You made me laugh kiwichik - with this admission re: being a 'total financial control freak'. You know what? I strongly suspect that we're all control freaks in at least one or more areas of our lives. Meanwhile, I think being a financial control freak sounds like a smart place to be 'control-freak-ish.'

this has been a very interesting read. as a somewhat newlywed with an even newer mortgage we are still working out many of these things. it's interesting to me that a significant number of couples have separate accounts as we seem to be the minority in that respect amongst our peers. i also think it's interesting that so many women are the ones who do the bills, finance, etc.