I think I'm the only non-lawyer in the PNW who wears hose...I don't mind anything but the runs! But it's optional for me -- the dress code thing is a bit of a bummer.
I don't know HOW pale you are. I am super-pale and find the $$ DKNY Nudes in the lightest shade are the only realistic match. They last ok, but I do baby them and make sure my toenails aren't sharp.
If you're a little darker, Nordstrom's house brand, Calvin Klein, and Hanes have all colors that might work. They've been about the same for me in terms of performance.
An alternative to skintone that works well for the pale, IMO, is a very light grey. It can be tough to find -- Nordstrom's house brand has one and Hanes has a Grey Mist and a Light Grey that work. I've only been able to find the latter two online at their outlet, though:
http://www.onehanesplace.com
I'm sure there are at least a few other hose wearers around. If you can wear tights in the winter (vs hose) you can have more fun. Good luck!