I've been trying to let this go, and I haven't been able to.

I've been dating a young man for a few months. We are still just "dating" but have become quite fond of one another. For the most part things have been good and we've managed to keep our relationship pretty equal despite my health issues and him working a crazy job.

A little over a month ago he started breaking our plans. We spent more and more time at his house, on his couch. This slowly evolved into him telling me that he'd call me or that we'd do something and not getting back to me. I don't care for waiting around all week on him. Then I would get last-minute invites to come see him. The last time I accepted one of these invitations I was at his house for 6 hours, including meal time and he never offered me anything to eat or drink. He asked me for a massage (one of my specialties) and otherwise pretty much watched TV and ignored me. The next time he called me up it was late in the evening. His place is an hour from mine and I didn't feel well and was not comfortable driving out there feeling poorly to provide him with attention only to drive back. This went on for over a month. There have been times he has made me feel guilty about things like not coming to do him a favor when he has wanted me to. I told him that I was willing to drive to come see him and even bring groceries, food, or cook for him, but that it was very difficult for me to do things last minute with an hour's warning (with a 45 minute drive). I also helped him move, once again at the last minute despite my own workload and health issues. It got to the point where it seemed like I was a complete afterthought and would only get a phone call when he wanted something and often only at or after 8 at night. I spent a lot of time waiting around on him and he had said some hurtful (if unintentional) things.

He finally admitted to me that he had been very stressed at work and had been very tired, something that he hadn't shared in all these weeks. He apologized for his work schedule and us not going out. I told him that it wasn't the work schedule or not going out, but him not communicating with me and the disrespect he showed me (I'd told him several times that I understood if he was too busy to go out). He told me he hadn't meant to disrespect me. I told him that it had hurt my feelings and had caused me major stress.

Now his work schedule has changed and he and I have been out and he has had time to be out with his friends. We had a lovely time and he has expressed an interest in becoming more serious. Unfortunately, I'm still not feeling well and am having a hard time letting go of this.

Since we have already talked about this, I don't want to be a harpy that brings bad feelings to what could otherwise be an enjoyable time by not letting go. I do have health issues and a lot of stress and feel very poorly a lot, but I work very hard not to let that be an excuse for treating others badly. I really hope that my reaction to this issue isn't a symptom of compassion fatigue (as I do still strongly believe that everyone deserves a break and some sympathy when they are feeling poorly, serious or not) since I don't get a break just because I'm stressed or feeling unwell.

That said, I personally don't think I would be willing to continue seeing him if he is going to act like this every time he is under stress. I really feel like he owes me an apology. I was really clear from the beginning about how my health issues affect me and how they can limit my spontaneity and the amount of stress I can handle. Right now my stress is about up to my limit with a large portion of the new stress due to "my steady" being inconsiderate and treating me poorly. He is now being great (enthusiastic about getting together, planned a nice date in advance), but seems to want to go right back to us having our "equal, don't burden one another" relationship (ex. if he pays, I drive, ect-- despite being the only one that has driven in weeks and weeks I drove to our date last week and he recycled an old date idea that was mine originally) and forget his promises and the fact that I'm now stressed and tired. He is also worried that I don't trust him, and wonders why.

Should I let this go? Do I just need to see if things get better/it isn't repeated?