Thank you for the kind comments ladies.
Some of you have already asked in this and my other threads if I'd post the photos of the "final product". Sure, some I will, but I also expect it will take us a long time to furnish and decorate completely because we need to buy most of the bulky furniture (most of the old one was sold when we moved countries) and for some specific details I need to live in the space and feel it in order to know what exactly I want to put and where. This is what my husband and I often look at differently, he'd like to plan most details in advance and buy ahead, while I want to wait to go inside and then decide.
carter :: there's no rest for the wicked, I'm starting the packing and boxes labelling today, but I do hear you and I will rest when I can.
Joy :: yes, the entire block of houses where ours is, there 4 families, has similar completion dates' estimates in end June / early July. Since I already know my neighbours (and really look forward to living next to them), I knew the unofficial information as they were getting it before we heard anything from the building company
Kristin :: I'll try to be short, which is hard as it's a subject close to my heart I'm definitely the wrong person to ask about moving families abroad, because my answer is unreservedly YES. It's a life experience nothing can match. You are right, kids pick up language so much easier than grown ups, for our son it was the third language and he had no problems at all. He felt a bit left out in his first few weeks in the kindergarten, but slowly as his language was progressing, he reached the level sufficient to function fully in his environment and then it was easy. His teacher (he started school last September) could not believe he only learn German less than a year by that point.
With us it's different, of course. My husband is at a very good level right now, a year into living here he had found the right language school and has seen significant progress ever since. English is the official language at his workplace, but people of curse speak German and he's surrounded by it daily, so this all helps.
I'm a different case, I still don't work and don't have regular daily exposure to the language. We also don't have TV at the moment, so I "soak my brain in language" mostly by watching DVDs of familiar films dubbed in German. I only went to the beginner's level course last winter to start ironing out my grammar, but I still have a lot of work ahead. I wish I was at a better level by now, but to be honest I had no idea we'd entangle ourselves in the house build so soon after the move, so I give myself slack. Someone had to ensure daily life happens as close to normal as possible. The language will happen eventually. I function though and have developed the skill of expressing what I need with limited vocabulary.
Not having command of the language is an obstacle, but cultural differences should not be underestimated. It's interesting to observe the lifestyle around me and to compare how people from different parts of the world and even Germany who live here (it's very international place due to industry and university) perceive the environment. But, this life experience is priceless and I never regretted it. So, no short answer for you, but encouragement - hopefully.