s music to  my ears.

The new footwear has also rejuvenated her existing Autumn and Winter wardrobe, which was one of the best parts of the deal. Oh, the power of fab footwear and accessories. There is no substitute.