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Mo

I think a raw silk shirt that's a bit blousy and drapes nicely can be sexy (think Lauren Bacall) and I think great fitting jeans with rocker shoes can be sexy if not done over the top - much of it is in the implementation of said pieces!

15 years ago

rute

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For me it has also to do with luxurious fabrics, silk, good faux fur and impecable cut!

15 years ago

Angie

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Confidence and good posture.

15 years ago

Beth

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Angie took the word right out of my mouth. Confidence, every time:)

15 years ago

afterism

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Knowing I have sexy underwear on makes me feel sexy. Or just knowing I look good.

On others, it's not completely the way you look, although that is a big part, a lot is also, as Angie said, about how they carry themselves.

Not being too trendy, to skanky or just plain unkempt.

15 years ago

catgirl

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Oh, confidence is a good one!

15 years ago

nicoleb

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I believe, this is the main difference between a female who dresses for men and one who dresses for women.

I also own up to totally comitting many a skanky fashion felony in my teen years.

But after somewhat maturing and becoming more interested in fashion i learned there are ways to be dress sexy without lettin' it all hang out. Some of my friends have not quite learned this lesson though. I try to gently lead them there. "No darling friend, you should not try to pass off that tunic top as a dress. Perhaps try an actual dress."

15 years ago

catgirl

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Nicole, you are right! And I definitely dress for women. They are the ones who give compliments, after all!

I have a guy, but even if I didn't, I wouldn't change how I dress. I don't think most men notice what women are wearing unless it attracts them somehow (witness my DH's head snap around at a too-short mini-skirt - whether he likes it or not, it catches his eye!).

15 years ago

Stephanie

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I feel sexy when I am well-covered but wearing something structured and well-fitting (like a good sheath) or when I am wearing something that strikes a balance between concealing and revealing (a 3/4-sleeve sack dress hemmed a few inches above the knee, for instance). I also find that a great pair of heels makes me feel very sexy. (I love the sound of walking confidently in heels, actually.)

On others I find sexy confidence and a sense of one's own style.

15 years ago

Stephanie

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P.S. I don't think this is a weird question at all--I think it's a great question!

15 years ago

Aida

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Angie said my main thing as well: confidence (and posture is good too!). Nicole's idea of women dressing for women or men is also a key factor in the way people interpret their outfits as being sexy or not, though of course opinions differ (like, I like high heels and feel sexy in them, my husband finds flats much more attractive).

For me, I feel sexiest (used loosely :p ) in fitted but not overly tight clothing that fits me correctly, a high heel with some leg (shape, skin, tights, leggings), and a bit of collarbone/shoulder showing.

15 years ago

Marley

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I am thinking of a dress that I have which is 100% silk, tank style, fitted, a little on the long side with a side slit. Whenever I put it on I immediately feel sexy. I think it has to do with the high quality material and the fitted tailoring of the dress - as well as that side slit! But, as others have said the most sexy type of dressing always includes confidence and posture!
I also feel sexy in my big ol' black baggy trousers, with peep-toe booties and purple fedora - its just such a fun look! (but sexy in a masculine/feminine kind of way!)

15 years ago

Jonesy

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I think this is a very interesting question, Una! I feel the same way about too much skin = unsexy. It's just not my thing. And I absolutely agree about confidence and posture being critical elements. For me, I feel sexy when I'm dressed in clothes that I wouldn't typically wear to work (e.g., a very bold dress, or a short-ish skirt), and when I wear a bit of eyeliner. Pretty basic, actually :). In general, I love women in tailored jackets for evening, maybe with a silk blouse and some beautiful trousers or a slim skirt, and heels. I admit that I don't quite get the strapless dress as sexy formal wear; I usually find them unattractive.

15 years ago

Maya

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I have too many issues and hangups with the word "sexy" to be able to answer this question, but I am following along.

I have another question (if Una doesn't mind):

Is a woman who runs around in public in her pajamas or sweats "sexy" just because she is confident and sits up straight?

15 years ago

Aida

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Maybe to that person (not to me though). I was thinking that a person putting at least a little effort into the outfit was assumed in the discussion, though if not I'll add that to my basic list.

15 years ago

annagybe

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I don't know sometimes. I'm currently grappling with this issue as I am attempting to restart my dating life. If I'm in a safe situation with no expectations I have no problem dressing sexy (see my grey dress which is pretty form fitting). But on a date I really try to tone myself down so I don't appear too desperate or easy. I also want to look attractive so it's a very line I walk.

15 years ago

taylor

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Oddly II feel very sexy when I am most covered in public.
In a slim pencil skirt, tights and a black turtle neck with high statement heels....Not only sexy, but powerful and confident..

Agree about too much skin in public...particularly on older women...just looks desperate to me.

15 years ago

Jenava

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ETA: GREAT question - this was really good for me to ponder! And, I totally agree that too much skin showing in the wrong setting can be down right repulsive, and not sexy at all!

I feel sexy when I am:
-wearing clothes that fit well, drape nicely, and are luxurious (well made as well as high-quality material)
-wearing colors I know flatter me
-wearing clothes that are appropriate

I think what it comes down to is that I feel sexy when I'm confident, and I need all these things in order to feel confident.

To answer Maya's question - Yes. I have seen girls in their PJ's and Uggs at Starbucks with their gorgeous hair up in a top knot, looking very sexy. Do I personally like that look? No. I think ppl should wear real clothes in public. Would I personally sport the look? No, and if I were forced to I would feel un-sexy due to requirement 3 above...inappropriate.

15 years ago

Maya

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I was just thinking out loud (well, as much as one can think out loud on the internet). There are lots of well dressed and totally insecure women out there, and a lot of women who dress like crap and feel like a million bucks.

15 years ago

LeahJanes

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Aside from bearing and confidence - a pair of seamed stockings does it for me every time.

15 years ago

Jenava

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Maya - you are right, of course.

There are also women who dress like a million bucks AND are very confident! That's the state I am aspiring to.

15 years ago

Kari

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Confidence and poise without cockiness or self-consciousness.
A willingness to make eye contact with and smile at people.

I personally can't feel sexy or confident if I'm insecure about the skin on my face - which is why I wear full makeup virtually every day - or if my hair doesn't feel clean or is staticky, because that irritates my skin too.

15 years ago

Angie

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Literal Minnie, Maya. You know exactly what I mean :). A less then perfect outfit with confidence and good posture goes a longer way than a so called more stylish one without those key factors.

Taylor, I feel the same way. However, while we might be covered, we are showing the contours of our body in that type of outfit outfit

I dress for me AND for everyone around me. I do not make gender distinctions.

15 years ago

Vix

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I'm enjoying the thread but I find I can't really answer because men are my preferred sex...so I don't find anything in particular "sexy" on a woman, you know?

Whatever the particular effort made, it's pearls before swine to me.

I *will* say that from many discussions with people I've always found there's often a big disconnect between how a woman dresses and how much she enjoys activities of a boudoir nature.

If I were going for a woman I'd be evaluating how sensual she seemed (based on clothing materials and fit, movement, eating habits etc) not how much skin she was showing. [And yes, that's how I judge -- ok past tense since I'm off the market -- men!]

15 years ago

Vix

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ps I guess I could answer for myself...for me it's all about the materials I'm wearing...soft to the touch silk, cashmere, supersoft lace or cotton jersey.

I will never feel particularly Bette Davis Eyes in jeans and a crisp blouse.

15 years ago

Sihaya

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For me, nice underwear and creating an entire outfit that says "yes this is me". some shoes as well.

on others - authenticity which leads to confidence. and a good smile.

15 years ago

Deb

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This is sort of a tough one to piece out, because I believe that "sexy" is in the eye of the beholder, and it's sort of symbiotic: if your beholder is thinking "d*mn she's hot!" it telegraphs itself to you, and then you start feeling sexy - whether in jeans, sweats, an off-the shoulder silk blouse, or garter belt and stockings. Once you feel sexy, you will look even sexier. ;o)

But if I had to choose one look right now, I'd think it would be a short, fluttery silk skirt, high heels, and an oversized cashmere pullover that keeps slipping off the shoulder.

15 years ago

catgirl

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Wow, love these responses! I guess there are two sides to tthis question: what makes you feel sexy, and what do you think looks that way on others?

Maya, I know it's a loaded word, but I didn't want to just use "attractive", which conveys a different sense. People often mistake less clothing for looking "hot", and I was trying to get at that idea.

15 years ago

Sveta

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I have never even thought about myself as being sexy... Confident is more like it.
I think I feel the most confident in outfits which feel like me - does not matter what is the fabrication or style. Lately these are the sheath dresses...

15 years ago

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