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anchie

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I have been going through some style shift recently. I am not feeling my colorful wardrobe and prefer simple neutrals. But on the other hand, I am wearing more makeup, jewelry and accessories. And I am slowly transitioning from silver to gold metals. I am not getting rid of my colorful and patterned clothes, because it could be just a phase. I think it could be part of my grieving process, since I lost both of my parents in last 6 months and colorful wardrobe seem too cheerful and doesn’t match my mood. Here is my outfit for today, going to run some errands. Anyone going through something similar with their style?

Denim Shirt - Lauren Ralph Lauren
White top - Banana Republic
Linen pants - H&M
Belt - Massimo Dutti
Slides - Tamaris
Bag - Lancaster
Gold jewelry - my mom’s
Sunglasses- Nina Ricci

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Latest reply was from rachylou

Star

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I LOVE this outfit, casual and stylish all at once. It is totally understandable that you not feeling bright colours after your recent losses. Yes do hang onto them though.

Anonymous

Love your simple, but not boring, outfit!

I'm totally with you re: brights. Ever since Covid they just feel out of touch and attention seeking to me (for my own style). I've actually been adding more navy and reintroducing prints, especially Thai.

Minaminu

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it's a lovely outfit! I find neutrals to be very soothing when there is a heatwave, maybe you are experiencing that in addition to the recent losses?

Star

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I want to add the accessories really lift this outfit. Your attention in that area really shows. The belt, shoes, earrings, etc really make this a great outfit.

Janet

(website)

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This is a fab casual outfit and really suits you nicely. I find myself moving in and out of moods regarding color, so yes, I’d definitely say hang onto your bright things! I’m currently feeling a bit of summer color because I’ve defaulted to black so heavily in the past but not feeling it so much at the moment. But still it’s very hard for me to ever embrace head to toe bright color because it just doesn’t feel like me (the exception would be a one-piece item like a dress).

The grieving time is tough, and I say go with what feels right for you at this time. It never goes away fully, but it does get easier (if not easy) over time. Hugs!

madeline

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So sorry to hear of your loss. The grief is deep and it takes time. Be gentle with yourself. Wearing a neutral palette may be a part of that.

kkards

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YLF. Yes this maybe less colorful than what you’ve worn in the past. But this outfit has the attention to details that is, i think, a big part of your style.

Runcarla

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I can absolutely relate to this! My dad died (after a long illness) in late October 2021 and just about everything I bought (and wore) was dark - black and navy blue. I was starting to come out of mourning, when my mother’s husband (a very dear man) died in July 2022. Bright colours felt wrong and just weren’t a match for my mood.

I’ve noticed that most of my purchases this year, while not colourful, are much lighter.

Anchie, keep your colourful items. You will feel like wearing them again, and like old friends, they will be there for you.

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Mirjana

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Love your outfit, great color combo. My favorite these days. I'm also in similar mood, neutral are my choice. I understand you absolutely, as I feel the same. You look great in neutral.

unfrumped

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Such a hard year. Do give yourself time and space for the grief.

That’s a great outfit on neutrals. Not boring. Agree with just setting aside any bright colors you’re not feeling , and re- evaluate. With the neutrals, you can focus on fits and silhouettes more than color, and see if that helps you with your style direction over time.

I’ve been looking at neutrals a bit more because it seems easier to get better construction and higher- quality fabrics. Plus I feel I need more slam- dunk travel capsules. But black and navy aren’t good “ face colors “ for me ( tops & toppers & dresses) except for some summer items when a T or tank allows for showing skin.

Angie

(website)

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My condolences, anchie. Wising you strength and support through this hard time. Hang in there, and take all the time you need to grieve, process and restore.

Follow your feelings, and embrace this neutral phase. You are wearing it with panache and ease! Fabulous look! And welcome to Team Gold

LJP

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I absolutely love what you’re wearing here . It speaks of quiet confidence and quality / luxury . This is how I’d like to dress . I’m definitely feeling a style change , perhaps as a response to a major change in career and lifestyle …..that’s taken me 3 years to come to terms with . I’m moving on from a lot of my clothes but I understand why you might not want to .

Suz

(website)

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Anchie, I'm so sorry for your losses. It is a lot -- and absolutely makes sense that you would crave calmer neutrals. You look wonderful in this outfit.

cat2

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So sorry for your losses. Financial experts say not to make any big life changing decisions until a year after a major loss like you have suffered. On the smaller scale issue of fashion, I would tuck away the cheery bright items rather than tossing them, and see how you feel next summer.

Anonymous

My heart breaks for you! Listen to your style shift and have fun with the neutral vibe. Very nice attire

slim cat

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So sorry for your losses - heartbreaking to loose both parents.
Your style/color shift is natural and looks great on you. Hope time will come for colorful pieces to come back when you feel like it. Take care.

anchie

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Thank you all. As you can see in my finds this is everything I bought for spring summer and almost all I wear now. It kind of looks like one of those capsule wardrobes that you can see on YouTube, but I find strange comfort in almost endless possibilities of mix and match and simple dressing.

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Irina

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I’m so sorry for your losses, dear Anchie!
I love your new clothes! You are so right to wear what makes you emotionally more comfortable.

LJP

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Again , this new capsule is genius . Great collection of stylish and chic clothing .

Jenni NZ

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So sorry about your parents Anchie. Extra hard to lose them both so close together as well.
I found the pandemic itself caused a change to my mood, I didn’t become depressed but just felt overall quite somber. And I often feel more that way in winter too, so although the forum seems to see me in a lot of brights I do wear heaps of black as well.
I like this look on you and think you look great. I suspect you will feel like the brights again but it’s anyone’s guess when.

Star

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Oh My Word - I LOVE your new capsule. That is how I want my wardrobe to look just with less corporate clothes as I am retired. I used to love brights too but am very drawn to these more muted colours lately.

Olive Green

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Emotional dressing, as Angie says, is the secret to staying in tune with your mood. You look wonderful and very collected. I hope the bright colours come back again in their own time.

Dee

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Very sorry for your loss Anchie, your outfit is just lovely.
No real style shift happening with me, other than I am no longer wearing items quite as fitted as I would once wear.

Jaime

(website)

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I'm sorry for the terrible year you have experienced and absolutely agree you need to give yourself time before deciding if how you feel about your style (and everything else). That said, your outfit is perfection and your capsule looks fantastic also.

notsaf

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You look better than ever, Anchie. The quiet luxury look really suits you and the style moment. Very sorry for your loss.

Mary Beth (formerly LBD)

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My love and condolences, Anchie!

I think your neutrals are calming and peaceful, and they suit your beautifully. I agree that you should hang onto those colorful pieces, for the day that you feel you want a bit of color.

Cardiff girl

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So sorry to hear about your parents.
you look very chic in your new monochrome mood.

bj1111

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First, you have the capsule of my dreams.

Second, I get the simplicity of the mixing and matching of neutrals. Our brains do have a maximum capacity to process stuff and make good decisions. Your brain and heart are occupied with lots of other stuff, no wonder it’s comforting to have an elevated garanimals wardrobe at this time.

Obama said he had 20 of the same suit so it’s one less decision he needed to make.

Sal

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Anchie - that's a lot to deal with in terms of your parents. Very tough indeed and my sincere condolences.

I think your additions are lovely and versatile, professional and modern. Many of them would look terrific with your brights when and if you want to add them back in.

It's hard to know sometimes which way preferences will go - I have less pattern in my closet than I used to - I still have some but am cautious about adding too much in.

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