I've had to read this thread carefully -- I'm not in a very strong place at the moment, and, frankly, it made me weep.
First, I'd like to shout out that I'm the statistical average. I'm a 14, sometimes a 16, and occasionally a 12. Shopping wise, it's like sitting in the crack of the sofa during a Lord of the Rings marathon -- in-between and uncomfortable. Plus size clothing never fits, and the most elegant manufacturers don't fit either my frame or my budget. I'm a good 40-50 lbs heavier than I should be, but, at my lowest weight of 150 ( at 5'6" and in my twenties), I had clearly visible ribs, about 19 percent body fat and was a size 10 (likely a size 8 in today's measurements).
Secondly, the current research is busting a lot of myths about weight and food (I've been reading David Ludwig recently). We are in a real transition point in the study of nutrition, health and obesity, and I'm doing my best to align my lifestyle with emerging science, all the while working a job that gives me no medical coverage or benefits while raising a family on a shoestring. Right now, the anxiety and time crunch from my new job means I'm not eating as well as usual, and I'm getting less exercise and sleep.
Everyday I feel "less than" because my body is considered "more than."
Every. single. day. I try not to look in the mirror.
It sometimes feels as if women prefer thinner friends as much as men prefer thinner wives.
I have a husband who cherishes me, and yet I am still disappointed in myself, even though I know that I'm resourceful and hardworking. My accomplishments pale beside the reality that I'm bigger.
Although the real truth is I'm the average.
Why don't I change?
I'm changing everyday. I'm pushing it to make my way in the world. I'm praying for and loving my teenage children and wonderful husband. I'm serving God and my community, working in a helping profession that hasn't seen even a cost of living raise in !4 years! I am formidable, creative and kind, and I'd like to have a day when I don't feel "less than" because I'm "more than." I don't want to size out my smaller sisters, but I'd like to walk into a store and pick up the average size off the table, instead of having to dig through to the bottom of the pile, knowing that that I'll try on 20 items to find one.
Did I mention that I"m average?