Aging Is a Privilege

With each passing year we experience more of what life has to offer. We learn to value our friendships and relationships. We absorb the richness of cultural diversity. We are exposed to more information. And we learn from our successes and our mistakes. 

With our experiences come the gifts of reflection, wisdom, and self-awareness. We can be less impressionable and less concerned about what other people think. We can be more open-minded, positive, proactive, patient and problem solving. The challenges we face can build emotional strength. We can learn about ourselves, deciding where we’d like to continue improving, and what we’d like to accept about ourselves.

Perhaps most importantly, I think we can all be role models for younger generations. I lost my mother when I was quite young, but I’m fortunate to have many wonderful role models, both on and off YLF. I see in them something that I feel myself too — a powerful sense of calm and confidence that comes with age. It inspires me. I see it shine more brightly in their style than anything they wear. It makes them feel more fab in what they wear. I feel it making me more confident in the outfits I wear.

Life is short, and aging is a privilege. By all means be a little more daring with your clothing, footwear, accessories and hairstyle as you age. Wear what makes you happy. Celebrate how you present yourself to the world. Enjoy your style, both the process and the results.

A Small Capsule For a Wrap Jersey Skirt

Stay-at-home Mum client Bridget likes to wear jeans and casual pants most of the time, which is reflected in her updated Spring and Summer wardrobe capsules. But every so often she likes to change things up, which is why she bought Banana Republic’s long knit layered skirt at the end of last year. It was too breezy and lightweight to wear in the Autumn and Winter, so Bridget had to wait till Spring to make it work. 

Skirts are easily orphaned when they don’t have the right tops and footwear to work with them. So as part of Bridget’s Spring and Summer refresh, we set out to complete a small capsule for her wrap jersey skirt.

We started off at home. Bridget had the right sandals (an old pair of metallic Eco sandals), the perfect blue denim jacket, and a great boho tote. Fabulous items but no outfits. We needed tops to complete the outfits. We tried semi-tucking some tees into the skirt, but didn’t like the combination. It felt too fussy for Bridget. She is happier wearing tops out over the skirt, which meant that she needed short roomy tops to complete the capsule. 

We found three short casual tops that worked with the skirt at Zara. Two patterns and a solid, and two wovens and a knit provided ample variety. The hat made its way into the capsule because it also worked well with the look. The skirt together with the tops are a fast and comfy pull-on-and-go combination. The items are easy to launder and very comfortable to wear. The EXACT items in Bridget’s wardrobe capsule are represented in the collection below, which combines new and old wardrobe items.  

I’ve put similar items together in a Polyvore set so that you can see the capsule more clearly. All three tops can be worn with the same skirt, jacket, sandals, hat and bag. We added a topper, because in Seattle you’ll need one at some point during the day. Bridget’s sunnies and Apple watch complete the look.

A Small Wrap Jersey Skirt Capsule

Link Love: An Abundance of Denim

My social media feeds have been filling up with all sorts of denim-related articles, so today’s post is dedicated to the abundance of denim:

Fab Links from Our Members

Beth Ann loves how this model-turned-designer is taking on the high-heeled fashion industry by creating a collection of fabulous low-heeled shoes with a modern retro feel. Notice all the block heels and mules!

Dakotacheryl likes new-to-her blog Atypical 60, and her post about “Shit Old Ladies Do.”

Angie thought “10+ Reasons I Love My Ugly Body” was a compelling and heartfelt read.

Angie also wanted to share Sally’s post about a play in which a character reeled off a series of fat jokes, and how she feels about acceptable prejudice. 

Stockings with pre-painted toenails made Angela K smile.

Krishnidoux enjoyed this article about a fashion reporter explaining why she tries not to buy anything under $150.

Texstyle thought this was interesting: A London receptionist was sent home for refusing to buy and wear at least 2″ heels for a temporary job. She’s now trying to force a change in the policy.

UmmLila came across a humorous piece on Mom Haircuts, something she had not heard of before.

Ledonna N. loved this uplifting personal essay on style by novelist Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie.

Roundups

Simpler Items

This week's list of top picks list is about basic pieces.

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Assorted Items

Items for Summer, both in and out of air conditioning.

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Casual Summer Vibes

This week's top picks are good for a casual Summer vibe.

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Summery Earth Tones

These items are for those who like to wear casual earth tones in warm and hot weather.

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Hints of Spring

Some tried-and-tested winning items to refresh your style for Spring.

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Dressier Items

An assortment of dressier top picks might be just what the doctor ordered.

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Must Haves for Spring & Summer 2016

Fashion has become such a complex melting pot of sartorial choices that almost anything goes as long as you add an intentionally trendy aspect to the outfit. To my eye, stylish people have a noticeable element of “fashionable now” in their look, which means adding some degree of current fashion, however small. 

So without further ado, here’s a shortlist of six must haves for the warm weather season that cut across all body types, ages, price points and lifestyles. As always, it’s a question of finding the renditions that work best for you

1. Cropped Pants & Jeans 

This is the number one way to update your wardrobes if you like to wear trousers or jeans because we are living in the era of the alluring ankle. Styles can be dressy for the office, or casual for gals on the go and for those who work from home. Silhouettes can be sleek, like skinnies, or flare out at the hems, like straight legs or bootcuts. Silhouettes can be slouchy, like harem pants or wide yet streamlined, like culottes. Boyfriend jeans and khakis that are rolled at the hems also do a nice job of showcasing the ankle, as do cropped leggings worn under skirts, dresses and tunics. 

There is a version of cropped pants and jeans for everyone and for every occasion. Most styles look best cropped between two to four inches above the ankle bone. Any longer and they tend to look like regular bottoms that are too short. Make the silhouette look intentional. Cropped bottoms also work well into the Fall (and mild Winters) when worn with booties.  

2. Ankle-Accentuating Footwear

Ankle-accentuating footwear goes hand in hand with cropped jeans and ankles. So make sure you have the right footwear to wear with the look. You’re looking at ankle strap footwear and high-vamped footwear. Ankle strap sandals or pumps, heeled or flat, with straps that are positioned on or above the ankle bone are a slam dunk with the look. Ankle straps that criss-cross along or above the ankle, cage heeled sandals, and gladiators with ankle straps are another way to go. 

High-vamped footwear like loafers, oxfords, short shaft booties, high shaft booties, cut-out booties, sandal booties, slip-on sneakers, mules, slides, and sneaker hybrids can also be great choices to wear with cropped pants. Their high vamps create a continuous visual line with the shorter length of the bottoms, which works well. 

3. Tailored Pieces

The sea of fashionable slouch and oversized silhouettes should be tempered with items that are tailored and fit closer to the body. Also, wear items that define the curve of the bust, waist and hip because that looks really fresh. These items can be: fit-and-flare dresses, sheath dresses, flared jeans, tailored skinnies or straight legs, fitted tops, peplum tops, pencil skirts, fluted skirts, culottes, tailored trousers and structured jackets. Or you can simply wear a roomy top tucked into tailored bottoms to showcase the waist. Remember that tailored fits are tighter than fluid fits, but not as tight as body-con fits. 

4. Asymmetrical Component

Asymmetry is becoming a buzzword for our current fashion generation. Think asymmetrical hemlines, necklines, pockets and layers of clothing. Think asymmetrical haircuts, hair colour and necklaces. Wear mismatched earrings and asymmetrical necklaces. A pair of shoes can also have a mismatched pattern. 

5. Modern Retro Component 

Modern Retro means combining looks and vibes from past fashion eras with a good dose of Modern. You’ll find that the ‘70s and ‘90s are trending particularly strongly at the moment, but don’t let that hold you back. Think of adding a little or a lot of any fashion era to your look and make it your own. Personally I’m drawn to the ‘60s, ‘70s and ‘80s, but perhaps you’re drawn to the ‘20s, ‘30s, ‘40s or ‘50s? Or to the Edwardian or Victorian eras. It’s all good, and all in good fun. 

6. Wild Cards 

Add an item to your wardrobe that is atypical for your style persona, but that speaks to you in some way. This is an excellent way to evolve your style, making it feel extra refreshed for the season. Wild cards can be new colours or styles of clothing, footwear and accessories. Or a new way that you wear your hair, your make-up, or put together your outfits. 

I’m all over these six ways to refresh my own style. Flared cropped jeans have become wardrobe essentials in blue and white. I’ve been into ankle strap footwear, flat oxfords and loafers for years. I’m enjoying defining my waist with pencil skirts, full-length flared jeans, and fairly fitted cropped tops. I’m smitten with Modern Retro, and loving the soft romantic flounce. And my new wavy ‘do adds an asymmetrical component to all my outfits.

I love the way today’s fashion celebrates an infinite variety of stylish possibilities. More than ever before, we are living in a fashion era that is ultra accepting and encouraging of all sorts of outfit juxtapositions and silhouettes. We celebrate personal styles from the super classic to the ultra fashion-forward and everything in-between. Gone are the days when looking stylish meant dressing in one particular way. This is truly liberating.

JAMES PERSE Linen Tapered PantsELLERY Bulgaria Stretch-crepe Flared Pants

TIBI Cropped Stretch-faille Tapered PantsTOM FORD High-rise Flared Jeans

SEE BY CHLOE Cropped Mid-rise Flared JeansOSCAR DE LA RENTA Floral-print Silk-blend Cloque Top

RAG & BONE Distressed Denim ShortsOSCAR DE LA RENTA Cotton-blend Corded Lace Dress

Weekly Roundup: Bold Pieces

Some prefer wearing a bold item from time to time, or even most of the time. Silhouette, fit, fabrication, colour, pattern, garment detailing, or trim are all things that can make an item bold. Of course, boldness is relative. Something that seems bold to one person, might seem subtle to another. 

Here’s a selection of items that are quite bold to my eye. Some of them are available in an assortment of colour options so be sure to take a peek. I bought the bright red cropped jacket from Zara earlier in the season and absolutely LOVE it. It’s been a “go-to” topper for the last few months because of its Modern Retro sensibility and very happy colour. I also added the Stuart Weitzman gold loafers to my Summer flats capsule, and they have become wardrobe workhorses. 

Browse the collection page to see the items alongside my descriptions.

H&M
Lyocell Tunic
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J.Crew
Teddie pant
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Zara
Faux Leather Jacket
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2
Zara
Printed Shirt
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9
Zara
Short Blazer With Zip
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