Thank you Kstewart, JAileen, Molly Mac, Brooklyn, taylor, Shevia, Jessikams, and rachylou.
I still feel like the back is a bit of a disaster, but it seems like you guys are not seeing what I'm seeing, or are better able to ignore it
It takes some getting used to the fluffiness of it, I think.
LaPed: Thank you for mentioning Tatiana Maslany. I googled her, and she has similar and and face shape to me. I had a lot of fun looking at her different looks from the show. I really think the long curly hair down or up is by far the best look for her (and by extension, me, right? :-)). She has some severe looks with straight hair. I find the straight hair doesn't look as good on her.
Robyn, Sal: Thanks for the vote of confidence in the curl!
Style Fan: I googled her, and her name is Sally Hershberger. I'll google more intensively later.
Janet: you say 'oddly straight in spots in front and curly at the back' -> Yes, this is my issue too.
April: Thanks for saying it's not messy!
Unfrumped, Joy: Thanks!
Lesley you say "it's a million times easier" -> I can agree with this now that I've come up with a system. It requires going to work with my hair wet, and figuring out the products that wouldn't leave my hair too limp or crisp.
Jules: I think I kind of am using the curly girl method. I only use conditioner now. (There is no need at all to use shampoo any more.) I still don't use the 'flop' because my tshirts aren't big enough, and I also don't like gel, but use curl cream instead. The biggest impact though was: Wash/wet EVERY day to prevent the second day limpness.
Suntiger: thanks!
Cardiff Girl: I think longer will work on me, I agree (for now-we'll see how it goes!) . Thanks!
Vix: I think I 'm a bit like you in that I don't need to go for maximum curl. I noticed that less product on day 1 gives way better hair on day 2 (yes, it's straighter, but it's less stringy). However, more product on day 1 gives better day 1 results
I think your approach to just keep talking things over with my stylist is the only way to go. She'll have a better idea of where to take things once she gets to know me. Also, I like to mix things up too.