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ramya

I have been sparse on forum and felt a need to give an explanation.

Work has been challenging and busy. Along with it my harmones are fluctuating. Doctor says it may be stress. And has ordered loads of tests.

This has resulted in hair loss, change in my hair texture, weight gain and my skin has turned a little dull.

It has hit my self esteem a little and to add insult to the injury a personal close to me told me during a chat that I should make an effort to look presentable because I am not conventionally pretty.

I am beyond annoyed and want to get into the right mind frame. I like to be happy and I will be.

Sorry for the rant. But I felt I owe an explanation.

11 years ago

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Latest reply was from Debra

catgirl

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A close to you what? Not a friend, I hope. I am sending you a million hugs and hoping to see you more no matter what!

11 years ago

ramya

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Thanks Tai. It is a friend

11 years ago

Angie

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(((HUGS))).

Breath in....."how can this.......". Breath out: "......be funny?".

Take care of yourself, Ramya. I hope you feel well again soon, and get to the bottom of your health challenges. xo

11 years ago

Anonymous

Ramya, you are not only pretty, you are beautiful. I am sorry your body is giving you a hard time right now. I hope the stress eases and you are feeling better soon.

11 years ago

ironkurtin

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Ah the old "not conventionally pretty line." Really the only response to that is rolled eyes and a short Anglo-Saxon phrase.

11 years ago

ramya

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Angie: yup doing that and it works.
Ciet : Thank you. I am annoyed because it was uncalled for frim my friends part.
IK: Thanks. Sometimes I really think that's the best approach:)

11 years ago

Mochi

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Sorry for all of this stress, ramya. Hugs.

11 years ago

Eliza

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Wishing you all the best as this sorts out. Feel free to vent and fill your life with people who get it. These vulnerable times make it hard to ride out the insensitivities of others.

11 years ago

Diana

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Hugs. Hope things get better for you soon.

11 years ago

Peri

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Except for the busyness, sounds like exactly the time you need to be on the forum! This is the most understanding of all things self-image related place on the planet. Come back and let us make you feel better!

11 years ago

biscuitsmom

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I think you are beautiful and your style is unique, and that is to be celebrated, not to be made to feel bad, or odd, about...

11 years ago

LACeleste

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Health is our wealth and I hope you get answers and solutions soon. You are beautiful Ramya.

11 years ago

Gaylene

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That comment ranks up there as one of most ridiculous things I've ever heard!

Ramya, you are not just pretty--you are gorgeous AND smart AND considerate AND loyal AND courageous--everything that your husband told you sitting by that canal in Amsterdam. You could lose all your hair, have your skin turn purple, double your weight, and still turn heads with that fabulous smile! We all have health issues now and again but that doesn't change who we are; ugly on the inside is always ugly on the outside, while a spirit like yours can't help but be beautiful, both inside and outside.

As Angie says, have a really good laugh at your "friend's" expense--with a bit of an extra giggle at his or her big nose poking into your private life. Really, I think it's time we start rolling our eyes and pitying people who make such idiotic comments...

11 years ago

Anonymous

(((hugs)) Ramya. I've just PM'd you xx

11 years ago

texstyle

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Your friend needs to get their eyes (and mind) adjusted ramya as you are not only beautiful, but full of life, style and charm. Many of us have had people make weird and even harsh comments I suppose - and it can hit hard when we're feeling overwhelmed - but please don't let it get to you.

I wonder if you've had your iron (ferritin) checked? I've mentioned this to many others over time as it is a very common thing for women to have low iron and/or low thyroid, both of which can cause the health symptoms you mentioned. I had both issues for a long time before being diagnosed. You sometimes have to demand that they test fully (full iron panel and full thyroid panel with T3, T4, etc.)

11 years ago

ramya

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Thank you all do much. I think what hurt me the most is not that I was not considered pretty. But if that person considered me friend it shouldn't matter to him how ever I looked.

11 years ago

ramya

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Thanks texstyle. I think you are onto something. Will talk to my doc

11 years ago

Isabel

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"A friend"....I hope not for long. Friends support us during times when we are sick and stressed out.

She is not "conventionally supportive or kind". : )

Thank you for checking in. I have missed you.

11 years ago

Alassë

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Goodness gracious, you not pretty?! (Shakes head.)

11 years ago

rachylou

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Goodness. They're crawling out of the woodwork lately. But I do have to say, that's effn' hilarious. "Not conventionally pretty." Ahahahaha!

...Hahaha! Man, that. is. hilarious. Must be another ramya.

11 years ago

Kristin SF

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Sorry about your friend's comment, Ramya. That is not a true friend. I remember your pics from your Berlin meetup with Astrid and you are beautiful. Hope you feel better soon.

And really, shake off your friend's comments. Totally unnecessary stress in your life, don't even waste the energy thinking about it!!

11 years ago

Gigi

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Well, ramya, if you're not conventionally pretty, then I don't stand a chance! You are beautiful...I can't imagine anyone saying this! They obviously need to get their eyes checked.

11 years ago

Gaylene

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I'm thinking there needs to be a reaaaally big tent to hold a gathering of all of us who are "not conventionally pretty".

Maybe we can make it an international affair--and take over the whole of New York City?

11 years ago

Glory

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Ramya I am so glad you posted - we can wrap you up in a giant YLF hug!
It is hard to take a hit like that from a friend? at any time but especially more difficult when you are feeling down.
Surround yourself with the people who love you and cherish you! xoxoxoxo

11 years ago

Caro in Oz

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You reminded me of the quote, "With friends like that who needs enemies?"
Hang in there & what Gaylene said

11 years ago

Echo

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If there were a parade with all the women who have been disparaged because of their looks, they would call it the Million Woman March. Seriously, I think many people must think that women ought to be cartoons instead of individuals. The last time I checked, you were a beautiful woman. As the old saying goes, "Beauty is only skin deep; ugly is to the bone." This person close to you is dangerously ugly.

11 years ago

Aida

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Already great advice above, add me to the chorus. *BIG HUGS* and I hope the health issues get sorted out right quick. I was going to suggest the same as Texstyle, definitely both conditions worth talking to your doctor about (especially as generally they are not particularly difficult to test for). Shrug off what the friend said if you can, what does he know :p

11 years ago

Firecracker (Sharan)

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Thanks for coming back here to the forum!
That's really disappointing for a supposed friend to be so thoughtless toward you. I hope you get some relief from the work stress and that you get back to your healthy self soon.

11 years ago

deb

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((ramya)) Hang in there.

11 years ago

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