My New New Style Epiphany

About a month ago I had an epiphany and evolved my style in a new direction. But having lived with that look for a while I’ve realized that I’m not happy. So it’s back to the drawing board as I once again reflect on precisely what it is that I want to express with my style. I want to take advantage of the fact that I’m feeling rather brave about my style at the moment, which makes a radical new direction feel spot on.

My current style is modern, polished and chic. I’m also a modest and fairly practical dresser. I don’t look particularly alluring in my outfits and I score zero on the “bombshell-persona” side of things. Come on! I’m the gal who likes to wear turtle necks, flat shoes, longer hemlines and surrender her waistline. And this is precisely where I’d like to start making the style changes. As I approach the age of 41, now is as good a time as any to experiment with a look that I have long since admired but was so desperately out of my comfort zone.

First, my hair needs to change. I’ve always been blonde, but for as long as I can remember I’ve loved the idea of plum coloured hair that’s a little longer. It looks so rich and striking, making your style instantly interesting and eye catching – and I want to look more eye catching. Obviously, I’d have to grow out my pixie cut and dye my hair to create this look. In the meantime, I’m road testing the idea of the new do with a wig that I fell in love with the first time I saw it. I’m pretty much set on a bob, but I’m not sure about the fringe. My eyebrows are distinctive and very much part of my face. To hide them with a fringe might not be a good idea. What do you think?

Second, I want to wear five inch heels, just because I have never done so before (I batted for Team Flats in the past). Many of my fashion stylist peers leave me in the dust with their fashion forward, high heel wearing ability. And although I have never felt the professional pressure to wear sky scraping heels, I do suddenly have the urge to play around with some alternative and fun “sitting shoes”.

Also, because I frequently like to bookend the colour of my hair with my shoes, the new plum coloured hair creates lots of exciting options. I’m thinking that burgundy shoes, and shoes with fuchsia accents are the way to go. I ordered the Not too Coy Pansy and the Black Rooster Mino from Zappos recently and I must admit  that these shoes make me smile. Hello 6ft 1! Although my feet are arched to the extreme, the footbeds are quite comfortable.

Third, I’d like to attract more attention to my curves, which makes wearing leggings as pants not such a bad idea after all. Granted, the leggings I’m wearing here are Gap’s legging jeans which I wear all time tucked into boots. But why not wear them with soaring heeled pumps to showcase the rest of the leg and a bit of the foot. Blokes love the look. Greg loves the look too (which I only recently found out by the way). It’s got to be a win.

So, the first beautiful Spring day in April, and a new look to go along with it.

Thank you for humoring our April Fools fun. Additional photos posted on Facebook.

Team Full Price or Team Bargain Price

Everyone likes a bargain, but this poll is based on your actual spending. You are on Team Full Price if you purchase more of your wardrobe items at full price, and vice versa.

I enjoy a bargain. I wouldn’t be human if I didn’t! I like to shop at the Rack, and if I happen to see something on sale that’s fabulous, you bet your bottom dollar I’m going to buy it. But I’m on Team Full Price because more often than not, I pay full price. Here’s why:

First, my size goes fast and it’s hardly ever available at sale time. Second, when I try on something that makes my heart go pitter patter and it’s within my budget, I nab it right there and then. I derive the most enjoyment from a potential wardrobe item as soon as I see it, which is usually at the beginning of its retail life when the stuff is new and fresh to my eye. I want to take the item home and wear it straight away. And I do. This doesn’t mean that I have unlimited funds. It’s just another way of shopping and I still stick to my budget. I am seldom seduced by sales, and purchasing more items at full price makes me even more discerning about what ends up in my closet. Bargain shoppers probably think I have rocks in my head, but this purchasing strategy works for me.

Over to you. Are you on Team Full Price or on Team Bargain Price? No batting for both sides. I bet Team Bargain Price will leave Team Full Price in the dust. I might even be the only member on my Team.

How to Get Out of a Style Rut

A couple of weeks ago I wrote about the difficult task of moving out of your comfort zone and making the change to a new style and wardrobe. Today I’m going to backtrack and talk about ways that you can identify this new direction in the first place. And in particular, some simple exercises that will help to get you started if you’re in a rut.

You’re in a style rut when you feel bored and unexcited with your wardrobe choices, hair routine, and daily outfit creations. You walk to your closet each morning, see the same old thing and are desperately uninspired. You stand in front of the mirror and can’t bear to look at your hair for one moment longer. These are some of the warning signs. Time to change things up. Express yourself in a new way. Wear exciting outfits that energize your day. Hello style evolution.

The warning signs are easy to spot. But how on earth do you move out of a style rut and on to a journey of style renewal? I wish that there was an easy answer, but it takes patience, investment and soul searching. Also, in my experience, the more interested you are in fashion and style, the more frequently you’ll feel like you’re experiencing a style rut. Ironic perhaps, but it makes sense. Your heightened exposure to fashion and style keeps you on your style toes, so you’re constantly yearning for more, better and different.

Both new and old clients reach out to me for help in getting out of the rut. Hiring a fashion stylist to help with and accelerate your style journey is not within everyone’s budget. Well, the good news is that you can successfully renew your style on your own if you’re prepared to put in the time and the effort, and make a little investment.

When I work with clients, we begin our sessions by exploring the following questions and getting stuck into a few excercises. It’s just the starting point, but the answers pave the road to a new you:

  • Choose what you want to express through your style: Style is self-expression. A non-verbal message and statement about your lovely self. Narrow it down to a few adjectives. For example, I want to express that I am urban, modern, chic, bold, modest and practical. I also want to look ladylike and authoritative. You might want to express that you are casual, creative, natural and approachable.
  • Evaluate your hairstyle: As I have mentioned many times, a new hairstyle and/or colour is sometimes all you need to renew your style.
  • Describe your current style: Be honest, but don’t beat yourself up either. Acknowledge the good aspects of your current style and allow them to come through in your new look.
  • Contrast that with your ideal style: Scour blogs, fashion sites, forums and magazines for style inspiration, and include a few style icons and celebrities if you have them. Study their looks and identify why you like their style. How is it different to your style? How is it the same?
  • Describe the style you DON’T aspire to: By identifying the styles you don’t like, you might identify new directions that do tickle your fancy. For example, you don’t like severe, monochromatic and strict looking clothing. You also never described yourself as romantic, but that is the opposite direction and perhaps worth exploring. As a result you might become more open to the idea of adding romantic touches to your style.
  • Take out your favourite wardrobe pieces: Analyze why you love them. Do you see a style pattern and can you replicate these items?
  • Identify the outfits that make you feel fabulous: Take pictures of yourself in these outfits as a constant reminder of what you are striving for.
  • Identify the outfits that make you feel okay, but not fabulous: Snap photographs of yourself in these outfits too because a picture speaks a thousand words. It’s important to remind yourself that you don’t want to replicate this type of dressing.
  • Identify your colour palette: Think about the colours that you like to wear, should wear, and want to wear.
  • Take yourself on an experimental dressing trip: Sometimes I give my clients a little retail therapy homework without me just to get the style juices flowing. It costs nothing to try on clothing, footwear and accessories in stores – so have a ball. Try on a bunch of stuff that lights your fire but that you wouldn’t ordinarily take into the dressing room. Don’t purchase anything, just try it on and formulate an opinion on how things look with an open mind. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

These types of reflections will help you home in on your current stylistic preferences. Once you’ve established them, it becomes easier to achieve your new style goals, thereby lifting you out of your rut. Again this exercise is just the tip of the style renewal process and there is still lots of work to be done.

The next step is to put together an action plan for purposefully incorporating your stylistic preferences and achieving your new style goals. Robbing a bank springs to mind because a limitless shopping budget would be nice. But seriously, we always shop our closets first. Often, we can reach some of our new style goals by remixing the existing items in our closet.

I’ve had my fair share of style ruts and I’ll have many more. Each time, I bring myself back to these reflections and exercises, and the effort I put into them pays off. Have you ever been in a style rut? Were you successful in lifting yourself out of it? Please share you experiences and advice in the comments.

Roundups

Simpler Items

This week's list of top picks list is about basic pieces.

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Assorted Items

Items for Summer, both in and out of air conditioning.

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Casual Summer Vibes

This week's top picks are good for a casual Summer vibe.

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Summery Earth Tones

These items are for those who like to wear casual earth tones in warm and hot weather.

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Hints of Spring

Some tried-and-tested winning items to refresh your style for Spring.

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Dressier Items

An assortment of dressier top picks might be just what the doctor ordered.

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How to Keep a Slippery Scarf in Place

Small square silky scarves are divine, but awfully slippery. They tend to slip out of position unless you tie them in a way that involves a secure double knot. As soon as you tie them in an authoritarian, muffler or cravat style, or knot them only once, you’re going to lose the effect of your well tied scarf at some point during the day.

Enter your friend the hidden safety pin. I like to wear small silk scarves cravat style, or drape them tightly around my neck with a single knot. Call me crazy, but I like the look of a single knotted scarf! I pin a safety pin or two on the inside of the scarf in just the right place to secure the style . This works for me, and I hope it works for you too.

A few minutes ago Greg took these photos of the cravat style scarf tie that I’ve had on all day. The slippery knot has stayed put since 8.15am and I haven’t touched it once! All thanks to a strategically placed safety pin at the back of the knot.

By the way, I’m still on the hunt for the perfect Hermes scarf, but bought this vintage inspired number from Nordstrom to tide me over. I’m wearing it with a white button down shirt, black L.A.M.B jacket, leans and flat over the knee boots.  I look like I’m about to climb onto a horse, but I fancy an equestrian look so that’s fine by me.

Structured Handbags: Yay or Nay

For years we’ve been promised a season of more structured handbags, yet stores have been full of slouchy and super slouchy styles. By the looks of things, handbags are finally becoming more structured and I’m all for it. I vote yay.

I don’t mind unstructured handbags — I have a few that I love dearly. But I generally prefer a semi structured or completely structured handbag because they look dressier and more polished. There’s also something appealing about the retro integrity of a structured handbag.

So bring on structured duffel bags, satchels, mini cross body bags, clutches and totes. What’s your vote?

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