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What gets lots of YLF love that you can't feel?

cheryle (Dianthus)

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For me it is the oxford shoe. I know they are on trend and very loved here but I just don't feel it. I think it goes back to my childhood and having big feet. I think the shape and style of the flat oxford emphasizing the long (prehensile) look of my foot and just can't get on board with the trend.

How about you? Anything that is getting the love that doesn't get it from you?

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KikiG

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Booties with dresses and skirts and flat oxfords. Lot of purses, as an accessory item.

I run everything through my personal filters. Short, plus feet I'm conscious of being larger than they ought to be for my size makes me not love what I see as the general stumpifying effect. I'm cautious with any shoe that doesn't lengthen my leg line, because I need that so much, hardly having legs at all. And I'm more of a "buy a really expensive purse and wear it forever" person, and this works for me because I only (with very rare exceptions, and those generally for summer casual) wear black shoes, which has simplified my life.

Other things I get over. I got over skinny jeans by seeing them work on all shapes and sizes. I got over tucking skinny pants into boots the same way, which was a look I liked fine on others but dismissed as "not for me."

Victoria

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oxfords or printed pants of any kind, these just do not appeal to me in any way

Meredith1953

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Skyscraper tall heels (I just got my first pair of 3" wedges and that is as far as I go with heels). I am not fond of the slouchy drapey trousers or printed pants although I think there are a few individuals who look good in them. Metallic loafers don't really rock my boat either although I have seen a few people like Kirti who look cute in them. I'm sure I'll think of more and have to pop back in and add a few more items!

ironkurtin

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I generally find most of YLF fashion is a bit staid for me. But that is because most people work in much less casual environs, for sure!

Amy

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Skinny pants. They make me feel like I'm squeezing my legs into sausage casings...even when they're not constricting. I like looser, swingy-er pants.

Ana

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Midi skirts. Whenever I put one on, I feel super frumpy. I've seen them look great on other YLFers though.

rae

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I feel the SAME way about flat oxfortds! They remind me of dance shoes (gear) and yes, I don't find them flattering on my large-for-my-frame feet.

I also generally dislike cat prints, even though I bought a leopard calf hair bag in Italy. I think it's because the hair looks less like a "print" and more like a hide.

Mo

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Loafers.

cheryle (Dianthus)

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Well I am glad to see I am not the only one. I sometimes feel a bit out of tune with the rest of the gang.

Rae I didn't really have a thing for the metallic boat shoes until you posted those bronze ones the other day and now I am itching to buy the sperry angelfish in pewter.

Jjsloane

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Asymmetrical anything (just rubs me wrong), High/low hems (same concept), fur vests. Just not me.

goldenpig

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Oxfords and loafers. Boyfriend pants. Anything with a tomboy or masculine vibe because it doesn't seem to jibe with my ladylike style. I admit I really liked those super cool bronze snakeskin loafers Rae posted and I was even considering them for a few seconds until I came to my senses and realized that they wouldn't go with anything in my closet.

Also anything loose and unfitted like slouchy harem pants or voluminous tunic tops. If I want something comfy I go for fitted and stretchy over loose and volumimous.

Diana

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Denim on denim.

I also appreciate the stiff buttoned-up shirt look on others but hate it on myself.

lyn*

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Ugh yes, denim on denim. No love from me here.

Aziraphale

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I love oxfords, but I have small feet and a fascination with menswear.

Loafers don't do it for me. Also slouchy pants. I'm just about OK with boyfriend jeans, but I can't get on board with loose pants that hang below the crotch and are tapered toward the hem.

velvetychocolate

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I'm with Amy on this one - I just don't love skinny pants on me that much. I have one pair of GAP Really Skinny pants that I like during the winter once in awhile, but I just haven't managed feeling fab in skinny jeans even though I have a couple of pairs. I know this sounds odd, given that they're so mainstream these days, but I don't feel all that comfortable in them, and I haven't really found anything that looks all that great on my frame (other than the GAP Really Skinnies, and even those are just a 'once in awhile' thing).

Having said that - there are lots of YLF'ers who look amazing in skinny pants and skinny jeans. It's not that I don't like the look, it's more that the look doesn't like me. That, and the fact that I just don't feel very comfortable. I am enjoying my flares, bootcuts and straight cuts a lot more. I feel about as comfortable in skinny jeans and pants as I would in a very short mini skirt.

I think I've decided to pretty much just give it up and stop trying to find something that looks "ok" and feels ok. I have lots of other pants to choose from, and I kind of like 'swishing' into a room in some floaty pants.

Meanwhile, just as I'm writing this, I'm realizing something - I have a somewhat plump, hour-glass-ish shape, and anything that calls attention to this makes me feel a wee bit uncomfortable. Somehow, skinny pants call attention in a way that makes me feel awkward.

Do you know what I mean? Something's just a wee bit too short, or a wee bit too revealing in a way that doesn't feel comfortable? That's how I feel about super-skinny pants and jeans. Even trying to sort of cover-up with long tunic-like blouses and so on doesn't help that much.

cjh

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My least favorite idea here is clam diggers, though I've never really figured out what length they really are, Capri or "pedal pusher" pants, and culottes or gaucho pants. However, I do like ankle length pencil or cigarette pants on many people.

I am not really fond of the tall boots over skinny pants look either. Just too much conformity going on in that look for me.

nancylee

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I'm SO with you on the oxfords. (Rae, they look like dance shoes to me, too.) I'm also not feeling the floral pants and blazers. I think they're great for others, but I just can't go there.

This is an interesting thread, and it's so funny. Many of the items mentioned here are things I love or have recently embraced: booties with dresses, fur vest, midis, high-low hems, denim on denim, button shirts, loafers, skinnies. This is one of the great things about YLF: everyone can have their own likes/dislikes and no one judges. What's good for one of us isn't necessarily good for another...and that's ok.

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Skinnies, for the same reason as vevletychocolatw. I'm an hourglass and it is not a god look for me, I am good with that

Also booties with skirts/dresses are not for me either

Jenava

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pleated pants! They look terrible on me, sadly, because I love the look!

cjh, don't clamdiggers hit just below the knee?

r.e. oxfords and loafers; I have a pair of each that are very menswear looking. Not the more "tap shoe" looking type, which I agree with others I am not such a big fan of, although my eye is adjusting. I like to wear my more substantial versions with straight-leg pants, man-like, and I'm OK with that look.

Sveta

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I cannot think about anything in general but rather particular incarnations and implementations. It took me some time to get around flat oxfords because I have huge feet but now I love them and don't care if they look big in them or not. I would not wear any oxfords but the ones I got i love.
The same about midis. It took me a while to warm up to this look and it requires some work to get it right but I love them when the look is right.
I have not found the right fur vest or floral clothing yet but not because I don't like them: just did not find the perfect item which triggers my creative juices The same for slouchy or printed trousers...
I do find that I am tired of the look of tight skinny jeans - especially if they are more like leans and when the legs are not very slim. I still love them with longer tunics and boots though and I think I will wear them in the fall again.

Jaime

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Wow - this is fascinating! I love flat oxfords! Loafers! Slouchy tapered pants! Skinnies! Midis! Long shorts! Volume! And there is a childish, defiant streak in me that is sort of gleeful that I am in love with these unpopular items. There are some looks that are less my own taste in terms of what I would wear, but I can appreciate most things on others as a very good (or not) example of whatever. Whatever being for me high heels, very girly looks, and I am sure a lot of other things.

goldenpig

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Shevia, I think the point of the thread is that the things listed ARE actually popular in the YLF circle for the most part. But I agree, it's nice to have diversity of looks and styles and tastes around here--keeps things interesting!

Anonymous

Sometimes, like Sveta said so well, it just takes finding the right piece. Sometime it takes time for the eye to adjust. For me it was skinny pants, then booties. For most the right version is probably out there, but it takes lots of looking and trying on. Now my wardrobe wouldn't funcion without either of these.

ManidipaM

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Let's see... fur vests on people and woven vests on dogs?

Also, having trouble figuring out what iteration of denim on denim I could possibly like on myself --- just cannot see it, but that may be a case of bad imagination rather than poison eye.

Formal skirts shorter than the knee --- this is a culturally-bolstered bias, but originates in my own fleshy thighs and knock knees. The combination creates a curious club shape just there that I definitely don't want colleagues staring at!

Stilettoes and studded footwear --- largely because I can see how easy it could be to use them as weapons... and I have myself, in public transport. So they scare me a bit. Also, don't see the aesthetic appeal of weaponry for footwear unless it is a knight's armour (not THAT I like, maybe because it's a feat of clever engineering and craftsmanship... but so's a well-balanced stiletto, so this will be one of those irrational preferences.)

Kirti

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Midis, because I look so stumpy in them! I have big, broad feet but in my quest for comfy and fun flat shoes, I have wholeheartedly adopted oxfords

harmonica

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from the top of my head... oxfords, loafers, midis, animal print, volume on volume, denim on denim, kitten heels. I have seen all of this with great success on other, though. The acceptence of diversity is why I find YLF so great

Anonymous

The things I have not warmed up to, just because they do not jive or look good on me: Pattern mixing: My tribe would think I got dressed in the dark, denim on denim, midi skirt and knee length coat : My hems must line up, mid calf boots and skirts, soft layering and volume on volume, small heel shoes: My shoes are either flat or 3 inch tall. I find that middle range a bit frumpy. Flat oxfords but I'm ok with heeled oxfords. It eliminates the frumpiness. Clamdiggers are there too.

cheryle (Dianthus)

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A big thank you to everyone who responded. I found it very interesting to read through the responses and reasoning for those who provided it.

I am also impressed by those who keep on working to make a look work for them (Sveta comes to mind).

What I appreciate most is that we all have diverse loves and not loves and yet the entire community is so supportive and positive. Kudos to all for supporting and nurturing the environment created by Angie and Greg.

Anonymous

Oxfords, loafers, ballet flats, stilettos, denim on denim, animal prints, volume on volume, and capri (cropped) pants are the main things I have a problem wearing but that I think look great on those who can.

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