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OT: How did you meet your DH or SO?

ironkurtin

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Angie and Greg were set up on a blind date! What about you?

My DH was my drawing teacher at an art school in Italy. For the record, I highly recommend sneaking around Florence with your professor, it's very fun and romantic. He was just supposed to be my overseas fling, but here we are 20 years later... Funny thing is, he isn't Italian. He grew up in Portland, Oregon!

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nicoleb

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We worked at the same restaurant in West Palm Beach, FL. I was a waitress/bartender at the time and he was a cook. We had the same friends and both found each other attractive and kind of have the same personality type? Also i love to eat and he loves to cook so that really worked out.

My husband's name is Greg too lol. I don't know if i've mentioned that before...anyway, we just passed our 6 year anniversary in March!

Anonymous

My DH and I were introduced to each other by a mutual friend. We've been married for 24 years, so I guess she was right that we belong together.

Kari

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We met on Craigslist through his personals ad. You know how for online dating ads, most people really try to flatter themselves, post cheesy angled shots to maximize their attractiveness? B. posted pictures of himself just candidly hanging out with friends... and a picture of himself dressed as a human-sized whoopie cushion for Halloween. That, plus the common interests he listed in his profile, really piqued my interest, as I am just not attracted to guys that lack a good sense of humor. After a few weeks of emailing we met up in person for coffee, only to discover that neither of us actually drink coffee. We hit it off and chatted until the place closed, and met up every few weeks or so to hang out - after a month we made it official. 4 1/2 years later and we are still going strong.

Transcona Shannon

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We were set up by mutual friends - and here we are 28 years later! I guess our friends knew what they were doing.

Patty

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My man and I were on two different life trails that we didn't know were converging. Once we met in Animation school in the city -that was it--25 yrs and 3 kids later still together. The funny thing is--we grew up a mile away from each other in the same small town--even had art class together in high school but never talked in all that time. We have been together since-even worked in the same department together during most of my career--it's just suppose to be. When he went off to start a job in Ireland in the late 80s--I physically felt like had been chopped in half and never got over it till he got back--THAT was telling!!!!

citygirldc

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This might be long. Sorry. Dh and I met at a mutual friends Xmas party in 2000. I had gone to the party by myself and he was one of the few guys that had arrived but dismissed him as one of those who were "not my type".

Move forward a few weeks later at small night club we used to go. I had gone alone to meet friends and dh shows up, we chit chat about our mutual friends and then dance the night away. I invite him to my New Year's Eve party, then he walks me home in 24 degree weather, and ask for my phone # which I did NOT give and told him to ask our friends. Then he left. I was still not interested but he seemed nice.

New Year's Eve party: he shows up a bit after midnight and said he was a witness to an accident. Yeah, sure!! I did believe him though. He ended up dj-ing my party. Afterward, I end up walking him to his car only to find a baby car seat. EGADS!!! NO NO NO!! I finally meet someone and he's got kids. He immmediately explained that it was his sisters, blah blah blah. Whew!! I finally gave him my phone # and a kiss on the cheek and went home.

New Years and Beyond: I had changed phone companies and didn't realize my home phone was dead until a week and half later. I hadn't given him my cell # so I had no idea if he called or not. He finally got a hold of me and told me that he had called a dozen of times, called my friends to see if I gave him a bogus # and this was the last time he was calling. After hearing that story, my heart was his. We married in 2004 and we've been together since.

Suz

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Wow! Love these stories.

And high -five IK. I married my teacher, too. I was in law school and he was one of my profs there.

It didn't seem like a good idea at the time. In fact, I wondered if I had completely taken leave of my senses. To begin with, I was already married. To another student.

Obviously, things were not good between my ex-husband and me, and we had already decided to separate before I got together with M—but even so, it was a highly uncomfortable situation.

And even though M and I did not become involved until I was no longer a student, people were appalled. I lost friends. It went against all my feminist principles. I had never been interested in older men. And he had kids!

22 years later we're still together, so I guess it wasn't that crazy an idea after all.

Aziraphale

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Fun question!

I met my honey in university. He was in engineering, which had its own separate wing, so after initially being introduced to him I didn't run into him at all, really. Plus, we met in first year, when we were both barely 18, and he looked about 12 in his mullet, hoodie and baseball cap. So I didn't think about him much after that, and besides I had a boyfriend at the time. Four years later, I ran into him again at a house party, and wow, he'd grown! (Also, better hair and clothes). We talked quite a bit and I liked him. It turned out he'd switched to comp sci, which also was in an isolated part of the school, so later the next week I invented a computer crisis and went and found him to help me solve it. And I smiled a lot. I'm shameless. But it worked; he asked me out.

anne

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I also met my DH in university. We were both very involved in a Christian Student group and became good friends. We didn't start going out until I had finished and he was in his last year and had moved to a share house close by.

ManidipaM

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He was the new kid in town at university. We argued a LOT and loudly in gender studies class. Didn't see eye to eye on the direction feminism should take in the future, and stopped talking outside classes, although I acknowledged he was the least prejudiced soul in the class by a long mile. Made up over a jar of a hummus (he'd asked for a recipe). Ended up working at the same newspaper...

WE're still arguing 14 years later --- mostly over who gets to play chef today and whether they can boss the sous-chef around, as well as *everything* else... and as of last month, are back in the same workplace again. (ETA: I think we each have an inability to let someone else have the last word. Staying together seems to be the best way to mitigate that risk, in case it gives us a heart attack!)

modgrl

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I picked him up on the street! He was cute and had two cute dogs. How could I resist saying hi!

Jem

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This is a fun thread to read! I love hearing your stories!

DH and I wound up being in the same major at University. (EE) We had never met, but that year we wound up having 5 classes together! After about the 3rd one, he decided to come sit by me--there weren't that many girls there and he thought he wouldn't waste any time. I wasn't interested initially, but he had alot of experience with electronics and I had no clue what a resistor was, so he was very helpful when we had to do labs. lol We became good friends and then decided to get married. 26 years and 4 kids later, we're still going strong!

qfbrenda

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We met in college. We were both volunteering at a Christian book store--not like the ones in malls... this one never made money and was more of a place for college kids to hang out and recharge. We were both dating other people at the time. Within a few months, both relationships had ended. We courted for the month of April, were engaged May 3, and married in August. It'll be 17 years together this summer.

Angie

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Lovers quarrels, Manidipa

Dana, how romantic indeed! Lots of you seem to have met at Varsity.

Loved hearing your stories, ladies. Some of you have been married for a really long time and that's a blessed sacrament. Cheers! Long may it last.

(Greg and I were set up on a blind date by mutual friends 25 years ago. Went out for 9 and are in our 16th year of marriage).

rachylou

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Had a writing gig at his wackadoodle company. Our relationship bloomed when the company stopped all work one X-mas, but everyone still had to come in. We bonded over four-hour lunches, hiding in the break room from roving bands of unoccupied engineers. He won me over by a) acknowledging he has a mom and b) bringing me a cold Diet Coke from the vending machine - both of which (diet and Coke) are anathema to him as a Mountain Dew man. LOL.

Oh, and his company IS still in business. And they are likely involved in providing you with your electricity. STOCK CANDLES.

Laura

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Like Angie and Greg, Andy and I were also set up on a blind date by mutual friends. It was Andy's 300th blind date (okay so maybe I am a teeny bit prone to exaggeration) and my first. During the day before our first date, I was on a business trip and had a feeling wash over me of "this is it." Before I even met him! And here we are, two kids and ten years later, and he's still it for me

rae

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Dana, sooooo romantic! Like a novel!

Kari, I met my DH online, too! Those profiles can tell you a lot, I say.

I was in my freshman year of college - I'd only had one boyfriend before, and I was having a lot of trouble making friends at my school. So I set up a personal ad through the LA Weekly, which used to advertise on The Onion (how bad can a site be if they advertise on The Onion?) and searched through hundreds of profiles looking for friends. I *cannot* praise online dating enough - you can eliminate personality misfits in seconds when it might take an entire coffee date to do so in person.

Anyway, DH eventually contacted me, and as soon as I saw his picture, I thought, "Why the heck didn't I notice him before??" Oh. I see. He's 11 years older than me and outside my search parameters. But his profile mentioned Kurt Vonnegut, so we met and have spent 10 years together so far!

Diana

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We met in college... but we did not go to the same college, or even in the same town. I was visiting a mutual friend (A) at his college and he was visiting a mutual friend (B) at mine on the same weekend and I may have shared some gossip regarding friend (A) with friend (B), who then communicated it to him. We did meet up at the end of that weekend and hit it off immediately. So I guess we met because of my big mouth!

MsMary

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DH and I met online, too. We talked on the phone the first night until the sun came up, he came over the next night, and he never went home! That was 16 years ago and we have our 13th wedding anniversary coming up in a couple of weeks.

Jjsloane

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Another online meeting here. I went on Matchmaker.com to get out and about after a breakup of a longterm relationship. I realized time was ticking and I wanted to have a husband and possibly kids. A friend told me to attack it like a job search so I went on many many dates, but never able to coordinate schedules with DH. I didn't find anyone I wanted to continue dating and was exhausted from the trials so I sent him one last email saying good luck. We met that week and that was my last online date.
We've been together since 2001 and married in 2003.

Aziraphale

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BTW Ironkurtin, how lucky are you that you went to art school in Florence? I didn't even realize that you are an artist. Awesome!

I'm loving reading all your stories. More online meetups than I expected. Yay for internet dating!

ironkurtin

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@Suz and Rae - Mine is 11 years older than I am too! Does that make us trophy wives?

HelenInCanada

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Oh my, some very juicy stories here, ladies! Love this.

My SO and I reconnected on - gasp - Facebook. I highly recommend NOT adding past flings or even male friends on FB unless you want to cause grief in your current relationship! I was married at the time (for 10 years) but technically separated, and trying to figure out the frustrations in the marriage. SO and I began simply chatting online and realized how well we clicked and Iiked each other. Strangely, he was the opposite personality type to my H - very straightforward and non-analytical. Accepting, kind, a little traditional, and dependable. Sometimes genius is overrated, especially when you are in a romantic relationship. (Ex-H and I are still friends, thankfully. Really respect him. Get along MUCH better now, ironically!) I admitted to myself that reconciling with H was not a good idea considering the problems we'd been battling unsuccessfully for years. Major personality conflicts. No more romance. Arguing daily. Not healthy for our DD. Been with my SO for 4 years now, and have a 2 year old daughter.

Mochi

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Ouch, IK. Your story struck a chord in me because years ago I wrote and got published in a lit mag a very un-autobiographical story about an Italian woman, art student, who ended up marrying an art professor she meets in New York (American, but studied in Florence). She wasn't directly his student, but he is a pompous jerk, though.

Least interesting story here, but I was a Japanese major and met my husband at my university at some department get-together to welcome the new exchange students. 23 years and one daughter later!

christieanne

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I met my DH in college. I was actually dating someone else at the time but we were already on the path to breakup and it was a long distance thing.
At my college, I had three roommates in an apartment with a kitchen and common space. One of my roomies was a notorious partier and the other two left campus nearly every weekend leaving me "in charge" of the apartment.
The party girl held a party (of course) and I was on guard - creepy short guy who wore roller skates everywhere he went (appealing right?) kept talking to me and I would move away each time. Finally, he had me near a window and I guess I kept backing up. Next thing you know, my DH comes over and breaks into conversation.
He said to me "I've been looking for you - remember you were going to tell me about that book and loan it to me?" and then he gently took my elbow and lead me away from rooler skate dude.
Slick right?
We talked for a short time but then he kept just coming around for nice chats and backgammon games - very slowly charming me.

We got married on the tenth anniversary of that party (close as we could figure) and just had our 16th wedding anniversary.

jayne

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This stories are so cute. My SO, can I call him that after 2.5 years??, and I met at a party thrown by a friend. She had specifically picked the date of the party and invited all her single gals to set him up. He didn't notice any of us. Oblivious to the whole thing.

Anyway, I was in 'learning to flirt again' mode after my divorce about 2 years earlier and decided to practice on the single guy. All attempts fell dead. But the hostess insisted I ask him to dance and that seemed to be the end of it. Then suddenly, around midnight, he pops up and asks me to dance. And I don't know what happened. The next I knew we were all alone, the room empty and had been dancing and talking for hours. We didn't meet again for another 3 weeks but with sms and phone calls, we were madly in love by that time.

Unlike the rest of you, I am the older one here, by 5 years.

rae

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IK, if one can be a crazy cat lady and a trophy wife at the same time, I'll take it! lol

My FIL is also 11 years older than his wife.

nancylee

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We met in college, working together in the admissions office as tour guides. He claims to have been smitten immediately, but it took me a little longer! Over time, his great sense of humor and kindness won me over....that and the fact that he was a cutie.

This May marks our 27th wedding anniversary.

Victoria

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DH and I met on EHarmony. I just got divorced from my first husband(we were married for 11 years)and thought what the heck, I 'll try online thing. He contacted me first but there was no picture. He seemed nice on the paper so I emailed back and after few emails he sent his picture. I breathed a sign of relief because he was cute, LOL! We communicated online and over the phone for next 3 months before we decided to met in Las Vegas(I was living in MN at the time and he in HI). We met, both decided that there was something there, I wanted to get out of MN which I wanted to do for a long time so I came to HI. I think it was the crazyest thing I ever done but all ended well. We are complete opposites though but as they say, opposites attract

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