Una's recent post got me thinking about the fact that now in my 40's I feel much more confident and comfortable with my style. Even with some of the challenges I have encountered with respect to dressing in my 40's (for example it's only been in the last couple of years that I have considered and started navigating the concept of 'age appropriate' dressing), my confidence and certainty of my style is still so much greater than in my 20's or 30's. (BTW I am not suggesting it's perfect but I am much clearer about it these days)
This got me thinking about exactly why that is.
My very simple conclusion is that in my 20's and 30's I wore what I thought looked good on other women. Now in my 40's I wear what I think looks good on me. While I have always been concerned with what flattered my figure, I spent very little time considering what "felt" like me, and what reflected my personality, etc. YLF has taught me many things and one of them is what questions I need to ask myself when I am buying new pieces.
Perhaps this self assessment is just a normal progression as we get older... I don't know.
For fun, I thought I would share a visual. In the late 80's Laura Ashley was a bit of a thing here. My friend bought a matching top and skirt set which I thought was so lovely on her. SO I bought one too (different style and pattern... just for the record). The closest I could find to the outfit, via a google search, was the pic below. It looked absolutely ridiculous on me. I wasn't comfortable, it didn't flatter my figure and I have never ever liked florals on myself. What was I thinking lol. Now I am able to appreciate a look on someone else and yet recognise it's not for me.
Irrespective of age, those who experience this confidence in themselves and their style, what has been your process, and for those who feel they are still working their way to this place, what do you think will lead you there.
If this is too much naval gazing...my apologies, but if you have read this far, I would really appreciate your thoughts and experience.
xxx Deborah
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