I am delighted so many of you relate to my feelings wearing my sister's clothes. And the funny thing is that I give her so many of her clothes - but of course I pick things that are right for her, not me. (Bra details at the bottom for those that asked.)
Suz - Interesting point about enhoused (?) cognition. I really don't like being away from home, but always connected it to other reasons, but the parallel is there. Will contemplate further. Creepers were just big enough for a comfy insole .
elpgal - Another interesting point! Wearing clothes that belonged to a past self rather than someone else can also create dissonance. Lots to think about.
Runcarla - I was in SE Florida (Boynton Beach). Florida is so big I am sure things are different in every area. Good you had better luck than me, regardless.
Thank you pirouette! Yes, wearing one's sister's clothes might have even more layers to it than someone else's now that you mention it. Even though I am very close to my sister, there must be some inherent tension from defining our own personalities.
April - It is unsettling. Samson with his hair cut off vibe really. Yes I love the full volume curls too, but it gets chaotic as you know .
Dee thank you! I can imagine seeing pictures of yourself in a borrowed jacket would be jarring. Who is that person?
RobinF - Right! It is surprising, or maybe not. And thank you!
Roberta - it was enlightening. Although I have read about enclothed cognition in the context of work, I have seen less about it as essential to our sense of self.
Thank you slim cat! Fun but wearable pieces is my goal!
Brooklyn - Ha - Florida is not normal . But a different from of abnormal was a good change. Thank you the coat is vintage of course, Georges Rech in case you want to start a hunt.
Suntiger - Yes! I wonder if some uniforms are meant to keep the workers off balance.
Thank you Sal. Honestly I go between anger, despair and then crawl back to dissociation a bit too often.
phoebe I love that! You should post about one of your experiments.
Jonesy - you paint the perfect (and accurate) picture! I am impressed. But don't feel too badly, every evening was happy hour chez my sister and that made up for everything.
Bonnie, yes. For me it was both expressing myself, but also being myself, if that makes sense.
Angie - Thank you! Although it has been clear from the beginning how much you do to support your clients (and all of us!) psychologically, and I know you are very interested in enclothed cognition. I hadn't quite felt viscerally how much are presentation supports us.
Regarding the bra - I have been wearing Chantelle's underwire t-shirt bra for years (just replacing the exactly same model as needed). But, truthfully, they are out of the house bras for me and I would always switch to something softer at home. I have fairly large breasts, that have seen a lot of breastfeeding and a very big twins pregnancy and I need support. I had read about the Evelyn & Bobbie Defy bra somewhere doing bra research and decided to try. So I was on the border of small and medium so took a medium. The information said that it would take a few days to loosen up and fit perfectly but I found it super comfortable right away. But it doesn't provide the support of my underwire bras. It is better than my home bras but not what I want when I am in public. I am wondering if I had gone with the smaller size the support would have been better. Apart from that it is a slip on, which is not ideal. But, on the other hand, it is truly so comfortable. I would definitely consider ordering another size or model in the future. Hope that helps!
