Hello, all! As someone who has consumed fashion media content online for almost 20 years, I do not understand how I never came across this community until today. Now that I have, I'm really excited to be here and connect with you all.
I tend to be a lurker when it comes to online forums but I was moved to *actually* join and speak up on this one because of the warm and helpful tone I read in so many posts. Some kind of fear of vulnerability or public embarrassment has definitely kept me from sharing my experiences online before, so I'm grateful that this space exists because it feels like I can take some risks here.
I'm a 30-year-old who has lived in NJ for most of her life. I have always loved fashion but I struggle to have a clear sense of both my body type and my style. I suspect this is due to pretty long-standing difficulties with body dysmorphic disorder*... while I have healthy behaviors challenge my negative judgments about my body, I do struggle to see it accurately and celebrate it--especially in how I dress. I've always gravitated towards bold fashion but in the past few years, as I developed my professional identity, I've found myself seeking more basic, muted clothes in styles and cuts that help me hide the parts of my body I'm not happy with. My personality is definitely not any type of shrinking violet, so this attempt to be less visible feels inauthentic and I want to turn it around. I'm hoping you all can help me see myself more clearly so I can feel empowered to dress in a way that energizes me and feels like a real expression of who I am
I am 5'8" and ~believe~ I am a small-busted 8-type hourglass, but again, I'm not confident in the accuracy of how I perceive my body. I definitely have broad shoulders, high hips, a proportionately smaller waist, and hips that are as wide as my shoulders. I've started wearing more wrap styles (dresses, tops, skirts), and they do feel more flattering and comfortable compared to the highly structured separates I used to go for! I'm drawn towards more graphic shapes and color-blocking without doing too much mixing of loud colors or prints. However, I do love to through in a statement piece in each outfit (though I feel I've lost my touch for this since Covid and my aforementioned invisibility tendencies). It feels appropriate to describe my style as Modern Classic interspersed with some glam, edgy, and romantic touches.
I'm also not entirely sure about my seasonal color palette but I think I'm a bright spring? It seems like it's really hard to figure out where someone with in-between hair color fits in--I'm strawberry blonde but sometimes tending more in the red or blonde direction depending on the time of year.
Anyways, I'm excited to be here and talk fashion with you all. I hope everyone is hanging in there and staying safe!!
*Don't worry, I am working consistently with a fantastic therapist to work on managing the emotional and psychological aspects of this better!