Healthy Is the Best Body Type

Working with clients across different ages and body types has made me acutely aware of how hard it can be to maintain a positive body image. And I have found that much of the problem is unhealthy comparisons. 

  • Comparisons with other women
  • Comparisons with our younger selves
  • Comparisons with conventional standards of beauty

It’s these comparisons that often lead us down a path to becoming dissatisfied with our bodies. They create negative energy that spreads into other areas of your lives. 

I believe the solution is to focus on yourself. Your current self. It begins with having a healthy body, no matter what your size, height, or age. A healthy body makes you feel strong and energized. You learn to appreciate your body for what it is and for what it can do, which in turn makes you confident about the way you look. This creates positive energy that spreads into other areas of your life.

Also important, but secondary to health, is style. Style is neither an age nor a dress size, but an energy and confidence that is expressed through clothing, footwear and accessories. Style is as much about attitude as it is about aesthetics. And you are in control of it. The more fun you are having with your style, the more positive your body image is likely to be.

Set the stylish example by being positive about your own body AND the bodies of other women. Don’t compare and despair. Strive to be healthy and confident at any age, and inspire others to do the same.

Ensemble: Statement Skirt & Black Support Act

Skirt Plus BlackThis ensemble is a fast fall back option for a statement skirt. Combine the skirt with a black support act and Bob’s your uncle. The skirt can be printed or solid. The print needn’t have black running through it, but you might feel more pulled together if it does. 

Here are the components of the ensemble: 

Statement Skirt: Choose a Fall or Winter weight skirt in a silhouette and colour that tickles your fancy. Pencil, flared, A-line, midi, mini. Any style at all. 

Black Top: Combine the skirt with a black pullover, knitted top, tee, shirt or blouse that works with the proportions of the skirt. Wear the top tucked, semi-tucked, or untucked. 

Black Hosiery: Think black opaques, semi-opaques or textured black hosiery. Semi-sheer black hosiery will also work. 

Black Footwear: Finish off the look with black booties, knee-high boots, mid-calf boots, pumps, oxfords or loafers. Feel free to throw in a pair of metallic shoes too. 

Accessories: Add a black or metallic bag. Or add a bag in a colour that picks up one of the colours in the pattern of the skirt. 

Top off the outfit with a cropped black jacket, denim jacket, or a coat. Add jewellery, watch, headgear and eyewear as desired. 

Ensemble: Statement Skirt & Black Support Act

I wore this combination to some of my holiday parties last year. I combined my new peach A-line midi with a tucked black turtleneck and thick textured black hosiery. Instead of black footwear, I chose rose gold pumps and bag. I topped off the look with a Winter white coat. Here are the exact pieces from my wardrobe, apart from the textured tights which are a substitute for the ones I wore.

Link Love: Sustainable Fashion in 2016

During this first week of the new year, I’ve noticed that many media outlets are wondering how social responsibility and sustainability in fashion will evolve in 2016. Here are four interesting articles on the topic:

Fab Links from Our Members

Laura discovered Worn on TV, a website that shows what your favourite TV characters are wearing and where you can buy those exact same items yourself.

This caught Aquamarine’s eye after the holidays, when we could all use some “bendy jeans”.

Annagybe didn’t know that sometimes the “designer” clothes you are buying at outlet stores aren’t actually designer.

Beth has been enjoying The Directrice blog, written by an attorney in DC with a good eye for colour and a sense of whimsy.

JAileen was dismayed to hear that turtlenecks are not cool.

Suz thought this in-depth article about “ghost workers” helps explain who is making our clothing in the global economy, and why we should care. 

Joy came across these suggestions for the best sculpting moves for your bum shape.

Vildy was shocked to learn that a majority of returned items never make it back to retailers’ shelves with many of the purchases ending up in landfills.

Roundups

Simpler Items

This week's list of top picks list is about basic pieces.

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Assorted Items

Items for Summer, both in and out of air conditioning.

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Casual Summer Vibes

This week's top picks are good for a casual Summer vibe.

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Summery Earth Tones

These items are for those who like to wear casual earth tones in warm and hot weather.

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Hints of Spring

Some tried-and-tested winning items to refresh your style for Spring.

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Dressier Items

An assortment of dressier top picks might be just what the doctor ordered.

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Duplicating Footwear Can Be an Effective Strategy

You duplicate footwear when you purchase a second pair that is identical to a pair you already have in your wardrobe. This can be a risky strategy, because your style preferences might have changed by the time you are ready to bust out the second pair. There is also the budget impact to think about. Still, the strategy has worked very well for me on three separate occasions over the last few years. 

My first duplication was a pair of cream patent booties. I loved the first pair, but saw that they were starting to wear and bought a second pair on sale. Both are now history, but I had an amazing run with them. Second was a pair of flat white ankle boots from Calvin Klein. I duplicated them after saying goodbye to a pair of flat white ankle boots from Zara that I wished I had duplicated. I wasn’t going to make that mistake again, and duplicated the Calvin Kleins a few months after purchasing the first pair — again, on sale. I’m VERY pleased I did because the first pair of white Calvin Klein booties were scraped quite badly on the vamp of the shoe in a cab on the way to the airport. I didn’t despair because I knew I had a brand new second pair waiting for me at home. I’ll probably bust them out for Spring. 

Most recently I duplicated my patent rust Chelsea boots from Topshop. They are wardrobe workhorses. It’s rare that I can walk miles in this high of a heel, the colour is unique and they fit my narrow ankles. I’ll keep the second pair boxed until the first pair are completely worn out.

Budget permitting, duplicating footwear makes sense for me under the following conditions.

  1. The styles must have a retro element to them that transcends the trends. That way they won’t date as fast as a pair of ultra trendy shoes. 
  2. They must please my fussy feet. When I find a pair that I love and are extra comfy, I look for money in my budget to duplicate them.

It also helps that I don’t easily tire of my footwear and tend to wear the same styles for several seasons, especially when they are very, very comfortable. Although my style preferences do change, I’ve found that to be less true with shoes.

So far, the regrets I have had about footwear duplication are about pairs that I didn’t duplicate, like my cream Thelma flat booties, and my cow print Okala pumps. Both are my go-to dressy shoes and they are also extremely comfortable.

Over to you. Have you ever duplicated a pair of shoes, and if so, has the strategy worked for you?

Weekly Roundup: Sale Items

There’s lots on sale at the moment as retailers clear their shop floors to make room for fresh Spring merchandise. I’ll be rounding up the sales all month long, and here’s the first instalment. 

Visit the collection page to see the items alongside my descriptions.