Nebraskim – I think you should at least try one pair. That’s how I started. I wasn’t sure I would be able to pull it off. My first pair was 2 sizes larger than my regular size to ensure they fit and bought on sale. If I hated them on then I wouldn’t feel bad for “wasting” the money.
Joy - I have never seen you wear something that overwhelms you. I love your outfits and I believe it has a lot to do with proportion
Krista – I am so glad you got past your fear of tucking. I had the same issue (a little too round in the torso area due to tummy and boobs). I understand where you’re coming from on the issue of having friends who have smaller cups, not wanting to wear tops that skim the body. I can’t tell you to abandon your comfort zone because I understand the lecherous looks that will ensue as a result. I do think there is hope because you now tuck when you hadn’t in the past. Eventually (unless you want to pursue surgery) you should aim to embrace them. I’m not saying put them on display by wearing a deep v to
your navel but you shouldn’t feel the need to hide who and what you are
because of other people’s behavior and their issues (you’ve got more than enough of your own!). I’m just glad that you’re open to the process of doing something different and addressing your body issues head-on rather than even if it’s just a little bit at a time.
TraceyLiz - I'm going to play around with this silhouette too and see if I can mix in different pieces. I can't wait to see your version.
Peri -- I so understand your feelings around wanting to abandon the default bombshell look. You certainly don't have to be one simply because your body lends itself to that style -- because as you said that's not an authentic expression of you. I love your point about choosing to highlight or not. What I had to realize a number of years ago that just because I didn't highlight the body part in an outfit doesn't mean that the body part can be ignored or that it is mysteriously disappeared.
Suz - you are so generous with your personal journey -- thank you! I tried to follow that general advice about voluminous tops over skinnies for the longest time. I couldn't do it well because I hated the icecream cone silhouette it gave me. So as much as I love surrendering my waist it's not flattering, but I thought I had no where to go if I wasn't wearing a tunic length cardigan or top with skinnies. I noticed that you wear a lot of crew necks, boat necks and button front shirts -- I thought it was an extension of your style preference I never assumed that you took issue with your chest -- interesting. Oddly I have always assumed that a smaller chest looked more tasteful in low cut tops than a larger chest. To my eye, a cleavage-bearing top looks too overt on a curvier woman because it's obvious she's blessed in that area so to do form-fitting plus cleavage to looks cheap (under most circumstances). I am also glad you tried out booties with skirts. I'll get around to trying it out myself. You're right that it modernizes skirts instantly. I have long legs and I am sure that unless there is some tone matching the look will make my legs look shorter too -- so you're not alone. I am not sure it's your body more than it is the look of booties with skirts.
FlorenceFearne - Your story is exactly what I'm talking about. It's been 10 years and although your arms are fine you feel naked without longish sleeves. Thank you for sharing. Perhaps you can be coaxed into a short-sleeve in time.
Angie -- I am working on it. I just love seeing different looks on different women's bodies because it gives me the courage to try something new. It's one of the primary reasons I love the forum. It's just amazing to me that I had this issue with skinny jeans that I wasn't necessarily consciously of. Now I'm looking for areas where I'm resistant to stepping out of my comfort zone.
Marlene - It's great that your recognize your "fat bottom" bias. I say play around with different lengths -- I am a huge fan of full skirts and it's too cute a trend to avoid. On the other hand, I certainly understand what it means to have a body part you feel is out of proportion to the rest of your body. It feels so conspicuous. So long as you don't pretend your butt isn't there, I don't think your closet will miss a full skirt if you hate them.
Firecracker -- I can't wait to see what you come up with when you think on this more.
Beth Ann -- I love the first line of your response. Challenging yourself I'm guessing is the down payment on a life well lived. Very inspirational. You beautifully summed up in one sentence what took me probably 2 pages to figure out. Now, I want to see the red jeans and chambray
Adelfa - You make an excellent point. As you hone your style preferences it is important that you don't discount a look as "not for you" simply because of an erroneous assumption you have about your body. It's so much better to be aware of that now than later.