Amy, I actually gasped when I saw these photos. This update is so interesting to me! And you look so very pretty here. You have a beautiful luminous skin.
First off, I love the hair and I agree that you can continue to tweak it to get the look you are after.
And I really like the glasses, especially the red ones. They frame your eyes beautifully.
What I see when I look at these photos is someone who is actually a bit polished as well as a bit edgy, a bit tomboy, and a bit classic.
Hmmm. Maybe you are an industrial urban prince? Or maybe industrial isn't the right word at all. And maybe urban isn't, so much, either. Maybe you are a Prairie Prince.
In all honesty, I think that a lot of black and hard-edge fights with your natural colouring and body type. At the same time, I understand that you are unhappy with an overly classic look, and an overly polished look feels precious and probably unsustainable, given your lifestyle.
I wonder if Marley could be an inspiration here. Black is not her buddy and she uses it quite sparingly. Yet she still maintains an edgy look. Hers is probably a bit TOO edgy for you (given where you live and your lifestyle). But the way she marries edge to a softer colour scheme and some feminine touches -- it might be something to look at?
I almost feel as if "rugged" might be a better descriptor than "industrial." Some of your pieces need to have a bit of solidity to them, and others need to be quite refined. A mix.
In the end, I sometimes think we "core modern classics" use the words "edge" or "twist" as shorthands to describe something that is awfully difficult to convey -- and then sometimes these words, in turn, take us in the wrong direction. Edge becomes too hard, too dark, too sombre. Twist becomes too quirky, too twee, too vintage/retro. What we want instead is something different. And what it is, we must discover...(as Virginia Woolf once said about her own fascination with clothes.)