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Jan challenge days 21 & 22: the Feb doldrums hit early

kkards

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I wasn’t feeling well yesterday and today is cold & overcast and both outfits reflect this.
#1 athleisure for a lazy Saturday
#2 daisies for a low key Sunday (thought I’d wear the jeans one more time before I throw them in the wash, but seeing the pictures, we’ll forgive the wrinkled mess)

And as I’m posting I realized that both of these outfits feature tops bought “under the influence”, which for me means I was shopping with family & was talked into buying something I would normally pass on. The light blue/yellow sweater is lovely it’s just not really me, but my mom loved it. The daisy sweatshirt is me, but it’s black & I’ve pretty much stopped buying black, especially if it’s a top (I still occasionally buy black boots & did buy black leather joggers & leggings). This one my sister talked me into. I can honestly say, they don’t get a lot of wear, and I should’ve been stronger. Ever had a loved one talk you into buying something you knew wasn’t right for you?

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Irina

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I would dare to say neither of these tops looks like “you”. Does not mean where is something wrong with either of them.
I used to go shopping with a friend but don’t anymore, find that I often bought things I normally would not. As for family members, my DH is very convinced that all my jewelry and accessories should be delicate and small in proportion to my size. I dislike small watches for example
He talked once or twice into buying small accessories.

Helena

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Unlike these but agree that they don't seem like you necessarily, although nothing wrong with having a few pieces like that around ... I do for sure! And they look good;especially the daisies which is similar to you with the dark palette ... If that makes sense!

I don't have a particular person, but I do have a generalized issue with feeling like I *should* be more interesting which results in bad buys ... Live and learn!!

LJP

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I agree with Irina as to the tops not really being “ you”.
I can’t recall ever shopping with a friend - not since high school anyway- and I’m not convinced I’ve missed out on anything

LJP

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And I’m with you re the February doldrums . I’m at that point in the season where I hate all of my clothes and feel bored with and tired of all of them. I actually went to work on Friday in about the worst outfit ever and could only conjure up a minor amount of caring about it .

Minaminu

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Love how varied your dress uniform is! And well done for sticking to it and taking a picture almost daily! The outfits may not be "very you" but you wear them with panache and easy. I too don't enjoy shopping with family and friends as I often feel pushed into a purchase and thankfully I have learnt to politely say no, but there were quite a long list of wrong purchases. I still remember an orange turtleneck, what was I thinking?!?!?

MsMaven

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I bought a few things shopping with my Mom. Most things I buy with Mr. M. are ok, often stuff I've picked out ahead of time. Now the problem is he goes to Costco and buys stuff for himself and for me. After all this time he doesn't know what I have in the closet and what I like/don't like. This week it was a pair of PJs, but I already have PJs and nightgowns galore. No harm done.

I like both sweaters, but I see what you mean by a doldrums kind of day.

kkards

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I haven’t shopped with a friend since I’m early 20s. In college i realized for the 1st time that not everyone liked to stroll thru stores and see/feel/touch everything , LOL, I thought that’s what shopping was. I due enjoy shopping with my family because that is how we shop, but do need to remember to JUST SAY NO.

Indigoprint

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Oh gee we could be shopping partners. I love to see feel and touch. I know what you mean about others influencing purchases tho. On the flip side your mother probably enjoyed the experience with you very much so there is value to that.
I think the are both nice toppers. I like the whimsy of the daisy top.
Those joggers are really great, I am going to check them out as I want to expand my comfy bottoms.
Christina M.( I cannot spell her last name) blogs and she uses joggers frequently and not just as leasure wear. How do you wear joggers?

kkards

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Indigoprint- ignore the wet hair, here are the joggers as I worn them to work this summer. I actually wear these to work a lot during the summer, but for some reason this is the only outfit photo I have. I know I wore them with a lightweight white jacket worn as a shirt, and with a white tee and white denim jacket. I have the same joggers in a olive green as well.

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jussie

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Yeah they don’t strike me as “kkards style”. Lol I adore that yellow and blue sweater though! Hehe it’s more like something I would wear.
For serious shopping, I must admit I do usually prefer to go by myself, mainly because I worry that another person would be really bored as I take quite a while and look at everything.
For some light window shopping it’s quite fun to go with someone, also it’s kind of interesting to see the things other people are drawn to. I don’t feel pressured to buy things, no. Actually I do enjoy accompanying others while they shop for things, hope I’m not one to push them into buying things. I don’t think I am though….
Occasionally my husband is kind enough to buy me an item of clothing as a gift, this is interesting because sometimes it’s something I absolutely never would have chosen but turns out quite well. Other times it’s a complete miss though.
Fwiw both the sweaters look really nice on you.

Indigoprint

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Thanks kkards for the reply. I looked at the joggers and they seem like a good place to start. I also like some of the joggers shown with cargo pockets.

Style Fan

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The sweaters don't seem to be your style, but I do like your jeans. They are fabulous. I rarely shop with friends. I will shop with Mr. SF. He has a good eye, but he gets cranky.
February is a difficult month. I admire you for posting your WIWs.

Runcarla

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I like the top your mom liked but I get it.

Dee

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I do like the yellow/blue sweater, and find the daisy one cute but a bit dark however, only you know if its you or not.

I clothing shop alone and sadly I’m able to make plenty of mistakes all by myself lol. The way you describe how you shop is pretty much the way I shop too but I can’t imagine any of my friends or family wanting to linger for very long while I try to figure out if something is right or not.

Jaime

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If the floral top were navy I think you would like it more. The striped top is less "you" imho. I rarely shop with others, so my worst influence is pretty much me .

Zaeobi

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The colours of both tops are nice but I agree that neither seems like 'you' - maybe if they had more welted hems? Idk.

I think all clothing anyone else has bought me no longer exists in my closet, lol (bar some accessories & sentimental items)...

Same for clothing bought when shopping with others, or when in a rush (I recently noticed that everything I bought in my first week living in Brazil* is no longer with me today - the only thing that left the country that didn't originally enter it was a pair of dark brown leather boots. I'm predictable!).

* I had to panic buy right after landing in a foreign country (back when I didn't speak the language) because they lost my suitcase & my host was about 4 sizes smaller than me. 2/10, I don't recommend the experience to anyone
Shopping with others is only *marginally* less stressful (4/10?) because of all the reasons you outlined - I'm a serial feeler!

Cee

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My mum talked me into buying a pair of brown loafers in the early '80s. I wore for about a year before I moved them on.

Bijou

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I generally shop alone but enjoy shopping with two of my close friends who invariably pick the best stuff for me! Shopping with my sisters is tricky as our tastes are very different, I don't think I have gone shopping with either of them in about 20 years. Strangely the clothes that suit me look eccentric and crazy on them.

Olive Green

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You wear a jacket/blazer really well. The joggers do go with that. While I like the striped sweater on you, it seems a bit more pastel than you usually do?
I have a BFF who is European and we have a wonderful time shopping and basically laughing far too much. All my “not basics’ seem to have been bought with her. Brutal honesty is helpful
Those whose husbands can and will shop with them? Wow, my artist husband seems to go temporarily blind when asked for an opinion on clothes. Smart or chicken, you decide.

Anonymous

Not clothes, but DH convinced me to buy a tabla drum on my 40th. Despite Loving the sound of tabla, I would have had to study Indian classical music to play it. Plus there was just 1 and they're played in pairs. Definitely one of my unwisest purchases!

Joy

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I get it. I dislike shopping with those who try to talk me into things and usually shop alone or say I will watch the price to see if it drops.

lyn67

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I get it, too! I only like to shop with somebody when we shop for them, and NOT for me, LOL! (for ex DH, DD or presents). I need to be calm and very very subjective with my buys!:-)

Janet

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These look nice on you, but I totally get it! I have a friend I shop with occasionally. I admit we are a bit enabling of each other. I’ve learned to put on my extra-critical goggles when I’m out with her, to challenge myself not to be swayed. I bought a very nice discounted blazer last time I made a shopping mistake with her that I’ve since passed along to my niece.