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ETA NEW HAIRCUT PICS - Haircut help!

Roxanna

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ETA: so I had my haircut today! I told the stylist what I wanted (a new one -turns out mine is on Mat leave!) and she was a bit hesitant to do it. She talked to the owner of the salon (who is a master of curly hair ) and he said that he liked asymmetrical on my bit that what I was proposing would be too severe for my face shape. So what they did instead was similar but instead of an undercut (he said that was dated) - they did it short on one side and gradually made it longer in the back to the other side - he called it “Prince in his Purple Rain phase”
I love it and although the difference is subtle, it does feel softer and more modern to my eye. I feel like a new woman
THANK YOU to all of you for encouraging me to go with my gut!

Photos attached below (7-10) - it’s hard to catch the back in photos but I tried my best!

Hi ladies,
I need haircut help! In the last two years, I have gone from having a near- pixie to shoulder length to everything in between (my hair grows REALLY fast.)

I have had a bob for the past few months, after chopping it from shoulder length. I think I want to go back to a stark asymmetrical cut - I miss my edge, and as my hair gets more silver, a curly bob is starting to feel like it’s sneaking into Golden Girl territory. This is especially important for me because I’m thinking of a be career direction and I want to look modern and style-forward as I age.

My stylist told me that an asymmetrical cut is dated - what do you think?

#5 is my hair now; #1-3 is the haircut I’m thinking of.

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SarahD8

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I feel like hair is sort of like clothing where it suits some people to follow trends and it suits others to find their signature look and milk it. I love your asymmetrical cut and if you're feeling drawn to return to it I vote trust yourself. The confidence it brings you really shines through in the pics

Liz

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I love the idea of more distinction with your hair shape, because your hair IS so incredible. Did your hairdresser have any suggestions for a shape that would give you the edge you're looking for, but be more current?

Kate

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I've always loved your asymmetrical haircut. It suits you beautifully, and I've always thought of it as your signature. I don't think your hairstylist is correct in stating the asymmetrical cut is dated. Regardless of your stylist's opinion, I'd go with my gut.

slim cat

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Definitely asymmetrical haircut - it's like trademark. It suits you and looks modern to my eye. Love your hair!

Roxanna

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Thank you my friends - this means a lot. I have been struggling lately - my hair doesn’t feel its best and I think overall I just feel rounded and relaxed in my appearance and in my life, like a pool of melting ice cream. I need some structure and some assertion in my haircut and in my life. I’ve started taking steps in my life but my haircut doesn’t reflect that. Also I’m interviewing for executive level creative positions and I don’t want to look like I’m going to seed, if you know what I mean.

Your comments mean a lot and are giving me the confidence to go with my gut.

Jules

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Totally agree it’s signature for you and will look fab! Asymmetrical cuts may trend sometimes but overall I think they are avant garde. Not a conventional choice and it’s not just anyone who’s going to rock one like you do. Can’t wait to see it again!

Bijou

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I love the asymmetrical cut and with your curls it is unique and very distinctive. Confidence and feeling your best when interviewing is important.

Sal

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What everyone else said..... I think SarahD8 nailed it!!

All the best with the job hunting!

Janet

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Ooh, I’m responding before I even read the other comments because I can relate to some of your feelings. I wondered about going back to my asymmetric cut but my stylist also discouraged me, saying it wasn’t really the most current looking style now.

I’m at a bit of a loss too. I’m still not loving the grey in my hair — I’m really just kind of tolerating it, and I don’t feel my hair is nearly the asset it used to be to my appearance. I let it air dry today instead of blow-drying it to straighten it a bit, and it felt particularly unfab. So I’m trying to find the right answer for me going forward too. I like the shag idea but I’m having a hard time getting the details right — it seems too short for what I’m going for, so I’m letting it grow out a bit and then I’ll see if we can get the layers shaped correctly. Hair is hard!

Runcarla

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Shorter definitely suits you. You could ‘audition’ a return to the asymmetrical (shorter on one side) style by getting a shorter symmetrical ‘do and then using a comb or barrette or pins to hold one side up and back from time to time. If you find yourself pinning up the one side more - or just liking the look more, then you should commit to the asymmetrical cut.

Photo below is a length that I think suits you.

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Suz

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I think SarahDB nailed it. The shorter length suits you, asymmetry also suits you, and whether or not it is trending, it still looks sharp on you, which is what you want.

ETA -- also wishing you well in the job hunt! Your confidence will shine through if you go with your gut.

Catmom

My hair color is very close to yours and my curl is similar but a bit tighter so I feel your pain — it is hard to find fun edgy short cuts for curly hair and find a stylist who can shape them well. I too have rocked an asymmetrical pixie style with the longer side ranging from 3 inches stretched to as long as my chin when stretched. I am currently growing out the top after a shorter cut, but am not sure where I want to land, other than that I much prefer an undercut of some sort to blended nape and sides. Here are a couple of cuts I have been thinking might work, even though the models look like their hair was straightened. Maybe they will speak to you? I don’t yet have enough length to make these work so I am keeping my eyes open for options, and also checking our men’s curly fade cuts.

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Sloper

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You have enviable curls and gorgeous brows! I don’t think the asymmetrical look is dated, but I did a very quick Google and saw some styles with trimmer sides and volume on top. Alternatively more volume to the back. Maybe your stylist can use pins to approximate different looks before you cut?

Roxanna

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Thanks all - your suggestions and genuine positive feedback have really helped me go with my gut.

I think it’s something about the texture and colour of my silver hair - I love it, but I really do have to be careful how I style it, because the coarser texture and colour can make cuts that looked modern and fresh before feel …tired and frizzy somehow.

@Janet, I think this is what you mean too. Though my hair is in good condition from not being colored, it needs some sort of extreme shape to give it style and edginess, otherwise it just droops into a sad nest of matted curls. So I think I will go back to an asymmetric style, having been assured by all of you that it suits my face shape (I was worried about that, since I don’t have delicate features.) and trends be damned - I will look more stylish with hair I am confident in.

Jaime

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Gasp! I cannot tell you how much I relate to this Roxanna! I have been growing out the shorter side of my hair for a few months also (and my hair also grows relatively quickly) and now I miss the edge. "

a curly bob is starting to feel like it’s sneaking into Golden Girl territory" Yes! Exactly! But I had grown tired of the same old, and also, frankly, the need to get it cut every 6 weeks. Now I am in total blob (not yet a bob) territory and wondering what to do.
Anyway back to you ! I see some potential in #4 - a shortish almost pixie but without the asymmetry. Also check out Julia Garner's hair. I have included a picture of what I have in mind. She has the asymmetry but instead of sharply cut on the short side, it is softer. Might work really well for your hair. So excited to have a hair sister in my situation!

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Carol

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You know, I never know what's in, but Super Hero Darla in Shazam 2, who's one of the best ones, has an asymmetrical haircut. That movie came out this year, I think.

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Star

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I am a rebel by nature so the fact that it is not trendy makes it more edgy to me. GO FOR IT! Someone who trusts her gut and to hell with the crowd IYKWIM

Jules

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Still in full support of the asymmetrical cut but coming back to say I do also really like your hair in #4. The volume on top and shorter, tighter sides and back definitely suit you. Just food for thought. Also found this pic which seemed interesting - still asymmetrical but a little different:

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Olive Green

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For a creative position, I might go for a moderately asymmetrical cut, your curls offset any harshness that might be conveyed by the undercut. It’s a strong visual, which would appeal.
The more generic executive long bob in 6 (is that really you?) looks very professional, but less approachable, especially for the younger set.
Star has it, I think.

Janet

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I’m back to focus again on the photos of you (sorry my initial reaction was of such personal interest, I went down that path!). You really look great in that shorter asymmetric style. I don’t think the style in #5 has nearly the same personality. You wear the short asymmetrical cut so well I can see it being more a signature style for you, that doesn’t read “dated.” I think your overall style is modern and the asymmetric cut doesn’t conflict with it to my eye. I think you need to be true to yourself!

I also try to remember that inspiration photos have been styled carefully. The cut doesn’t just fall into place like we see in the photos. I do not have the talent or the patience for taking a lot of time to style my hair after washing and drying it. What’s more, I can work with it, use product, get it where I want it…and then an hour later it’s doing it’s own thing. So my expectations around inspiration photos are very modest.

RobinF

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I know exactly how you are feeling! I have been struggling with my hair for a while now and my latest cut was a disaster that I have to fight with every day to get something I am halfway OK with. It's crazy how unfab hair can make me feel unfab everywhere.

I think the first cut looks great on you, as has been said it is really a signature look for you. I also like #4 as a softer version of it. I say go with your gut.

Rejoiceandbe

You look most confident in your asymmetrical cut photos but I, too, like picture #4. It looks professional without looking staid. If your hair grows quickly, why not try a variation on that theme before you go for your asymmetrical cut.
Also , if you are interviewing for an "executive creative position" I assume that you will be more involved in dealing with stakeholders and representing the organization than you have been before. What about the norms in that environment? Too edgy and you may not be taken seriously by external agencies. Too staid and you may not be taken seriously by your own organization. It's a tricky balance! Good luck.

unfrumped

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I agree with shorter, and some degree of asymmetry, maybe if I were doing it I’d go in stages ! But hair is great in that before long it’s back for more options.

I get “current “ hairstyles to some degree, and heaven knows I should protruding something different myself , but there’s also “ hair behavior “ for every person. For extra, I sometimes eat to try a softer slightly longer cut, but any breeze flops my hair around, I can’t jump out of bed at 5:30 ready to help grandchildren , or travel without having to somewhat blow dry & style.

SarahD8

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Coming back to say that also, I think the juxtaposition of your asymmetric salt and pepper curls with your thrifted luxe clothing is quite a signature look for you that conveys your creativity and values. Hairdressers are very skilled at what they do, but I think sometimes they can over-focus on the neck up and miss the bigger picture. (Thinking of the time I deliberately wore a colorful fair isle layered over a black watch shirt for a haircut thinking "surely this will help them understand the practical yet ethereal look I'm going for" and being baffled to walk out of there with a newscaster cut!).

NancyW

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I agree completely with SarahD8, especially about your wardrobe. You wear some lovely classic wools and your vacation look was 'practical' as well appropriate. I think the juxtaposition with the asymmetrical cut says more about who you are and what you aspire to be in the world.

Sisi

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I vote asymmetrical cut! You lok fab in #3.

Irina

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I think you look great with the asymmetrical cut but I’m with Jaime, softer, shorter length on the long side looks more contemporary to my eye. You hair is awesome!

rachylou

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Admit to liking 4 best. I feel the assymetric isn’t… crazy enough. Like it needs to be turquoise in this moment in time…

MizBeeWee

Pulling myself out of lerkdom here since I am also one of the asymmetric curly silver pixie club. I LOVE your asymmetric cut! I wish I had your curls, but I also love my thin haired wavy cut. I get complemented on it frequently...I think because it is unusual to see now days, which I take as a good thing! I have cut my hair into this style only within this year. It was a bob before. I felt the same way you and Jamie feel about a bob. It was not projecting the image that I wanted to project...a little to matronly for my style. All that hair just seemed to drag me down. I am also able to wear this style a little more carefree than the bob which always seemed to need some kind of primping to maintain its style.

The last time I had it cut my stylist's next appointment came in and sat in the next chair. My stylist mentioned to the lady that since she had curly hair she could cut her hair like mine. She proceeded to say how dated it looked and she had had the style before in the 80's and 90's. She certainly didn't want it now. Wow! My stylist and I exchanged looks and I smiled and said "Well, it suits me." End of conversation.

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