Thanks for taking the time to help me think through my choices. Truly, I feel like a downmarket version of Marie Antoinette these days, searching through her closet saying, "but no ting eez right. Call the royal seamstress. No cake until she makes my leetle heart sing!" Oh wait...the royal seamstress would be ME!
My local environment is conservative, and uber casual. I definitely dress outside the norm in color and silhouette. I don't think people are whispering behind my back, necessarily, but to be complimented on an item of clothing is a rarity --- perhaps once a month, if that. I do have two close friends who might be an exception to this rule. I don't dress to get a string of admirers -- my divadom doesn't reach that far, but it makes you wonder if you're looking strange. For example, no one has said anything about my yellow bag, except for, "Wow, that's bright."
I'm beginning to suspect that the issue is deeper than fashion and broader than just me. I notice a lot of lonely people in my neighborhood, in my workplace, even in the new church we're attending. We "do things" together, but don't
really see each other or really connect -- except on facebook. I think the fact that I have, to quote Ann of Green Gables, 2 bosom friends, is very unusual.
My DH and I have set about trying to make a dent in this. We're being intentional about bringing people into our home, even though this necessitates deep cleaning (lol). In conversation, I make it a point to draw people out -- to find out what makes them tick. And yes, I comment positively on the pretty earrings, lovely shoes, colorful sweater, etc. For now, YLF is my mirror to
make sure I'm not looking whackadoodle!
Now --- for the clothes!
Deborah: I have resisted springing for a truly well-fitted shirt, because I don't wear them often. Of course, perhaps I don't wear them often because they don't fit well!
Caro: This ruched skirt would be difficult to hem, but I can fold it and move it about on my body. I like this length with heels, I think, but I might play with it in the mirror a bit. I was hoping for a "retro" look with the flats, but I don't think it was intentional enough.
Adelfa: We do have similar coloring, indeed. I suspect my undertones are more yellow than yours, although I'm less sallow as I age, and my eyes are hazel --- goldish with lots of green.
You give me a lot to work with, some ideas that are new to me --- the blackened brights, for example. I have started to work in bit of brown and return to gold, too, with good results. I'll be watching your posts closely!
Suz: Color makes me happy, for sure! I think I sometimes expect the perfect, stellar garment to be the answer, and that's what I mean by hiding! As if it's the perfect garments in our closet that give us good style, when in fact it's the way they fit and work together that's most crucial.
I'm working with super casual looks this Summer. That's my nod to environmental norms, and it's providing a good challenge. Still, I'm beginning to think it's not me -- it's my environment. I do not say that with any judgement at all --- we all can make different choices. I guess maybe I feel just a little sad that my neighbors don't know the fun of a yellow purse!