Great to hear the update Sona. So good there is a spirit of moving to meet each other in your relationship <333

YAY !!! I am glad to hear that you reached a compromised. As you go through it, it will morph into what really works well for all of you. Nothing is perfect the first time that it is set in motion - especially a budget. So adjust and tweak as you go along. This is also a wonderful experience for your daughter in working as partners to fulfill the family's needs while taking good care of yourself.

Hugs !

Sona it was wonderful to read your response! I'm so happy that you two have already started working on resolving this, and it was a very sweet story to read. *hugs* I hope you are feeling better today

Yay for you two, Sona!! I love to hear that you've come to an 'arrangement' -- and it sounds pretty reasonable at 20% (especially since you've managed to already spruce up your closet quite a bit

I'm hoping this gives you some peace and ability to enjoy your continued style journey! {{{ more happy hugs }}}

Yay for meeting in the middle! Interestingly, my BF came from a poor background and often says he's scared of ever ending up back there. He worked in the mines in Kentucky. Now he's a finance manager and sits behind a desk and haggles loans for car buyers. Our condo is paid for, our truck will soon be paid for (about 15 months after purchase) but he still frets about not having definite jobs waiting for us back in Tahoe this time. I suppose financial fears are warranted in this time - he remembers the awful unemployment numbers in the late 70's (he's 51) and we all know the economy is rickety, but we can't live in fear of what tomorrow will, or won't, bring.
I think if you are spending wisely while saving for the future it is an investment in your well being as a whole.

I'm so pleased to read your update, Sona.

Sona, your response was deeply touching and I'm so pleased for you. Hopefully the compromise you've reached will help stave off an anxious period. As you now know, too, you always have all of us here if depression rears its heead this season. Congratulations on how far you've come in so many facets of your life! You are inspiring, truly.

So happy you were able to talk with your husband and come to an agreement together! I am so glad he was willing to work things out with you. What a heartwarming update! You are an inspiration!

Wow! I missed this while I was away, so I'm late to the party, but I just have to give you the biggest hug ever, Sona, for looking at this issue and taking such spectacular action to address it! Brava times a million!!!

I am so happy to read that you and your husband were able to talk about this and find a good solution. It actually makes me a little teary (in a good way).