I don't think I'm the one.
A couple of things happened this week. This is long, too.
We were chatting via Facebook messenger about some wineries he visited recently. He asked how online dating was going. I said I was taking a hiatus. Then I asked him what or who is looking for beside Olivia Wilde. The movie we saw a while ago was an independent movie called "Drinking Buddies" starring Olivia Wilde and I forgot the male lead actor's name. It is center around a man and woman (Olivia Wilde) who work together in a brewery. They flirt massively together, hang out and drinking beer. They have obiviou chemistry. But they both are in relationships with other people. *Warning* plot spoiler. The two couples go away for the weekend together and the two main characters sleep with each other. The rest of the film is centered around the consequences of that weekend.
He said he looking for a Christian Olivia Wilde. Someone with who he has great chemistry and drink beer with. But for me what I saw in the movie was not the great chemistry but the infidelity. He seemed to overlook that aspect of the movie.
I suggested that when our schedules coincide more we go to a cafe that specializes in Flemish beer. Trying to work the beer angle. All I got in response, "cool".
So on Thursday I met him at the happy hour event. It was meet-up for Habitat for Humanity Young Profesionals. I sat next to him for a bit, then he moved to outside deck but invited me to come out on there too. I sat next to him again and was introduced to all these people he knew from the group. After a while he got up and started talking to other people. I decided not to chase him again and remained sitting talking to the others. Around 8pm I sought him out and said I was leaving. He said he was talking about Habitat with others. I gave him a hug and left.
Last night he got tagged at event with the activity group that we are both part of. It was a cycling bus thingie, 16 seats that peddle that does a pub crawl of sorts. I had first spotted the contraption a few months ago, told him all about it and said it seemed like a fun thing to do. I didn't sign up for this event because I was bit unsure of my schedule and by the time I realized I had the time it was full. Not once did he suggest that I sign up for the event too.
Weekend after next I'm supposed to do a float tubing trip with him and some others. Now I'm not even sure I'm looking forward to it.
I get wanting to have chemistry with someone, but part of me wants to say, "Dude, you are 42 years old, there's more to life than drinking beer with someone"
Am I misreading the signals, or lack there of?