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Jaime

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Ok, my hair grow out is sort of boring me. My hair is still asymmetrical as you can see from the pictures, but it is kind of neither here nor there. It looks a bit different every day because I put in product and go, and various weather and hat factors do what they will, but these are pretty typical. I am willing to grin and bear it but I need a goal!

Therefore, any hair inpso pics, hair suggestions, hair projects, hair direction you might have to offer would be appreciated. Thank you for indulging me!

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Joy

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I like the present look of your hair. It softens and looks natural. Could you ask your hair person when you go back what they would suggest? They know your hair texture and how it wants to grow. I really like the asymmetrical look on you and hope you keep that.

Zaeobi

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I think your hair looks lovely & not boring at all! That said, are you looking to cut your hair or just for temporary styling goals? I think a scarf worn in your hair a la @Runcarla could look chic, same with clips - you could try clipping back just the shorter side & letting the fringed side out (especially if you pull a few strands to the front) to help emphasise the asymmetry of your fringe vs the rest of your hair.

I don't know if you've heard of hair chalk, but that could be another interesting way to liven things up. It's temporary, so there's no committment to the colour & it's apparently easy to do at home (I've never tried it myself, since black hair is too dark for most at-home treatments, boohoo lol)

rachylou

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I’m so bad with hair. I think your hair is pretty now, but if you want to go towards something different... gosh, you could do anything... and for some reason, Ines comes to mind...

Jessikams

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It looks great, and that length allows you to play a bit. Maybe you could try “slicking back” the shorter side with a strong hold product, or twisting it back with little pins. This gives the effect of an undercut but also allows you to use barrettes or other decoration.

Mirjana

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I understand you and why you said that it look boring, you wore it that way long time and you need some change. But I like your hair like that, it's you signature sign. Anyhow, if you want to change something I am with Joy, ask you hairdresser if you don't have exactly idea what to do.

Jenni NZ

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I don’t think it looks boring, I guess it looks a bit messy. Like not a deliberate style. For mine I think that’s why I keep going back to a short pixie, I hope/think it looks like I meant to do it!
Sorry no ideas because I am very boring re hair.

Star

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I like this slightly longer look on you but still asymmetrical, really suits your face.

Mainelady

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I always think you hair is gorgeous with the color and asymmetrical style, it I do understand wanting to change things up sometimes. I like the suggestions of trying out clips, a scarf or a headband. Consulting your stylist is a good idea, too! I’m curious, will your changes be subtle or bold?

Liesbeth

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Hmm, not great with hair myself but I think you'd also look great with slightly longer hair in the sides and back and a chop to you fringe, like in the pics below. Still a bit asymmetrical because that's funkier ;). That is, if you want a change. I agree with everyone that I love your current cut, even if I agree at its current length it's a bit neither here nor there.

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Janet

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I am with Joy and Star. I really like it even at this length. But I’m not much help as my own hair is getting really shapeless and I am not sure what to do either. I am growing out the super short side overt left ear, which is maddening — It flips up over my ear, which is why I am mostly parting my hair on the other side and hiding it. You are growing out much more gracefully!

Helena

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I don't know Shevia, it looks pretty great to me actually. But I get it - it gets annoying after a while when you can't do what you want with your hair. What's the stylist situation in Israel right now - is that a realistic option?

I'm not great with hair but I can say that my current goal (given I haven't even tried to get a stylist appointment yet as I'm sure they are mobbed) is to get my hair into the shiniest, healthiest shape I can. So I don't bother much with styling, but have been spending a lot more time and effort conditioning, moisturizing, etc. That could be a little hair project to keep in mind?

Jaime

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Thank you all for your thoughts. I guess after having a specific, somewhat dramatic style for so long, this neither here nor there (exactly Liesbeth!) look is not pulling its style weight.
Joy - Thank you! My stylist is great but I need to give her some sort of direction. Most of all I need to decide if it is worth risking a short cut.
Zaeobi - Thank you! Actually I have been wearing head bands a lot lately to keep my hair out of my face. I guess I am looking for more of a cut or a goal cut when the shorter side gets longer. Not really sure myself!
rachylou - Ines you say? Well that certainly sound good.
Jessikams - Good ideas, I am waiting for it to get long enough to tuck behind my ear, but gel could work now.
Mirjana - Thank you!
Jenni NZ - Messy is ok with me, but yes, I want it to look more deliberate. Exactly.
Thank you Star!
Mainelady - Well, that's the thing. It seems risky to get a high maintenance cut - everything is open now, but who knows what is coming around the corner. I prefer my hair to be dramatic and deliberate looking - with no fuss .
Liesbeth - Love the pictures, although not sure i can carry off bangs.
Janet - Thank you! I do miss the angles and the statement of the shorter side.
Torontogirl - Everything is open here, but I don't feel the situation is stable enough to count on my previous every 6 week cut. I want to let the shorter side get to my chin I guess. But sometimes I don't. Alas, my hair will never be shiny - it is very dry and getting it not to be a frizz ball is the height of my aspirations in that department!

Vildy

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Got nothin' to offer - still looks great to me, as it does to other folks.
What product do you use that enables those strands to stand up and/or out like that?

Laurie

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I think concern about future shut-down is valid, and I had this discussion last week with my stylist when she suggested lighter highlights for the summer. I passed because I want to be able to ride out another several months without hair angst if need be.

Your hair is so adorable. I am personally not drawn to asymmetrical cuts for myself - though you YLFabbers totally rock this look, and I'm in awe - so I'd personally love to see it fuller all around your face at this length.The curls are amazing, and always add the dramatic effect. You can always cut it again, so stick out this growing period and see what happens. Why not?!

JAileen

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I love it as is. I’m not very avant garde, though, so there’s that.

taylor

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I love the asymmetrical style on you! The color is fabulous and your curl keeps it looking interesting, full and lush.
i have a preference for a more distinct , deliberate shorter look on one side.(a bit shorter over all). I like the drama and contrast it creates. I think you have worn it like that in the past .

You are looking FAB Shevia ...no matter what you decide!

Suz

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I adore this cut on you!! I understand the craving for a bit of change, though. Am wondering if the styling ideas suggested above might be enough for now...sometimes it just gets to an awkward place for a few weeks and then we settle with it, you know? But Taylor has good insight, too -- it may lack enough drama for you at present.

slim cat

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Love the asymmetrical style ( would like to have one myself ) on you!
Maybe even more dramatic - one side almost shaved, the other - almost as long as it is now?..

Angie

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I've had the pleasure of meeting you in person a few times, and Jaime, you have BEAUTIFUL hair! It's like Greg's, who I think has the best hair in the world

You look FAR from boring, but I get you want a change. And I like hair projects.....

How about something like this? Sharper and more shaped.

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sylvie55

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I’m in a particularly hideous growout stage myself, and Bobby pins/barrettes/headbands plus heavy duty gel have kept me almost presentable. Maybe try experimenting with those.

avicennia

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What is striking about your hair are the color and the luscious, bouncy curls. Regardless of what you decide to do — grow it out or go back to your short asymmetrical style — your hair will be beautiful!

Vix

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Hi Shevia —

Since you asked — I don’t think this is really a hair question as much as it’s a personality question.

You have managed to have an annoyingly well-behaved grow-out during lockdown haha (although I know how wavy/curly hair can *feeeeel* super-top-heavy when shaping’s needed).

So the current length plus your usual asymmetrical style looks good ~ intentional ~ stylish.

BUT (da da dummmmm): is it YOU?

As in —> I’d been growing my hair out pre-lockdown after finding a curl cut stylist who didn’t keep cutting my hair off to just above shoulder-length. That length technically LOOKS fine, but makes me feel both conservative and perky and I really dislike it.

So I was happy enough with it pre-LD, and we were like, “ok let’s see what it looks like in 2 months / ~ 3 inches.”

4 months / 6 inches later...I loved my nearly bra band length and kept most of it during my cut a few days ago. I probably would have passed on growing it out of [insert random concerns here.] For me it brings the drama that the mid-length did not (hence my wearing it piled up most of the time).

Anyway: it’s clear you’re not feeling THIS length. In addition to all the great styling tips above, maybe you can just pin the length under now and then to see how you feel when you look in the mirror with it shorter.

If you haven’t been hankering to grow it long in some way/shape/form I don’t know that I’d keep going that direction.

In fact I might go shorter in case you end up with another 2-3 months of grow-out...sort of working backwards as to what’s the longest you can more or less enjoy.

madeline

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Shevia, I am trying to pay it forward here as Runcarla posted some great hair inspo photos for me.
Your hair is gorgeous and would look great no matter what style you choose. Hope you find some inspiration!

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Runcarla

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It can be super challenging to look ‘cutting edge’ with curly hair. Your asymmetrical cut was probably as edgy as a mop top can get, and the style really suited you. I understand wanting to change things up, but it may be hard to find the drama of ‘edginess’ during a grow out. On the other hand, natural curly hair seems to be having a moment - and some ‘shag’ variations seem modern this year. (I’m not feeling the inverted bob or wedge ATM. Something about precise or geometric lines doesn’t feel ‘right’, nor is it easy to maintain if appointments with stylists are fewer and farther apart.)

You could consider bringing the longer side up to match the shorter side for a more symmetrical mid-length layered style. Shorten the front (maybe 3 inches?) so it is less disconnected, but DON’T do bangs. Something like Yasmin Sewell (#1) but with a longer front that can be swept to either side, parted in the middle, or swept up and pinned back. Kind of a blend of #1 and #2, but not as ‘stiff’ as #3. Smoothed out, it would look like Julia Roberts in #4 - but we all know her hair is quite curly - I just couldn’t find a photo that showed her natural hair texture with this cut.

If you want a more rounded style, and shorter back, you can keep growing the sides and back, but keep the front/fringe shorter*, like #5 and #6. This is a little more conventional style, though.

I’m adding #7 just in case you don’t want to give up any of the front length, and want a l-o-n-g (term) hair project. Get the sides cut to the same symmetrical length, and move your part closer to the middle/center keeping most of the length. The long ‘fringe’ will be disconnected until the sides and back gain more length but the top length can be distributed a little more over both sides, IYKWIM.

*’shorter’ is always relative with curly hair since it shrinks so much, and bangs shrink even more than the sides and back, it seems!

Hope this helps, Shevia!

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Runcarla

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I’ve had the pic below as a constant on my Pinterest hair board (I keep it edited to 50 images) and I did have something like this in 2016. The back and sides were cut very short and the top/front was grown quite long. I kept it symmetrical, but did favour a side part. It worked well when I was training hard for triathlon, and I really liked it, but it wasn’t as dramatic as the photo due to my overall low contrast colouring, and the fact thatnImdidn’t keep up with regular trims to keep the short sides and back - well - short!

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Anonymous

Your hair is so pretty I can only vote for more of it so anything longer

Jaime

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Thank you all so much!
Vildy I have tried many curl products over the years and absolutely nothing works for my hair like Catwalk Curls Rock Amplifier by Tigi. I just finger comb it through my hair and it eventually dries like this.
Laurie Letting it grow out is basically what I think I will do, because of the reasons you state!
JAileen - Thank you!
Thank you taylor! I did wear it that way for a long time, but it requires regular cuts or the short side doesn't look right. Until I feel sure that is possible, I am trying to find a less cut needy look.
Suz - Thank you! I am trying to wait it out so that the short side gets long enough to go down rather than out, if you know what I mean .
slim cat - Thank you! That was really my cut for years with the short side going from super short to just short. But I sort of want a shut down ready look for now .
sylvie55 - I need to get some stronger gel and start playing.
avicennia - Thank you!
Vix - "That length technically LOOKS fine, but makes me feel both conservative and perky and I really dislike it." Yes! Substitute boring and predictable and that's me now. Am considering going short and bold.
madeline - Thank you for the gorgeous inspo pictures!
Runcarla - Thank you!! I am so glad you wrote with your curly hair insight and brilliant inspo pictures. I love #1 but am not sure my hair is up to it, #5 is where I think I am headed, #6 is great but my curls tend to start at a longer length. Or maybe I am just not cutting/styling right? Love the super short one, but not ready to go there in the current situation. Thank you again!
Phoebe - That is so nice, thank you!
Angie Thank you for that sweet compliment! And you got me! I want a hair project! I love your inspiration pictures, but am not sure my hair is curly enough for some of those looks. Am examining!

Vildy

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Great, thanks for the recommend. Now *I* have a hair project.
Though salons have just opened up here, I am kind of liking how the "gray" has come in ash blond. But I like to wear a fair of amount of dark and deep clothes and without any contrast to my skin tone....

RobinF

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I love it as it is now but I get wanting a change. You've been given some great inspo pics. You could start with Liesbeth #2, grow out to Carla #2, then to Madeline #1 and finally to Angie #2!

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