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Stressed to the max - Updated again surgery scheduled

Glory

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Well I have to share my ordeal with the level headed ladies here.
A few weeks ago I went for my annual mammogram. A few days later I had a call back for another mammogram and ultrasound. Then the news that I require a biopsy. So I am waiting for that biopsy and cannot recall a time when I have felt as completely out of control and stressed as I do.
I finally got the call for the appointment and will go in at the end of next week. 3 weeks since I was told I need one. Yikes.
The waiting game is really very tough. And this is just for the appointment -not the results. That takes another 7-10 days.

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shedev

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Big hugs to you.

Caro in Oz

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Sending you positive thoughts & big hugs, waiting is SO tough.

Echo

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Oh, I am so sorry. The waiting is enough to send your blood pressure through the roof, and anyone who has received similar news knows how it makes your blood run cold and it sometimes feels like your head will explode. You will be in my thoughts. Please update us when you can.

crutcher

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Glory, Bless you...I know you are wound tight and stessed out...Having to wait for test results is almost inhumane...Please keep posting here and let the lovely ladies of YLF know how you are feeling...Meanwhile, I will keep you in my special thoughts and I send you a big hug as you play this awful waiting game...
Best to you...
(Be sure that you see Angie's post in Off Topic on Coping...worth your time...)

Suz

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Oh, Glory - this is so hard. I'm so very sorry. Sending warmest wishes your way. I have lived through a scare like this and it was agonizing. It's the waiting that makes it so very hard.

LACeleste

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My most positive thoughts to you Glory.

Peri

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I went through this too about 4 years ago, although the scheduling happens faster here...I think 1st mammo to biopsy results was two weeks. Anyway, mine was just calcium deposits and I will be hoping for such good results for you too. It doesn't always mean the worst...try to remember that.

Aida

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Oh I'm sorry to hear you've been going through all of this! Sending you the best vibes and wishes I can, and hopefully your wait won't be much longer (and good news arrives with it).

Beth Ann

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So sorry you are having to walk this road! We live in an age of great advances, but nothing changes the waiting. Praying that you will find good things, or at least productive moments, in the days ahead to fill your mind and crowd out the worry.

Mochi

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Very sorry for your stress levels. Hugs.

Gaylene

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The waiting is the worst. Our family has been through this scenario twice in the last couple of years and, in both cases, the results were the same as Peri's--calcium deposits.

Gigi

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Glory, praying for you!

I don't have any firsthand with stuff like this, but I have heard from some women that going without a bra can help the lymph circulate better in the breasts and can sometimes help clear out some blockages. I would imagine that massaging your breasts would help too. Like I say, I don't have any experience with this myself, but I thought I would pass it along in case you find it helpful.

Anonymous

Hugs (((Glory)))

Debbie

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Big hugs and lots of thoughts and prayers going out for you.

deb

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I am sorry about the stress. It is hard to put things like this aside and concentrate on something else.

Isabel

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Oh Glory, I am sooooo sorry. I have been there. Not only for breast cancer, but earlier this year when they found a nearly 5 cm lump in my stomach ( after bleeding problems from my meds ).

It sucks. It comes in waves. You are ok then it suddenly hits in a wave of anxiety.

A couple of things helped me. I had a plan. I knew where I would go if it was positive. The breast lump was. I had it all worked out in my head. That gave me a sense of control. I also reminded myself, that I had access to EVERYTHING that I needed to handle it. We have so much in this country. So I would often tell myself, "Thank God that this is happening here, in the US. "
The fact that it took three weeks to get you an appointment is actually a good sign. It means that the medical personnel don't see it as "urgent'. After they ultra sounded my lump and felt it by hand, I had a biopsy in 3 days despite the fact that they couldn't see it on a mammogram. But I also got a ton of comfort that it was under 5 cm.

Do whatever you can to distract yourself. Turn up music and dance, watch inspirational Ted talk videos or silly videos or whatever videos. And please keep reminding yourself that you CAN and will face whatever "it" is and that you are so lucky that they caught it on a mammogram because now you will handle it.

GOOD LUCK !!!

XXXXXXXXXX

Adelfa

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Uncertainty is just the worst! My prayers and thoughts are with you!

Jeanie

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So sorry you are going through this. I had a breast biopsy once. It turned out to be just a cyst. It is stressful. Be kind to yourself and hugs to you.

Deborah

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Glory, you are in my prayers and trusting for a good outcome. Isabel gives sound advice. Certainly where I live if there was real concern you would have the biopsy done immediately. I had a mammogram recently and even tho they couldn't see anything, because I had complained of pain they then did an ultrasound on one breast...that was done right after the mammogram but I was still so went tightly wound :). Don't forget to breathe and it's easy to expect the worst when on fact most times it's all ok.

Ornella

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Glory, that's the worst thing I can imagine, the waiting, feeling out of control and at mercy of timescales which are as they are and there's nothing you can do. I can offer just sympathy, I wish I could distract you somehow to make the time pass quicker. Isabel inspires once again with her advice and attitude. Hoping you'll share good news with us soon.

Mona

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So sorry to hear this. Sending positive thoughts your way.

Anonymous

Oh, goodness! No wonder you're stressed. I'm so sorry. Please keep us updated. Take care ((hugs))

Anonymous

Glory, thinking of you and also I think If they were really concerned you would have had an earlier biopsy date.

Anonymous

Big hugs. Thinking of you, Glory.

Jaime

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I have been there with friends and know how stressful it is from them. Wishing you the best news and as soon as possible!

jackiec

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The waiting is the worst. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Janet

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I'm sorry you're going through this! It's so terribly stressful. Take care of yourself. I'm sending positive thoughts and vibes your way.

Glory

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So much kindness and support. I really struggled with whether to post because I am such a private person. When this hit me I realized that the power of the good wishes and sharing it made it much easier to cope with. I am so thankful for all of you ladies.
The wheels turn very slowly for tests and such here in Canada - at least where I am located. The waiting is very difficult and the angst comes in waves. I am trying to keep as positive as possible! thanks so much my dear friends!

texstyle

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Stay positive Glory - take deep long breaths and focus on knowing you can manage whatever the news because you are strong. If it were me I would also go ahead and plan to get a second opinion from another (not affiliated) doctor whatever the outcome of your tests. Taking control like this makes it easier to deal with any challenge. Get copies of all your tests too so you have your own record.

I like to use a supplement called "True Calm" when I am stressed. It's a combo of magnesium, valerian root and B vitamins I think.

Hugs to you and best wishes for a positive outcome very soon!

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