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WIW - tube skirt, casual, plus vent

Sara L.

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I need to vent a little - please skip and move on to the outfits if you don't want my overly emotional pregnant rant.

My mother-in-law, who I like and get along with just fine, is also one of the most tactless people I have ever met. She told me this weekend I was huge, looked uncomfortable, can’t believe I have 3 more months, and that I look bigger than April (my sister-in-law who is pregnant and due in August).

I'm trying not to let this affect me since I'm normally pretty content with my body - both pregnant and when non-pregnant. DH says he thinks it's because I’m all belly. April is quite a big heavier than me so her belly doesn't look so big when compared to the rest of her (not a criticism of April - she's been on bedrest a good portion of her pregnancy).

I just don't understand why everyone thinks it ok to comment on a pregnant women's size when they would never do that normally. I get a lot of comments on my size -- usually that I look big, but occasionally that I look small. Normally I can just blow off the comments, but they start to get to me after a while. Anyway, sorry about the rant, moving on to clothes...

#1/2 - Casual Friday outfit. This shirt is a loan from my (very petite) co-worker and is already almost too short.

#2 - Casual weekend outfit to run errands and go to lunch with my in-laws.

#3/4 - This tube skirt always makes me feel a little self-conscious so I was happy to find this sleeveless cotton shirt that covers my rear end. It's not a drapey fabric but at least it's long.

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26 replies

Latest reply was from goldenpig

Elizabeth P

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I hear ya. There seems to be an unwritten right people seem to think they have to comment on a pregnant body. And then to give parenting advice. Grr. Try not to let it get to you. And for the record, you look just about right for 6 months! Fab, in fact.

Love all the outfits, however I think the way the shirt in #5 falls isn't the most flattering. I like the look of the snugger ones, hugging your belly. But hey, you're pregnant and that tube skirt is awesome.

Thistle

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Yeah, I am with you. The other irritating part of pregnancy is when random people think it is okay to touch you!! WTF!!

Try to just blow her off. She probably doesn;t mean anything by it, and is so excited about the baby and trying to make conversation before it comes.

Anyway, you look terrific. I esepcailly like the tube skirt on you!

cobaltblue

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You look so cute! I actually love 4/5. I got tired of the unwritten rule that all pregnancy clothes should conform to the bump! (I have a 2 month old, so this is still on my mind.).

Sorry people need to remark on size all the time. I liked to hear my bump was big (doing a good job of growing that baby), but the comments do get stale.

Anonymous

I'm sorry you experienced that. People LOVE to comment on pregnant bodies. I don't think they realize how many buttons their comments can push, and how rudely it comes across. So much of what happens in pregnancy -- including how our bodies and bellies look -- is outside our control. The only appropriate thing to say is you look terrific, and more importantly, mean it. Otherwise, shut it.

I love seeing your maternity outfits, and I think you look fantastic and glowing. And I'm not just saying that.

I'd sorta forgotten about how bad it feels to have your body scrutinized during pregnancy until talking to my sister yesterday. She's about 20 weeks into a very difficult pregnancy. Due to undiagnosed gallbladder issues and having whatever super-morning-sickness condition that Kate Middleton had, she's lost 20 pounds. Some people ask rude questions about why she's so skinny and basically accuse her of starving herself out of vanity. Others tell her she looks good because she's lost weight. She's already upset about the health problems she's faced so far, and thoughtless comments about a situation completely out of her control make her feel terrible.

No Fear of Fashion

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They all look very good on you. The last outfit with the skirt is so pretty. I think you are doing a terribly good job of being attractive and well dressed during your pregnacy. Don't worry about what people say. It is the awe of the wonder that is happening. I am one of those tactless people as well. And I never mean: you look aweful. I always mean: Isn't amazing what nature does? How on earth is it humanly possible that your figure can manage this? So it is the amazement about nature. Not you not looking good. And believe me: all my collegeagues who were BIG, are completely back to normal proportions again. And I tell them once again: "It is amazing that nature (or gymnastics or diets haha) can achieve this too."
Hang in there.
Greetje

Eliza

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Aren't you glad you will never be that insensitive to anyone?

Sheesh. Where is it written that if pregnant, it is open season on hearing rude comments, being asked inappropriate questions or being patted in public? I think it is fun how different bodies do pregnancy. Quite amazing.

You look great and I love that skirt on you especially. Also like the tee shirt looks.

Glory

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Oh Sara I am sorry to hear this. You look fantastic and take such wonderful care of yourself. People can just say the meanest things - they don't seem to think first at all. Of course it hurts your feelings and can really get into your head.
Sending you a huge hug!

AviaMariah

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I love your maternity style. I was in your shoes last summer and feel your pain. In my case I carried small and everyone commented on my size and also asked whether I was eating enough - which made me worry more that I already did. My poor OB has to reassure me at every appt. that I was fine. For some reason people think it's okay to comment on a pregnant lady's size. I guess all you can do is grin and bear it. Or fly off the handle and blame it on hormones!!

Betti

I hate to tell you this, but the rude comments you get now are preparing you for the even ruder ones you'll get after the baby is born. The ones about your parenting skills, breastfeeding/non-breastfeeding, baby's weight/skin/name/sex/temperature, yadda yadda yadda. It's so sad but so true.

You look great, btw!

AviaMariah

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BTW - you look fantastic and are all belly which is what I'm sure your MIL was referring to.

Isabel

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I am sorry. It is such a weird thing that people lose their senses when women are pregnant. I find it empowering to ask for "clarification".

" I don't understand why you are telling me that. Is that an issue for you, because I feel great and the baby is healthy ?"

" Do you think that I am not taking care of myself ?"

"Are you suggesting that I do something differently ? "

" I don't understand why you are comparing me to April. "

I find that if you do that, it really deters them from saying anything again because they don't want their motives questioned or examined.

You look fantastic by the way !!!

Nebraskim

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You look healthy and fantastic. I love your kitty in the first two images; it's as if Kitty is saying "damn girl, you be looking so fine!"

rachylou

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You look really cute in all your outfits! But I always like it when you wear colour.

I don't know what to say about the comments. In my world, it's not done to comment on someone's person - pregnant or not. Except maybe if they're bleeding profusely and don't seem to know it because they're dizzy with loss of blood. In which case you say, "Sit down, don't talk, you're bleeding - you over there, call an ambulance!"

Oh, but wait. I lie. I forgot about my grand aunties. If you're skinny, they will say you're fat. And of course if you are fat, they will say you are too skinny. So you don't get too full of yourself.

Sara L.

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Thank you for letting me vent and the great advice and therapy!

I guess I'm lucky because I never have people touch my belly. I must put off some sort of do-not-touch vibe. On the other hand, almost everyone I run into seems to make some sort of size comment.

I'm also very thankful that this pregnancy has been (so far) relatively easy with no complications. My poor SIL has been on bedrest and also has a blood clotting disorder than requires two shots a day in her stomach (ouch!).

Caro in Oz

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Grr why do people do that? Like you say she is tactless.
I think you look fab in all these outfits.

Beth Ann

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Sigh. So sorry you're having to field such crazy comments! You look amazing, and are doing a fabulous job of keeping the style quotient high. Love the tube skirt!

Jeanie

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That is very uncool to comment on your size. Plus everyone carries differently. You are adorable in all of these outfits!

Suz

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Double plus annoying!! I do not know where people learn their manners, but something like what Isabel suggests would probably do the trick. Or, "I so appreciate your concern. I am feeling great!"

You certainly look great. I love the tube skirt especially!!

Anonymous

That tube skirt looks great on you! And I think you look healthy and beautiful and just right for where you are along.

I never had anyone touch me in either one of my pregnancies -- I think I have a strong do not mess with me vibe though.

Transcona Shannon

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What is wrong with some people???

I think you look gorgeous and healthy. And you are rocking that tube skirt!

Ariadne

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You look gorgeous! I love Isabel's responses. They'd work well in all kinds of situations!

Debra

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You look absolutely gorgeous just perfect, enjoy your lovely baby bump and show it off in that super tube skirt

Lantana

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You look smart casual as always in #1,2&3 and so chic in #4&5. I like the way you have picked up the floral swag on the skirt with the necklace.
Hope you are continuing to be and feel healthy.

JennyAnne

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Aw, well, I think it looks great. People do seam anxious to comment on all parts of others' pregnancies. Your MIL's odd comment notwithstanding, I guess it's because everyone is so excited for you. I know I love seeing pregnant women, but I really try to keep my excitement to myself... except for my sister. I'm allowed to touch that belly.

Susie

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I just don't think it's ever appropriate to comment on the size of a woman's body whether pregnant or not, even if it seems to be a positive comment. "Wow, you look great. Have you lost weight?" might be meant as a compliment but what if she has lost weight due to illness.

Anyway, I think you look fantastic! I've been impressed with your pregnancy style and these outfits are all very nice.

goldenpig

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I'm sorry your MIL is so insensitive. People make so many rude comments when you're pregnant. I've learned to press an imaginary ignore/delete button in my head. You look great and so healthy and slender. I love your outfits, especially the tube skirt one--wow! Enjoy your pregnancy and don't let the ridiculous people get you down.