YLF in LA: Sunshine, Style, and Sharing

Today we bring back Tarzy (Tara), a fabulous forum member who’s been with YLF for five years. Tara is a talented writer and super divine gal who hails from Manhattan, but has lived in LA for many years. As a New Yorker at heart, Tara wrote about last year’s NYC gathering and had us all in stitches. This time round it’s from her new home town.

Los Angeles, also called the City of Angels, is known for many things including bright sunshine and head-turning celebrities. Last weekend all of those elements were present at the LA YLF get-together, when we received a visit from a stylish seraph from Seattle – the lovely Angie Cox, creator of YLF, and fashion muse to all of us on the site.

We had arranged to meet in Old Town Pasadena because of its abundance of shopping and restaurants, and luckily, the day turned out to be perfect SoCal weather – bright and beautiful. Even so, it wasn’t nearly as beautiful as Angie herself.

Waiting to pick her up at her hotel, I was wondering what Angie would think of LA’s super casual style, when a slender woman with short spiky hair strode over to me. I’m not exaggerating when I say Angie’s smile lit up the lobby, and heads turned to look at her – quite an accomplishment in a town where every waitress is a gorgeous starlet.

Angie has that same kind of appeal – she stands out in a crowd. She was wearing a bright midi-length, multi-panel skirt that was cut close to the body at the waist and hips, then floated out around her as she moved. Her skirt, featuring shades of pink and purple with bits of cream and yellow, was topped with a cropped denim jacket. She wore her signature pearls in champagne, carried a gold satchel, and her famous fussy feet featured open toe neutral shoes with a walk-friendly heel. I loved the way Angie’s denim jacket was the perfect touch of SoCal casual, while her skirt took the outfit up several notches.

We were quickly joined by MaryK, our own “business bombshell” on the forum, who looked cool and casual in white jeans with a bright green and white print top. Mary is as bubbly and fun in person as she is on the forum, and the three of us made our way to Zara, where we found five more YLF ladies waiting patiently.

Angela (Cloud9) chose her forum name well, because she’s as sweet as an angel, with a shy smile and gentle manner that makes her instantly likable. She was a picture perfect MOTG in a denim skirt, knit top, fab silver sandals and sparkly statement necklace.

Rachel (Rae) is like the gorgeous younger sister of your best friend, and you try to be jealous because she’s wearing tiny short shorts and has silky long hair, but she’s super smart and funny and she completely wins you over.

Lily (Karli) is grounded and friendly, and looked effortlessly stylish in a black and white skirt and denim jacket, with a pop of color from her utterly fabulous yellow Kate Spade handbag that I almost “accidentally” took home with me.

DesmoApril (April) has the most beautiful deep blue eyes, which were set off perfectly by the blue in her blouse – no coincidence, because she really knows her stuff. Incredibly generous and helpful, she gave spot-on advice about various items that were considered for purchase. It’s no surprise such a smart cookie works in publishing, although the fact that she works on magazines about motorcycles, and also owns and rides them was a fun discovery.

Finally, ChewySpaghetti (Khris) drove all the way from the desert and still managed to arrive looking stylishly cool and casual, from her fun chocolate colored Cons to her fabulous tortoise shell glasses. Shy in person, Kris exudes a caring personality and can’t hide her sensitive, artistic soul.

We all headed into Zara, sticking close to Angie like baby ducks, noting what items she was drawn to. Most of the others were too courteous to pester Angie for her opinion, but I knew I wouldn’t have the opportunity to shop with a pro again, so I boldly solicited advice. I spotted a casual knit blazer that filled a huge hole in my wardrobe (casual coverage in warm weather) and got thumbs up for the cream color. Rachel found an amazing butterfly print top, and Angie was rhapsodic about the bright orange featured throughout the store.

Leaving Zara, we walked down the street toward H&M, with a slight detour into a pet store. The loving mama of a furbaby, Angie bought a tasty treat for Yorkie Rosie back in Seattle.

As we headed to the next store, an attractive man on the street literally stopped in his tracks and told Angie she “looked like a movie star.” The rest of us instinctively closed in like a protective entourage, while the admirer complemented her outfit. An embarrassed Angie laughed it off, and we quickly scooted into H&M, where Karli found a fabulous scarf, MaryK bought a blazer, and Khris tried on lots of tops and dresses.

Next, MaryK led us to a small boutique she loves, and beamed with pride when Angie was smitten with several handbags. She brought home too?

Still going strong, we made our way over to the GAP, where Karli, MaryK and I scooped up the same blue knit blazer at 40% off the sale price!

Moving on, we were drawn into the Kate Spade shop by the beautiful handbags, and MaryK scored an amazing jacket, half-off, that fit her like a glove.

Time for lunch! We walked to Chado Tea House, where we met the man behind YLF. Greg sported a casual purple striped shirt over a black tee, jeans, and his signature no lace shoes. Not many men would willingly endure lunch with eight women, at a tea house no less, but Greg was a real trooper, and took time to talk to each of us individually.

After lunch, we posed for pictures outside, and it was obvious we were having a blast – a passing woman was compelled to stick her foot into our group “guess the owner of the shoe” shot!

After strolling past a few more boutiques, a quick look around J. Crew, and another visit to Zara, it was obvious no one wanted to end the day just yet, so Lily suggested we get some coffee. Total strangers just a few hours earlier, we sat and talked like lifelong friends for a bit longer, until finally, reluctantly, it was time to say our goodbyes.

If you ever have a chance to attend a YLF gathering – try to do so. It’s not just about the shopping, although that’s a wonderful part of it. It’s more about meeting people in real life you’ve come to know through the online forum, and getting to know them beyond the questions about shoes and handbags. I feel I have six wonderful new friends, not to mention two new blazers. Thank you, Angie and Greg, for visiting Los Angeles.

And thank you, Angie, for inspiring us with your personal style and professional advice. You are our very own fashion angel, and we’re all so glad you’ve created this heavenly spot for us to learn and share!

Fab Find: DV by Dolce Vita Marci Sandal

If you liked the DV by Dolce Vita Pali Sandal that I recommended back in February, but found the heel too high, the Marci might be a great option. The straps are a little narrower, but just as buttery, and there is more toe exposure. The footbed is not quite as cushioning, but it does have a dear little one inch wedge heel.

The reviews on Zappos say that the sandal runs small, but that wasn’t my experience — I sized down half a size.

There are additional colours to choose from on Amazon.

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What Makes an Outfit Cool

When Sal from AlreadyPretty posted that “Color isn’t Cool”, it got me thinking. Sal explores the notion that “black is eternally cool and that neutrals are perpetually chic”, while reflecting on her own style which is bold and colourful. Are neutral outfits by definition more cool than colourful outfits? Can a colourful outfit be cool? And what does “cool” really mean?

You know a cool outfit when you see it, but “cool” is one of those things that is very hard to articulate. And cool is in the eye of the beholder — what makes you look and feel cool might not be perceived as cool by someone else. Since I read Sally’s post I’ve been trying to distill my own vague notions of coolness into something more tangible. I thought about how my clients view the concept, how I try to help them to achieve it in their style, and what it means for me personally. What are the prerequisites for a cool outfit?

It came down to three adjectives: effortless, distinctive and stylish.

Cool Outfits Seem Effortless

For an outfit to be cool, the wearer has to own it. You can’t be “trying”. It must be, and seem, effortless. This is the most important of my three adjectives and it’s all about the style of the wearer authentically reflecting who he or she is through the way that they dress. A gal dressed in an edgy way is cool only when she’s in sync with her look. It’s not only the edgy ensemble that makes her cool, but the fact that she is confident about it and her style genuinely reflects who she is. A fashionable modern classic gal who is in sync with her style looks just as cool to me. The same goes for someone with a bohemian, arty, retro, theatrical or romantic style.

Confidence is crucial. Sometimes a client with a very conservative style explicitly tells me that they want to be more cool, and the way I approach this is in stages. We take the biggest step towards cool that they are comfortable taking. The change makes them feel a little daring, but without making them feel self conscious and doubtful. Once they have mastered this new style, it is time to take another “cool” step.

Cool Outfits Are Distinctive

Just being effortless is not enough. A cool outfit must also be one that sets the wearer apart. This is one of the things that makes cool so hard to achieve, because being distinctive is risky and takes people outside their comfort zone, and therefore outside their “effortless zone”. As I mentioned above, the trick is not to go too far in one go.

An unexpected, but flattering outfit element takes an ensemble from nice to cool. An unpredictable twist, like mixing dressy fabrications with casual shoes, or wearing a classic dress with a punk hairstyle kicks up the cool quotient. For some it’s about making their body art part of their ensemble. For others it can mean wearing a cutting edge bright fuchsia jumpsuit under a strict grey jacket. Instead of wearing a bangle on one arm, wear bangles on both arms. Loosen up an outfit by scrunching up the sleeves. Or deliberately button up a playful blouse to appear more strict. Wear stuff back to front. Match your specs with your scarves. Instead of wearing one brooch, wear three. Wear a very monochrome palette.

All of these examples are about making the outfit noteworthy. In some cases the entire outfit is striking, and in others there is only a single element that sets it apart. There are both large and small ways to be distinctive with your style.

Cool Outfits Look Stylish

A cool outfit is also an attractive outfit, and therefore style plays a part. Wearing baggy sweats and rubber flip flops may be an effortless outfit choice AND will probably be distinctive, but it’s not cool because it’s not stylish.

Fashion isn’t everything, but it is one important component of style. For most people this means that a cool outfit must incorporate elements of what’s currently fashionable or cutting edge, no matter how vintage, retro, romantic, classic or bohemian your style. Note that we’re talking about incorporating an element of current fashion. It may be that your haircut and make-up alone do the trick. Or your shoes and handbag are modern when the rest of you is in thrifted vintage clothing. But without any element of current fashion, you run the risk of looking like you’re wearing a costume, or heaven forbid, dowdy.

This isn’t true for everyone. Some people will pull off being cool in ways that defy the current trends (Gwen Stefani comes to mind), but these people are in the minority. They are defining new trends.

Having Fun, Feeling Cool

An important thing to realize is that we’re all on the cool continuum. Even my edgy, confident clients that turn heads wherever they go are looking to take the next cool step. But their steps are more bold and daring than my clients who are just starting out. What makes it all the more fun is that we never completely arrive at “cool”. There is always an opportunity to stretch ourselves a little and add something new and distinctive to our look. This newness makes us feel more cool. And feeling cool, in turn, gives us the confidence that makes it effortless.

Finally, cool is not the be all and end all of style. You can be stylish and have fun with fashion in so many other ways. In other words, an outfit needs to be stylish to look cool, but you don’t need to be cool to look stylish. Wearing a more expected and predictable, but flattering outfit combination is still 100% stylish in my book.

Roundups

Simpler Items

This week's list of top picks list is about basic pieces.

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Assorted Items

Items for Summer, both in and out of air conditioning.

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Casual Summer Vibes

This week's top picks are good for a casual Summer vibe.

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Summery Earth Tones

These items are for those who like to wear casual earth tones in warm and hot weather.

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Hints of Spring

Some tried-and-tested winning items to refresh your style for Spring.

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Dressier Items

An assortment of dressier top picks might be just what the doctor ordered.

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Team Jumpsuit or Team Romper

To clarify, rompers are like jumpsuits with very short pant lengths. The pants portion on jumpsuits finish between the knee and ankle, or are normal trouser length; whereas the pants part on rompers are mid-thigh or shorter.

I swore I would never wear a jumpsuit again. But after seeing them look utterly fabulous at Fashion Week in September last year, I changed my mind and I am still trying to find one that suits my style. And there you have it. I am Team Jumpsuit because I don’t wear short shorts, and prefer more leg coverage.

I know, I know. Many of you are on Team Neither for this one, but just for fun, I’d love to hear your batting preference. If you had to choose because your life depended on it, are you batting for Team Jumpsuit or Team Romper?  Tell us why and no batting for both sides.

Add Asymmetrical Tops to Your Must Haves List

Of course, “must have” is relative. I’m excited about these swing tops with asymmetrical hems and see many styling possibilities for all body types. I am adding them to this season’s Spring and Summer’s Must Haves list because they are fun, comfortable and different.

Asymmetrical hems come is all forms, but in this case I’m referring to more of a “handkerchief” asymmetrical  hem, meaning that the front hem is shorter than the back hem with either rounded or pointy side seams. I’m not entirely sure when the style detailing first came about but it resurfaced in the 80’s, which is when I first wore the trend. And I just purchased a bright orange version of the purple Zara blouse below.

This type of asymmetrical top is available in jersey knits, knitwear and woven fabrications, and in cropped, regular or longer lengths. Choose your neckline and sleeve style. Generally, asymmetric tops work best in soft and drapey fabrications because they collapse gracefully along the contour of the body instead of making you feel like you’re wearing a tent.

Depending on the length, pair this top with slim-fit, bootcut and wider cut trousers, shorts or jeans. Pencil skirts will also work. The shorter the top (think cropped top), the wider you can go on the fit of the trouser/jeans silhouette because you’re creating a waistline by wearing a waist defining under layer with the top, OR actually showing off your bare waistline if you dare. Longer asymmetrical tops tend to look best with slim fit bottoms.

If you’re after a breezy Summer top, this is it. If you like to surrender your waistline, this is it. If you’re after a new type of blouse silhouette, this is it. Feel like camouflaging your tummy and hips in a cool way, this is it.  As you can hear, I’m all over the silhouette because it’s simple yet interesting.

Do yourself a favour if you haven’t already done so — try one on the next time you’re in stores and let me know what you think. I hope that you’ll be pleasantly surprised.

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