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I hate my hair.

Tricia

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I am NEVER happy with the way my hair looks. I think I've had every style in the book and I just never like it.

Most recently I had shoulder-length hair with thick blunt bangs. I loved this style for a long time and then over the last few months, I grew the bangs out a bit and switched my part from the middle to the side (like in my profile picture). That was fine but I started to feel like it looked too generic or something, so last week I got the bangs cut again and went back to a center part.

And for some reason I hate it! Suddenly instead of feeling fun it felt frumptastic. But I tried pulling the bangs back to see what I'd look like without them (it's been years) and I hated that, too. Help? I want something that looks hip and fresh - not too generic, but not too over the top. Maybe I just need to grow the sides more? Or just grow the bangs into side bangs?

A couple of pics for reference:

1. Earlier this summer - kind of wound up with a Rachel unintentionally

2. About a year and a half ago, full bangs and shoulder length

3. About a month ago, before I cut it the most recent time

4. last night, picture that sent me screaming to YLF

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Latest reply was from Scarlet

Anonymous

I think it looks cute (but I may be biased as I am currently sporting a version of this look!). I like the sideswept bangs too!

Would you go shorter?

Anonymous

I like it, too, but I can certainly relate to hating one's hair and wanting a new style. I'm at that place right now. I've decided to go shorter... as if my hair wasn't short enough to begin with.

ironkurtin

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You're adorable and I want to shake you.

What shampoos and products are you using? That can make a HUGE difference.

Tricia

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I had short hair (mostly bob, plus disastrous pixie) for years - definitely don't want to do shorter.

I use aveda color safe shampoo and conditioner and a bumble & bumble spray gel my stylist recvomended.

Oh, here's what I did today in desperation - side part, bangs combed to the side, one of my million vintage scarves. I don't mind this. Maybe grow the bangs just enough to do this more easily?

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citygirldc

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You look good to me.

Marmee

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I know the feeling of hair unhappiness, but yours looks great to me! Still it's very personal. I use Kerastase shampoo, and when I'm out, I always have hair issues. I highly recommend it.

Mo

(website)

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I really like it as is (#4)! Maybe a cut that's shorter in back and longer in front would be edgier for you?

Emily

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Tricia, you look great in bangs, both sideswept and full-on. I really like your side-swept headscarf look, too. What about colour if you're feeling bleh about it?

Amy

(website)

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What? I love your hair! It's shiny, has body and is a very, very pretty color. Maybe a nice trim would make you feel better?

texstyle

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First, you have beautiful hair and face to go with it! But I think when you have fresh cut bangs sometimes they can just feel sort of off. Usually it seems that after a week or so the bluntness softens up some and it's always better (to me at least). It looks like you can really pull off a blunt bang but maybe you want something more interesting.

What about something edgier like this:
http://www.pinterest.com/pin/270145677620189193/

Parsley

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Gosh, I think your hair looks beautiful! It's enviably thick, glossy, and healthy-looking, and I think the bangs suit you nicely. It's handy to be able to wear them styled either straight down or brushed to the side.

Sometimes though I think it's just that we crave change, so you may need to do something to mix it up a little. Temporary (or permanent) color streaks might be just the thing, or trying an updo, or just anything different just to have some variety.

Aziraphale

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How about a short haircut? Could be a pixie, or else just a chin-length bob with some shape. I think your face looks good with full bangs. What does it look like if they're a little longer so they reach your eyebrows?

If you're looking for something a little edgy, either very long or very short is usually the ticket. It's harder (but not impossible) to have edgy shoulder-length hair. You'd maybe need a lot of texture -- kind of a rock n' roll shag -- or maybe have it shorter at the back and longer in the front, like Alaskagirl's. (Dying it blue like hers is always an option, too).

Janet

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I find full, straight-down bangs maddening, but my hair grows crazy fast, so that's part of my issue.

I really like the sideswept bangs on you.

Tricia

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Aw, you guys are so nice. (Sorry I couldn't check in until now - Friday is my busy day.) I think I just need to play with it some more and maybe grow the bangs just a leeeetle closer to my eyebrows. And I like that cut someone linked to.

Honestly, I think it's partly that I am so very very ready to be back at work full time. Being alone all day is getting to me and I have too much room in my brain for stuff like this.

Shirley

I like it the best in the band photo. But you look nice in all of them. Maybe you let it grow longer, so there is more contrast with the bang?

Sara

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You look good, change the color if you want or but new dress to stress you hair. Love yourself!

catgirl

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Good grief, woman - you look fantastic in all of these. #3 is my fave, but I also love the flapperesque bob. Maybe a change of color (says the girl who just went blue)?

MsLuna

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You have such a pretty face, and I really like this hairstyle on you! I do like the sideswept bangs on you best, especially with the headband!

But I do know what you're going through with all this "I hate my hair" moments. I'm in the same stage, but what I have is a pixie cut that grew nicely into a shoulder-length bob. I've gotten so tired of it because it did not grow fast enough to be past the shoulders! I've been wearing my hair curly lately (I have naturally straight hair), and that seems to help with my hair blahs. Perhaps do something similar?

Suz

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Ugh. We all have those days. But seriously, your hair is beautiful all the ways, and so are you.

Vix

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Hi Tricia --

Well, #4 doesn't *look* like you should hate it, but I get why you prefer the modification you posted with the scarf. I have to say #3 (slightly longer, sideswept bangs) is my favorite on you.

I also agree about hair going a bit nuts after a cut and needing a week to settle down or something.

Do your bangs grow fast? Seems like maybe you can work on some variations sooner vs later.

lyn*

(website)

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I am very envious of the slight natural curl/wave in your hair, but I do understand wanting the change too! The to-the-side bangs are very dreamy and pretty; do they fall during the day into your eyes?

karymk

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You are the bangs QUEEN! Look at all the versatility you are getting out of them. I think you should keep them the way they are for now, play with the length of your hair maybe. Yes, that's it! Keep playing!

dustt

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they all look terrific to my eye - but I understand the angst of not loving what your hair is doing. What I'm seeing is totally gorgeous - thick, shiny, wavy and versatile!! try to look at it from our outside perspective and not that inner vision of what you think it should look like - that is what helps me when I'm ready to shave mine all off!!

Runcarla

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Very Alexa Chung 'it girl'!

Scarlet

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Oh my gosh, you have great hair! The short bangs to the side in your latest photo is so Audrey Hepburn. I do prefer your bangs to the side more than blunt, but that is just my personal style preference because your face can carry both.