Hi Stylefan --

Agree with all that the dress looks stunning on you. And given all the context you've given it doesn't seem to be an issue to repeat unless Mr SF voices some much stronger opinions about the dress standing out "too much" vs just standing out because you look wonderful in it!

Re shoes: they're such a try-before-buy thing I have a hard time recommending anything. Clarks tend to be my go-to comfort line because of my particular issues, not sure how they work for you. Are any of the above from Taryn Rose's line (she's an ortho or podiatrist, can't recall)? Spendy but since you aren't buying a new dress....

Good luck on the shoe hunt!

Polyester satin? It looks like it has fancy sheen...

Thanks for all the advice and feedback. Mr SF is worried about my dress sticking out in the pictures but really he picked the dress out. He worries that I might outshine the bride. I am very flattered that he thinks his 60 something wife will take attention away from an exceptionally beautiful woman in her early 30s all dressed up in a gorgeous wedding dress. Yeah that is likely to happen.
The bride and groom are not very conventional people. There are all kinds of conventions being broken.
Retail girl - I am also in agreement with the Duchess of Cambridge. I loved that she is repeating outfits.
Robin F - Thank you!
Xtabay - Great advice. Ibuprofren and I are best friends. I also plan on going for a pedicure to a place near my hotel where the technician does amazing foot massages. Maybe I will have one the day before and that day. My feet will look great.
Muffin - Thanks for your vote of confidence.
Neelie- Thanks for the link. There is a Walking on the Cloud near us. I have been to the one in Burlington. There is also another good shoe store not far away. I agree that going to the actual store is best if possible.
Janet - There does seem to be a shortage of special occasion dresses out there unless you want black. I loved your dress and it looked great on you. Outdoor weddings are tricky in the summer. I have been to a few.
Suz - Yes there are times when it is best to stick out. I also have to be me. Dressing in something that isn't me is not going to work.

Stepson #1 and his husband loved the dress. They were very impressed with it. My stepdaughter also loved it . So it was a hit at the first wedding.

Now to work on shoes.

Yes Rachy it has a nice sheen to it. And it is slightly stretchy but holds me in. Not like Spanx but more like Lululemon. A nice feeling.

Vix I have seen that brand of shoes somewhere. I will do a search. Thank you.

It's really beautiful. If your peeps are good with repeated dresses, I'd do it. (This is not allowed in my family for those under 70...lol. Snobs. Hahahaha And I'm talking luncheons.)

I would listen very carefully to what Mr. SF is saying - spoken and unspoken.
In my experience, it takes a lot for DH to mention something negative about what I'm wearing. If he has actually said something, it means he feels really strongly about it.
Your DH may have picked it out, and he has great taste :), and it is LOVEly on you, but he may have reservations that go beyond how it looks in general.