So I thought I'd introduce myself, now that I'm hooked, after reading Angie's blog for a few months and delurking only recently to sign up on the forum.
I'm nearly 36, a journalist and editor in India, writing mostly on food and travel. I currently work mostly from home, travelling on assignments all over the world every few months, and sitting cross-legged at my floor-level desk to write, edit and blog the rest of the time. I love my work, though it's not the best-paid business, and could do with more of the same!
I live on the outskirts of a pretty hectic Indian city --- Kolkata, and being in this neighbourhood means country roads, cow pats, and the most amazing assortment of birds because of the nearby wetlands... and hardly any public transport! The weather is hot and humid (42 degrees Celsius in summer, 98% humidity... unless it's driving monsoonal rains, which is half the year), a veritable pressure cooker. Our winter is more like the temperate zone's spring.
When I arrived at YLF a few months ago, I was exasperated. There was my muddle of a closet, with clothes from four decades in a four-season city. For various budgetary reasons, I need to stick to mostly SYC at this time, despite 'muggy heat' being the ONE season my previous wardrobe did not have to deal with. The move across the country to a different climate has completely rewritten the book on what's practical for me in my new working lifestyle. At the same time, I can't let my four-season wardrobe go entirely --- when I travel, I could be anywhere, in any weather!
So I threw up my hands, moped a little, thrifted a few breezy cotton things that at least kept me cool --- in a very slovenly way... and tried to make do. I despaired for a few months of feeling fabulously turned out ever again. Then I got tired of feeling like a frump.
I've never really managed to look all that fab --- I had body image issues, and I've always been extremely retiring and self-conscious. But I have always been fascinated by fashion, and inherited a love for the construction of superior garments and accessories from my father --- who counts sewing and crochet among his hobbies, taken up to fill in the long months of leave from his mercantile naval career! He used to hand-tailor most of garments when I was a girl, which was great for customization and indulging passing excitement over trends.
Unfortunately, he also passed on to me a fussiness about fit, and retail here hardly ever stood up to scrutiny until the last decade or so --- which made me grumpier and more despairing of ever actually getting much fun out of shopping. I guess I got so disillusioned about the time and effort and funds required to get a well-made set of garments... that I stopped trying, and started to make do. At work, as it was sometimes hard to be taken seriously as a petite young woman in a mid-level position, in my 30s I fell into the trap of dressing too conservatively and entirely too safely so that I would be taken 'seriously' --- to the point of boring myself to tears.
It didn't help that India's climate and road conditions (our messy streets, overcrowded and old public transport) can be very hard on clothes, and even more so on bags and shoes. Much of the 'fashion' available here is simply not meant for wearing outside an air-conditioned office/mall/home --- and what you actually see on the streets is too often a mix of dull practicality and more fashionable clothes/accessories in cheap fabrications that wear very badly. The middle ground is hard to find. Such a pity in the land of such skilled craftsmen and weavers! But happily, things are starting to change a bit, as more brands wake up to the huge market India represents, and homegrown retailers in turn are nudged into offering more and better choice by the competition.
What I appreciate most about YLF vs other fashion blogs and forums is that the advice and commentary is geared more to how than what --- how to wear XYZ trend, how to change up this outfit for the better, how to make a particular garment work... rather than simply buy X and add A, then B, and finally C; or the must-have item of the season is THIS, and nothing else will do. There is no judgement of 'fat girls must not', no 'fashion isn't for petites or the cash-strapped' (which our own media is still striving to get beyond).
It gives me hope. Maybe one day I will learn to perfect my proportions and find confidence enough to articulate in my own wardrobe the whimsy that I so admire in many forum members and in Angie herself. Maybe one day I will stop hoarding my faourite clothes, because if I ruin them, I'll have nothing nice for tomorrow. Maybe one day I will have a smaller, superior closetful and a dedicated four-weather travel capsule. Maybe one day I will be proud of my personal look again (I had a brief taste of it when a rather eclectically outfitted college student!).
For now, as I still try to muster up the gumption to post my first WIW, it is enough that I have recognized my shape with help from the forum --- Hello! My name is Manidipa, and I'm an apple-y 'rounded rectangle'! --- and that I have started to be critical of my buys, that I have started to evaluate my favourites and my workhorses, started to push the envelope on my combinations, and given myself permission to have fun and take risks rather than 'fit in and impress'.
For now, I'm here to find my style again. This time, I'm aiming to re-integrate Indian ethnic influences with 'Westernwear', as we call it here --- that's shirts, pants, skirts, dresses, sweater, and coats to you! I hope to remove drab from my life this year. I'm looking to find climb-a-tree-and-jump-a-fence-then-fall-in-the-pond comfort in my clothes, while looking decent enough to meet you for lunch or coffee and a cake, or to video-conference at a moment's notice while I slice and dice tonight's dinner. I'm looking for help --- but even more, I'm looking for support and constructive criticism while I remix my closet, identify holes and hopefully fill them in.
Will I change my style statement from (Enduring) Organic Eccentric to Comfortable Maverick or Natural Whimsy or something else equally contradictory to my current situation of Mismatched Misfit? I can't be sure... but I intend to enjoy finding out. And hopefully, I'll learn to be Patient, Picky and Persistent about it!