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WIW: Mom at Home does Sensual Romantic

Ket

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First take at Sensual Romantic does Toddler Mommy At Home

Be honest and let me know what you think! You all are very gracious and will not hurt my feelings by giving constructive criticism.

What I love:
Fit of the sweater.
Colors of the camel sweater with the lipstick and necklace.
Bootcut! I adore skinny jeans, cigarette pants, etc. but the bootcut is refreshing.
Hair. It feels pleasantly retro yet sexy.

What I dislike:
The bust line. I really need more support than my bralettes. Supportive, lifting bras are high on my buy list.
Belt. I need a curvy cut of jeans. These are straight cut and wrinkle across the back thigh and slide down in the waist, thus the belt.
Jeans. I don’t hate these, but would prefer a higher waist and curvier cut for better fit.

Sweater: old, J. Crew merino. (Going on 6 years old now!)
Bootcut Jeans: old, Target
Necklace: raspberry topaz, new Christmas gift from my husband
I’m wearing Maybelline’s Red Revival lipstick and discontinued mineral eyeshadows in an orangey nude and cocoa brown plus cool black-brown eyeliner.
Hair is in a 50s/60s style French roll.

No shoes because I don’t wear shoes in the house. But if I did go out, I would put on my wine colored velvet booties or snow boots. (Freezing cold and snowy here). The booties would probably nod more to 70s than 50s.

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no pic?

Ket

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Texstyle, fixed!!

Anonymous

Hair and makeup are fantastic ! I agree with all of your assessments - although I think the lower rise jean is really nice on you and suits your body type.

Ket

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Lisa P, thank you! I so appreciate the feedback. I think maybe the belt is just throwing my eye off with the mid rise? I do want higher rise (natural waist rise) pair of jeans at some point; I have some sweaters that hit just below my natural waist and can't stand my tummy hanging out. But I'll keep mid rise in rotation!

Helena

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I love this! I don't think the belt looks bad? Maybe a new belt you're happier with on the shopping list?

Ket

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Torontogirl, aaahhh! Okay, good point! Probably it's just the belt poisoning my eye to the jeans. I admit: it's a leftover, hand-me-down from my brother. I've had it for years, mostly because it fits and I've just never bothered to find a replacement. It's heavy leather, but probably too blah and masculine anymore for me.

Anonymous

I echo the love for this.
You look wonderfully vavoomy in a great relatable way. Well done.
Your opening statement is delightful, lol.

Angie

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I agree with your assessment, Keturah. Lovely hair and make-up. SENSUAL.

Curvy fit jeans will work really well. Try Good American.

May I suggest a shorter belt so that the buckle is in the middle of the waist and the end does not flap about.

Joy

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A beautiful change from tatty workout clothes or a tee and jeans that one usually sees on moms of toddlers. The toddlers are beautifully dressed even down to their coordinating socks and jackets. The moms look like they just fell out of bed. No judgement. It is hard work being the mom of even one toddler.

SarahD8

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Gorgeous hair and makeup and the silhouette is awesome on you.

Maybe a tooled leather belt with a floral design?

If I had a suggestion about the outfit it would be to add a bit of color in addition to your lipstick. When I read your comment about the velvet boots I thought: aha, yes, that! But, I have found that for me, I feel best in my at-home outfits if the at-home version is "finished" (ie, I don't have to add shoes to feel like the outfit works). Ymmv. And, I may just be wanting color because *I* like color, or because I don't associate all neutrals with "romantic." So, please disregard if that doesn't resonate.

Kate

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Your makeup & hair is beautiful, and I really like the midrise jeans on you and the tawny sweater. Sensual mom at home indeed. The belt doesn’t bother me, but I like Angie’s suggestion of a shorter belt.

ChristelJ

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You nailed sensual romantic. How wonderful you are doing it at home! You have inspired me to wear lipstick at home sometime “just because”.

Mainelady

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Lovely. I like the silhouette very much and am nodding in agreement that perhaps a different belt will enhance sensual romantic.

Ket

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Oh I am floating with all your kind feedback! Thank you all!!

Angie, yes please suggest! I just used the belt I had (to keep my jeans on lol). I am desperate need of something that fits properly. Just quickly glanced at Good American, love what I see! I will have to get a pair to try on. Thanks for a great recommendation!

Joy, thank you dearly <3 agreed, motherhood is tough work! I live in Colorado and the amount of leggings and activewear worn as everyday clothing still astonishes me. It’s became almost a status symbol and cultural form of dress. So strange.

SarahD8, thank you so much! I think a pretty belt would make a difference. I really love your idea to add more color! Seriously, this is really neutral for me compared to what I love. But the issue is I’m seeing what I own is all very lacking in color. I didn’t realize how much neutrals I have in my closet and hardly any color or pattern, which I adore. Or maybe too, it’s that I haven’t bought much of anything since having my son. I thrifted a couple of things I love. Otherwise, I’ve felt very scared to buy beautiful things, more color etc. I think some of it is confidence, and some of it is truly budget. And I worry about it taking a beating with housework, toddler too, etc. (Mom life!) My goal is to add pieces that I really love and not play it safe or be afraid I won’t love something 10 years later.

Kate, thank you!!

ChristieJ, oh yay!!! I’m so glad I’ve inspired you to wear lipstick just because. wearing makeup again, even on the days I stay home, has really helped my attitude and getting through some tough days as a stay-at-home mom.

Mainelady, I’m totally getting a new belt!

elpgal

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You look great and this particular cut of jeans suits you.

Bijou

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So glamorous, I love your hair and make up, red lipstick suits you. As for your jeans and sweater, they look good to me too and practical for looking after a toddler. I know when my son was small I wore clothes that I could pop into the washing machine, so getting my hair and make up right was important.

rachylou

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Also agree that a pair of high waist jeans would kick it up. That said, that camel colour is really gorgeous on you!

Jane

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Spot on! I agree with you and others suggestions. The red lips look amazing. My SIL is a devout red lipstick wearer, any where, any time, walking the dogs, going out.

Katerina

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So lovely! Beatiful hair and make up! I love the colour of the sweater on you - spot on. Agree with others on suggesting another belt. The silhouette is lovely. Kudos to you, toddler mommy at home, I wish I looked that polished.

SarahD8

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Keturah, I realized after I posted that you said you were wearing a topaz necklace. I bet that added a lovely sparkle of color in real life. Sometimes those little things really make an outfit for me although they might not register in photos. That said, I support you in adding more colorful clothing to your wardrobe. I can relate so well to that feeling of having a strong aesthetic vision and then realizing, hmmm, that’s not exactly what’s in my closet. I look forward to seeing how things develop for you!

Angie

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You are a bundle of positive energy, Keturah. I like that a lot.

Stagiaire Fash

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Opaline said it best: vavoomy in a relatable way.

Curious that you have cut back on color and pattern as a new mom. I'm not saying you have to match baby (though you could if you want to--leDonna clearly has fun with it), but if there's ever a time of life when color and pattern are even more appreciated, you're in it. I've just gotten back to winter clothes, after 8 years in Florida, and made the same realization as you--for someone who likes pattern, I've got precious little of it in my winter clothes! In trying to add it, I want most new pants to have some kind of pattern, or at least be an unexpected color. I think pattern has more punch on pants than anywhere else, because it's less expected. Maybe curvy patterned jeans for you? How about a belt in a color that works with a lot of things (maybe green or burgundy)?

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Cee

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Two thumbs up !

karen13

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You look lovely - the hair and make up are perfect, and the sweater and bootcuts suit you well. I'm jealous of your waves, and your ability to wear red lipstick and not look like you are playing dress up! Maybe you can shorten the belt at the buckle - ask your cobbler. I find it rarely looks right to hack off the non-buckle end.

Jaime

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Hair and makeup are gorgeous! Sweater color and delicate jewelry compliments you perfectly! Jeans actually look good but sure a higher rise would be more "current". So basically what you said!

tulle

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Could be time for a new belt, I agree. Maybe in bronze-y metallic leather? But even with the old belt, you look yummy, Mummy!

Ket

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Thank you all so kindly! My husband had a stomach bug. (Thankfully, little man and I dodged it!) So just getting back to check the boards and hello, so many sweet comments!

Many of you mentioned zee belt! Funny enough, I have 4-6 skinny belts in bright colors, and even a metallic faux leopard print. But I bought them in sizes to use as waist adornment. My waist is relatively tiny compared to my mid-rise measurement. So I can wear them to nip in sweaters but not keep up my current jeans. That's partly why I am leaning towards higher waisted jeans for now. Also, I think a higher waist/rise would be nice to keep from having a peep show as I run around and chase my son. There just isn't time and energy to mind my toddler and my stomach or derriere being on potential display! I have a slightly longer torso, so mid rise on me with a shorter shirt is pushing the envelope.

FashIntern, definitely feel you on winter clothes! We lived in Florida for one whole year and that was enough for me! But I also gave away some of my precious vintage winter coats thinking we would never return! I am still sad about that sometimes. I love your pant choices! They look so elegant and warm, and I love the patterns. As for color and pattern... After having my son it was easier to settle for dark, plain clothes that felt safe. I was physically in pain from all of my birth injuries, still carrying baby weight, exhausted, and was drowning at times in depression and anxiety. And the thing is, it felt like I couldn't control any of it. The idea of wearing anything pretty and being more visible to people felt incredible vulnerable and scary. I was afraid if anyone saw me trying to look or feel better they would judge me on how I looked. I didn't feel good about myself. Then too, finding clothes I love and feel good in that are still within my stay-at-home mommy budget is sometimes challenging. And I don't have my most amazing European tailor (who was uber affordable!) nearby anymore. (She is nearly a two hour drive one way, so I have to make a trip count or i spend more on the gas then the tailoring.) Cheap clothes seem to be cut, well cheap! She made everything look hand tailored for me. So it's just been a lot of adjustments. I am finding my way back to more beautiful colors and prints as my self confidence continues to grow, my body and heart heal, and as the last of the baby weight is shed. Motherhood was incredible shift for me and I definitely felt lost for a long time.

Stagiaire Fash

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I am so sorry to hear you had such a rough transition to motherhood! It is indeed a huge change. I'm glad you are coming back around to your bright and colorful self. Depression isn't something we can control--I know that all too well from personal experience (inbox me if you like). One bit at a time, we can take the steps that might lead to better health, and need to be forgiving of ourselves along the way.

About those pants--I wish they were mine! They're in my finds, but only aspirational right now, as are at least half of my finds. Two are beyond my budget and one is from a past season. These are what I've actually purchased. The plaid and the sweater I'm wearing right now are my first, and probably last, Asos purchase ever. They look good, but the quality just isn't there. The leggings are fun to wear at home with my "lounge" dress in a pattern mix that probably wouldn't be accepted in polite society, but I like it;)

I've never had a European tailor, but when my son was a baby, his nanny was a Romanian woman. We moved away when he was 2, but she was so wonderful that he still remembers what it was like to be with her!

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Ket

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FashIntern, I appreciate your kind words and offering a listening ear if and when needed <3 You are a caring person!

I hear you about style aspirations. My budget doesn't usually match my want list, at least not yet. And that's okay! Thankfully, we have lots of options these days. And speaking of.. I love all your choices. I would totally wear the print leggings with the striped tunic. And I would even maybe wear it in polite society haha! I know there is a line. It is really fun!

I love Eastern Europeans. They are so warm and delightful, and usually very matter of fact. How fun you had such a lovely nanny!

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