My Top Thirteen Style Tips

Thirteen years and thousands of blog posts later, there’s a lot of content about fashion and style on YLF. If I had to narrow it down and choose my thirteen favourite style tips, these would be them. 

1. Dress Your Body in Clothes that Fit Today

Embrace your size and shape. That means acquiring clothes that fit well and make you feel attractive, because your body deserves to be stylishly adorned right now. Not several pounds up or down from now. If you’re on a long weight loss or gain journey, purchase items that fit well along the way. Keep purchases to a minimum, but don’t spend months and years in ill-fitting and drab clothes while your body changes.

2. Assess Undergarments, Hairstyle & Eyewear Upfront

Address the fit of your bra and knickers, the look of your hairstyle, and the shape and colour of your eyewear before you address your clothes, footwear and accessories. Having these aspects in place gives you an effective head start and the rest will fall into place more easily.

3. Dress According to Your Figure Flattering Priorities

Your figure flattering priorities are beyond trends and completely personal. So pinpoint and prioritize the types of proportions that make you feel great about how you look and confident in your outfits — and run with it. They might be conventional forms of figure flattery, or shift into avant-garde unconventional territory. Or perhaps you’re a mixture of the two depending on the occasion, setting, your lifestyle, your audience, and the season. It’s all good as long as you’re wearing outfit proportions that make you feel fab.

4. Don’t Leave Wardrobe Items for Good

Wardrobe items are there to be worn. So WEAR IT and don’t stare at it. Be the dressiest, boldest, edgiest, trendiest or most sensual person in the room and enjoy it. There is no time like the present, and if not now, when? Life is too short to leave wardrobe items for good.

5. Assess How You Feel in an Outfit

Sometimes an outfit looks great in the mirror or to others, but doesn’t make you feel fabulous. Style starts from within, so listen to these feelings because it’s YOU wearing the outfit. Wear outfits with a high happiness factor because they are the ones that will make you the most confident and stylish version of yourself.

6. Milk Your Signature Looks

The most important trend of our fashion era is Individualism. Fashion is a melting pot of sartorial choices, trends are no longer seasonal, and fads no longer exist. Fashion is more diverse, and more accepting than ever of all sorts of styles. Trends are becoming harder to define, and at some point they will be irrelevant. That’s why developing and milking the signature components of your style is as current, modern and hip as it gets.

7. Create Brow, Lash & Lip Definition and Look After Your Skin

Cleanse, moisturize and use sunscreen daily because healthy skin makes your style shine more brightly. A workout and a walking lifestyle does wonders for your skin too.

You don’t need to wear lots of make-up, but a little goes a long way to accentuate your lovely features making you look brighter and more alive. Create eyebrow definition by grooming your brows. If they are light, use eyebrow dye or eyebrow pencil. Mascara makes your eyes pop. And a little lippy, whether it’s gloss, lipstick or tinted balm, for the final polished touch.

8. Ask Yourself 4 Questions to Troubleshoot Problem Outfits

You can often identify the problem with an outfit that is “not quite right” by asking these four questions.

  1. Is it the length of an item that will make the difference?
  2. Is it the level of contrast between the items and your skin tone?
  3. Is it the colour or pattern?
  4. Do you need to add heels to the outfit?

In some instances you’ll solve the problem by actioning one fast tweak.

9. Edit and Review Your Wardrobe Regularly

Edit and review your wardrobe monthly so that you know exactly what you have, how it works together, and how you feel about the items as your style evolves. This process sharpens your wardrobe planning, shopping and outfit creation skills more than you think, If monthly edits and reviews are excessive, stick to a seasonal strategy. As with most things, practice makes perfect. The more regularly you edit your closet, the less time-consuming and easier the subsequent edits become.

10. Leave No Retail Stone Unturned

Each retailer has its good and bad points, and should be awarded a clean slate at the start of the season. Budget permitting, shop all price points from posh department stores, boutiques, chain stores and fast fashion, right through to thrift stores, Goodwill, garage sales, flea markets, and your friend’s closet. Shop the kids and menswear sections if you have to, and don’t forget the sporting goods store. It doesn’t matter where you shop as long as what you buy fits the bill and makes you happy.

11. Keep Poison Eye to a Minimum

We can’t help our “poison eyes” (items or combinations that we don’t like on anyone, ever), but try to keep them to a minimum. Fashion and style is very subjective, which makes keeping an open mind very important. Your own style preferences might be narrow, but try to appreciate items and styles that are outside your personal preferences on someone else. Doing so reflects a love for fashion and style that goes beyond your own appearance.

12. Be Patient With Your Style

It takes time and resources to build a baseline wardrobe and refresh your style seasonally. It also takes time to accurately identify your needs and refine your style preferences. And just when you think you have it all figured out, your lifestyle will change and so will your preferences. Be patient and don’t expect everything to fall into place after one season. If you’re frustrated with shopping or another aspect of your style, take a break, and revisit things later. Style is an ongoing journey with many paths and temporary destinations. Enjoy the process as much as the end result, and learn from each leg of the journey.

13. Have Fun with Fashion at Every Age

We need a wardrobe that suits our needs and style preferences throughout our adult lives so it’s never too early or too late to have fun with fashion and style. Dressing daily is an opportunity for self expression, creativity and FUN. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad about enjoying fashion and the way you put your style together. Wear your style with intention, confidence and verve, and spread good energy to those around you.

Team Bra or Team Jiggle

I’m seeing more and more women, across a range of ages and breast sizes, sport the bra-less look. Depending on the breast shape, the clothing and movement, the absence of the bra is sometimes more obvious than others. The trend seems to skew towards younger women.

There are good reasons to leave off the bra. Maybe the bra interferes with the cut or line of a top. Another perfectly understandable reason is that the bra feels uncomfortable. This is 2019, and wearing a bra is definitely more of a choice than an obligation.

That said, I bat for Team Bra. I’m old school in this regard, and I don’t like any jiggling at all. I like the visual shape and lift a great bra gives my bustline, especially in body-con tops. I find that wearing a supportive bra with underwire is a lot more comfortable than going without. Plus, I LOVE pretty bras, and enjoy wearing them. I’m a modest dresser, and wearing a bra makes me feel modest, polished and confident.

Over to you. Do you bat for Team Bra or Team No Bra? Tell us why, and no batting for both teams. If you can’t pick a side, feel free to sit this one out on the bench with salmon en croute, a green salad, and your favourite chocolate.

* A gentle reminder to be respectful and sensitive in your comments because this is a delicate subject.

Shopping For the Future

I like to sport new wardrobe items as soon as possible. I’m quite happy wearing a new purchase right out the store if it matches what I’m wearing. When something new comes into my wardrobe, I’ll wear it that evening or the next day. Wardrobe items are there to be worn, and there’s no time like the present. I bat for Team Wear.

Sometimes I will buy wardrobe items knowing that I can only wear them in two to four months because the weather is wrong to wear them right away. When I see a winner that is especially hard to find or fit, I don’t wait till later to buy it because it will be gone in my size and in the colour I like best. I learned that the hard way. Plus, a winner is a winner, full stop. If you made the right decision, you should still love the item several months later.

The right dress and shoe can be hard to fit, so when I find them and they’re within my budget, I pounce. I did just that when I saw the Free People shirtdress and Sam Edelman ballet flats back in January. With snow on the ground and a distant hope for hot weather, I bought these darlings knowing I could only wear them in May. I patiently waited four months and today I’m wearing my new dress for the first time. I debuted the flats a few weeks ago. Love them!

The Nordstrom Anniversary Sale for Fall and Winter merchandise is my favourite sale of the year. Because it’s in July, I usually have to wait two to three months to wear the heavier items. Again that’s just fine by me. It’s exciting to have new items waiting in the wings for the right weather.

Roundups

Simpler Items

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Assorted Items

Items for Summer, both in and out of air conditioning.

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Casual Summer Vibes

This week's top picks are good for a casual Summer vibe.

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Summery Earth Tones

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Hints of Spring

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Dressier Items

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Outfit Formula: Easy Utilitarian

The Utility trend makes a stronger statement with each passing season. Our casual fashion era and the popularity of irregular outfit juxtapositions have made wardrobe items with utility detailing more versatile and appealing than ever. It makes sense that the trend continues to work well at retail.

Think cargo pockets, carpenter pants, chinos, field jackets, utility jackets, chore jackets, camouflage, netting, webbing, drawstrings, and casual items in shades of tan, khaki and olive. Remix items with a utility vibe both in casual and dressy outfits.

Here are four easy casual utilitarian outfits to get you started. Some of the looks are Utility-Lite, because why not!

1. Utilitarian White Jeans

This is the most utilitarian looking of the four outfits, but not hardcore. Combine white jeans with a black top or slogan tee. Add black sandals, mules or loafers to pick up the black of the top. Top things off with a utility jacket in an earthy shade of olive, tan or khaki.

Proenza Schouler PSWL Drawstring Coat

2. Utilitarian Blazer

This is the easiest outfit to pull together. Combine a pair of olive or khaki utility pants or chinos with a black top, black blazer and black sandals. Sub the black for grey or navy if black is not your thing. Or lighten it up with shades of white up top, and metallic sandals.

Citizens of Humanity Harrison Tapered Pants

3. Utilitarian Dress

There are many, many styles of utility dress and jumpsuit that needn’t be sleeveless or as fitted. Feel free to style it any way you like. I enjoyed the unique juxtaposition of boho espadrilles and tote, ‘80s headband, and ‘60s eyewear here. A pair of wedged sandals and crossbody might be more your thing. Or sneakers, mules, sandal booties and gladiators with a satchel.

Anthropologie Oona Utility Dress

4. Utilitarian Pretty

Last is a very subtle utility look because the wide crops are utility-lite and and the rest is whatever you want it to be. Combine utility wide crops with a soft and pretty blouse or knit top in a colour that matches the bottoms. Finish things off with chunky platform sandals. I like the navy, mustard and rust colour mix here. The striped draped pullover is a fun and practical touch. Add jewellery, eyewear and watch as desired.

Anthropologie Pintucked Chino Pants

Link Love: Sustainable Shopping Tips

Flat footwear aficionado Hannah Rochell of En Brogue put together a comprehensive guide to buying sustainable and ethical footwear.

She also wrote this interesting post on 5 ways to be a more sustainable shopper, and this one about 6 sustainable alternatives for your everyday beauty routine.

Someone else worth following if you are interested in sustainable, low-waste living, is Sophie of A Considered Life, who shares “practical tips on simplifying your life, adopting low-waste habits, wearing sustainable clothes and cruelty-free beauty, to work towards living a considered life that is more purposeful, sustainable, and compassionate.”

Refinery29 lists 7 clothing brands “that will help you recycle your clothes, and will reward you with store credit so that you can responsibly replace those things in your closet you’re totally over with something special that you’re going to cherish for a long time.”

Fab Links from Our Members

’90s fashion is definitely in the zeitgeist — or at least the thrift stores, according to Shevia, so she loved reading this article on why Monica from Friends is this Summer’s unlikely style icon.

Vildy directs us to this article on the Spotlight Effect: anxiety people can feel when changing their style or adding an item that could call attention to itself. Vildy adds: “I don’t think it mentions fear of looking like you are trying too hard, but I would guess it falls into this category as well.”