I was a utilitarian gal until my late fifties when I wandered into an upscale specialty shop for a bra fitting. I found I adored wearing pretty bras which fit perfectly and improved the look of my clothes. Mr. G was the enabler who suggested I buy the matching knickers and, since then, I’ve never looked back.

My lingerie drawer is an important element of my style. Pretty lingerie makes me happy and being happy is always sexy.

I’ve definitely morphed into a curmudgeon the older I get *and* the more self-confident I get. I can’t help but feel that sexy lingerie objectifies women. Plus I’m always cold

What a fab bunch of responses!

I think I’ve rotated thru all of these various approaches throughout the 19(!) years we’ve been together. At first, I wore a bikini throughout an entire road trip. When we got married I used classy white silk lingerie, received as gifts from friends. Then went thru a phase of the hilarious stripper stuff: hot pink feathers etc. Then bought another batch of gorgeous Mimi Holliday stuff for 10th anniversary. A few years later, embarked on experiments with massage, writing stories, etc. Now at 15th anniversary— just kinda out of ideas! For now it’s important to me to have stuff that looks and feels nice for everyday. And I do choose the textures (satin yes, lace no) and colors that he likes.

Thanks all for sharing your strategies, thoughts and chuckles.

Opaline! That is terribly funny. Can we work it into the slogan for men's lingerie?

Gaylene, that's awesome! Beyond a couple silk chemises I wore as nighties/loungewear around his kindergarten years, I haven't felt comfortable wearing it with my son around (I'm a single mom), especially now that he's a teen with all those hormones. But this is a topic I plan to revisit after he moves out.

For those who are saying that lingerie is all about objectification--that we would only wear lingerie if a guy was going to see it, for sex, I suggest you look up the phrase "sex positive feminism". I'm not going as far as Cardi B's Twerk video (yes, that is the title and the argument she has made about it), and I realize we can feel social pressure when we are alone, but insisting that it's all about a guy's pleasure is pretty restrictive thinking. Besides, as several women commented here, the guys often don't care anyway.

Jessikams, with your creativity and the fun you've been having with getting dressed, I bet you'll come up with something awesome. I hope you'll tell us about it. Have fun!

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I hate lingerie. Expensive, hardly anyone’s gonna see it, so fragile, unattractive looking. I’m the Grand High Curmudgeon.

I hate ligerie myself ... but we need it.

Please don't laugh of me, but when i sleep I use this kind of Shorts.

https://venoora.com/product/ca.....bics-yoga/

Thanks for this post and all the comments. DH and I will be celebrating our 35th wedding anniversary next month. We were together 3 years before that. I am happy to say that we have evolved and grew past the Frederick’s of Hollywood, thigh high stockings and stilettos. DH would buy my pretties that he thought I would like and they were fun for a while. A short while.
Next DH graduated to subtly sexy clothing and a romantic dinner. Hello LBD and diamond earrings. I have been gifted with some pretty nice clothing and baubles over the years, romantic dinners, weekends and vacations.
I wear pretty bras and matching panties because they make me happy. DH seems to like them too, which is a nice plus. Romantic lingerie for the sake of romantic lingerie is a thing of the distant past.
Fast forward to now. A genuine “I am happy to see you” smile is the most romantic thing ever.

I would no more wear the Playmate look than I would put on a clown suit if that is what my husband wanted in the bedroom.... it all feels like a costume to me, I am so NOT that girl. Thankfully not an issue in this house!