Happy Memories on Mother’s Day

Every Mother’s Day I dedicate a post to my late Mum, who passed away in May many years ago. She was the one who encouraged my interest in fashion and style from an early age. When I was 21 she supported my career change from Psychology to Fashion when my Dad needed a little convincing. 

Thinking back to my 29 years with Mama, it was the time before I was a teen and then again when I was in my twenties that we were the closest in our relationship. I had the best childhood growing up in Hong Kong, and my Mum had everything to do with that. I entered the fashion industry at age 22 and Mum was an instrumental positive force at that pivotal moment. Bless her for supporting one of the best decisions of my life. 

Mama never knew YLF, but she was there for our wedding in 1996. She was in her late fifties then, and passed away a few years after that. I designed my own wedding dress, and had it made by a talented 80 year old seamstress who my resourceful Mum found in Cape Town. Mum also designed her own outfit, which — true to her glam self — was a shiny column of warm earthy glitz, draped with lots of gold and garnet jewellery. 

This is one of the most recent photos I have of us together. It was taken a few hours before I walked down the aisle to my beloved Greg. I got ready for our wedding in my parents’ house and she and I had a ball. I’m wearing her dangly pearl earrings as the “borrowed” item for my outfit. We had a lot of fun organizing the wedding in record time, and I owe lots of the finesse of the beautiful day to my forever stylish Mama. 

Mum

All these years later and I think of Mama many times a day, both with a sad and happy heart. She would have turned 75 this year, and would have loved to visit us in Seattle. She’d have liked the food, shopping, Spring blossoms, Asian culture, pretty Seattle scenery, and our friends. But spending time with our Yorkies would have been the biggest highlight, because there are few people as besotted with dogs as my late Mum was. Her fiercely protective and unconditional love for her husband, children, and dogs is what I remember most vividly about her. A very precious memory. 

We at YLF wish you a very happy Mother’s Day.

Taking a Stand with My Summer Body

My legs are covered in spider veins. My dermatologist tells me that they are, thankfully, not a health issue. I could have some of them removed, but the results would be temporary and incomplete, because there are just too many. Two years ago I started the treatment, but stopped halfway. It was just too painful. 

So here I am two years later with more spider veins than ever, and in Seattle’s record setting hot weather, also baring my legs in skirts and dresses more than ever. Just as they are. And why not? My legs aren’t perfect, but they are healthy. They serve me extremely well, whether it’s racing around with a client on a shopping trip or holding a pigeon post at yoga. The fun I’m having wearing knee-length skirts and dresses trumps any remaining insecurity I have about the way my legs look. 

At 25 I would feel self-conscious about baring my pale skin at the start of the warm weather season, because in my circle tans were an essential way to look healthy and stylish in the Summer. Now at age 45, I don’t mind one bit looking untanned throughout the year. For me and my complexion, maintaining healthy skin by staying out of the sun is a much more important style goal. 

Spider veins and pale skin will continue to accompany my Summer outfits because that’s who I am. It’s empowering to no longer feel embarrassed about these aspects of my body.

These are small things, I know, but they used to loom much larger for me. I’m grateful that age has helped me to put them in perspective. As summer approaches I hope you too can put any perceived imperfections in their place and enjoy the wonderful weather.

Weekly Roundup: Summery White Items

Few things scream Summer as much as adding white items to your wardrobe. White items look fresh, cool, crisp, light, soft and pretty. There’s also something graphic about them that works well with black. And of course, white is a slam dunk with any shade. 

All my clients add white to their Spring and Summer wardrobes – some in higher volumes than others. Some like to wear white tops, footwear and belts. Others like to wear white jeans and jackets. Fewer wear white dresses, but white handbags are gaining momentum. 

Here’s a selection of Summery white pieces, that are also available in multiple colour options if white is not your thing. The vibe ranges from casual to dressy.

Browse the collection page to see the items alongside my descriptions.

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Roundups

Simpler Items

This week's list of top picks list is about basic pieces.

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Assorted Items

Items for Summer, both in and out of air conditioning.

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Casual Summer Vibes

This week's top picks are good for a casual Summer vibe.

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Summery Earth Tones

These items are for those who like to wear casual earth tones in warm and hot weather.

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Hints of Spring

Some tried-and-tested winning items to refresh your style for Spring.

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Dressier Items

An assortment of dressier top picks might be just what the doctor ordered.

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The Alluring Ankle

Fashion has been highlighting the ankle for several seasons. Once considered more risqué than exposed breasts in western society, and still off limits in some cultures, ankles definitely have an allure. In most cases, the ankle is highlighted by exposing it, but sometimes it’s covered in just the right way. Here are some examples. 

  • Cropped pants and jeans in multiple silhouettes come to mind right away. Flared or tapered hems are cropped two to four inches above the ankle to make a statement, for example. 
  • Ankle strap footwear with straps that are positioned on or above the ankle bone showcase the ankle quite beautifully. Ankle straps that criss-cross along or above the ankle are another way to do just that. Cage heels showcase the ankle too.
  • High-vamped footwear like loafers, oxfords, short shaft booties, cut-out booties, sandal booties and sneakers are more subtle ways of showcasing the ankle. Their high vamps highlight the ankle by cutting close to it, or covering it to create emphasis. 
  • High-low maxi dresses and skirts lift a little higher in front to showcase the ankle. 
  • Tattoos are strategically placed around the ankle to draw attention to it.
  • Statement ankle socks, which are particularly popular with the fashionable youth of Japan and Hong Kong, draw immediate attention to the ankle. 

You might not want to showcase your midsection, décolleté, back, upper arms or thighs, but you CAN showcase your ankles, and feel instantly confident and attractive when doing so. You don’t need to have slim, sculptured ankles to make the fashion I described here work well for you. All ankle shapes can look great sporting today’s ankle-accentuating fashions when you find the versions that work best for you. 

I think it’s marvelous that a seemingly nondescript part of the body is having its fashion moment. I hereby declare the ankle the body part of the year.

How to De-emphasize a Large Bust

I’ll preface this post by saying that it isn’t at all essential to de-emphasize a large bust. Following guidelines to create perfectly balanced outfit proportions is only one way to look stylish. This is 2016, and you can look stylish creating all sorts of outfit proportions, as long as you feel fabulous wearing them. 

Some of my clients have a full bust and don’t follow the guidelines below (except for #1, which applies to everyone). Others do want to visually minimize the size of their bust because that’s how they feel fabulous in an outfit. Here are 12 visual techniques that might be useful if you fall into the second category. You can use more than one of them in the same outfit.

1. Get the Foundation Right

If you haven’t been professionally fitted for a bra, get that sorted asap. Too many women are wearing the wrong bra size. It’s a common mistake to go too wide in the band and too small in the cup. Wearing the right size bra in the correct shape for your body type smooths out your silhouette, defines the waist, and makes clothing fit better. 

2. Try a Minimizer Bra

If a supportive and comfortable regular bra does not achieve the bust shape you’re after, you can visually reduce the size of your bust with a minimizing bra. I have never worn one, but clients tell me there are effective and comfortable options available. 

3. Lower Necklines and V-Necks

Showcasing skin above the bust helps to break up the expanse of the chest. Wear V-necks, scoop necklines, key-hole necklines, and open boat necklines. An open shirt or blouse collar will work because it creates a V-shape above the bust. 

4. Tailored Tops & Jackets 

Wearing tops and toppers that follow the contour of the bust and waist visually reduce the size of the bust because you’re showcasing the narrowest part of the torso. Unstructured tops with high necklines in stiff fabrications maximize the size of the bust because they create a cube-shape from the bust down to the hip.

5. Large Necklaces

Large statement necklaces worn on the skin of low necklines do a marvelous job of visually reducing the size of the bust because they create a focal point away from the bust. A delicate pendant necklace tends to get lost. That said, if you prefer daintier jewellery and have a large bust, choose a necklace that has spaces between the beads or pieces so that your skin peeks through. 

6. Knitted Tops

Knitted fabrics stretch over a large bust, which prevents gaping and whiskering. The fabric skims the contour of the body and is more comfortable too. A classic knitted V-neck mock wrap top with side ruching magically minimizes the bust like few others do. They work well on a defined waist, but tend to cling onto the midsection of apple shaped body types.  

7. Shoulder Detailing

Garments with interesting shoulder detailing — like raglan cuts, shoulder embellishments, epaulettes, and in some cases shoulder pads — focus the attention away from the bust.

8. Higher Cut Armholes

Armholes that are cut closer to the body of sleeved garments create a snugger fit, which reduces the size of the bust. Baggy fits around the bust — especially in stiff fabrics — tend to make the bust look larger. 

One exception: Batwing and dolman sleeves can work very well with a large bust when the drape of the fabric is great (that is, the fabric collapses back onto the body nicely), and the neckline is low. The photo below provides a good example. 

9. Diagonal Lines

Diagonal lines are magical. Think asymmetrical hemlines and diagonal stripes because they straighten curves in ways that balance out proportions. 

10. Optimum Sleeve Lengths

This is a subtle strategy, but quite effective. Wear sleeve lengths that do not finish near the same height as your mid bust point. Wear sleeves shorter or longer, so think sleeveless, diagonal sleeves, three quarter sleeves or long sleeves. 

11. A Focal Point Away from the Bust

We’ve covered two ways to do just that by wearing large necklaces and shoulder detailing. But you can also draw attention to other parts of your style by wearing dramatic hair, footwear, trousers and skirts. 

12. A Line Down the Centre Front of the Body

Wearing a tailored topper open over a top creates a vertical line down the front of the body which slims down the size of the bust. Vertical seaming, like darts and princess seams are subtle, but can have the same effect. 

City Chic Top

In my experience of dressing women for a living, I’ve found that the first four dressing strategies are the most effective. The right bra is essential. Lower necklines break up the expanse of the chest, and outfit structure is your friend.