Lately been thinking about old terminology and cliches we still use. One thing that I want for myself is to continue learning, evolving. As I do yoga for my aging limb and joints, trying to remain flexible, I intend to keep my style flexible, too. (Not my taste, though, that’s set in stone).
Warning: word like slimming, mature women, flattering used. Skip this thread if it’s triggering for you.
I want to offer you some of my somewhat controversial opinions.
- I do not believe that black next to a mature face makes that face look pale. Adding a bit of blush is enough to look fresh. BTW, blush does wonders on any day. Color is individual and it not possible that so many mature women look equally bad in black. It is a common misconception. I love lilac and it looks horrible next to my face. I also look terrible in most pastels.
- “Shapeless “ clothes does not make one appear larger. Let’s be honest, this is the biggest concern for many women still. And fitted clothes does not always slimming. Draping is a skill and should be appreciated if not learned. Women who like oversized clothes don’t necessarily want to hide their “bulk”.
- “Conventionally flattering” or whatever flattery words one uses. This is a dated concept, in my opinion and one that I oppose the most. Flattering according to who? My flattering definition is different from yours. Are we still using that nonsense “wear v-neck for a big bust”, “don’t wear maxi if you’re short “ and such. I ditched it a long time ago. It feels like irrelevant rules in our days. Like “Don’t wear white after the Labor Day”. Also, there is this underlying issue of making women dressed for a male gaze, to appear more traditionally feminine. It should be my decision if I want to look feminine or not.
- Color analysis is fun but unnecessary. Wear what makes you feel good. I suppose to look better in brown than black. Do I care? Not a bit! I love black and navy, which are not supposed to be “my colors”. Trust yourself.
- There is no need to zhuzh an outfit or to add a pop of color to make an outfit more stylish. Sure, do that if it’s your personality but often this is used to distract from the fact that clothes is not fitting or/and made well.
- Color makes one look pretty. I disagree. Color attracts attention. One almost always might get compliments when wearing red. It’s not about how great this on a wearer. It’s a basic human response to certain colors. It’s biology. Confidence makes one look prettier. And well fitted clothes.
Do you have “unpopular “ opinion to share?
