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bj1111

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...shopping. i purged 75% of one closet after i faced my weight gain. i went up 1-2 sizes depending on the brand. honestly, it was the best thing. so i went shopping. this is mostly a list of what i got because i keep forgetting what i already had.

shoes (1-6). 5 is the style, the pattern and color are closer to 6. #2 and #3 are keep or return--what do you think?

dresses (7-14).
tops (15-20). i got #19 in navy as well.
shorts (21)
suit (22)
accessories (23-24)

i'd like another pair of leather slides in camel or slightly darker, a pair of white chinos, a leather tote that is ultralight, shooties in a kitten heel and maybe in patent leather. suggestions?

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25 replies

Latest reply was from Thistle

cindysmith

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No, you dont have to stop shopping. Maybe slow down on the BUYING, but we never stop shopping

jussie

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Wow some beautiful, versatile items here. Enjoy wearing your new, well-fitting clothes. Can't wait to see some outfit pics.

CocoLion

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HELLO!!!
I need to do a purge too. It's been almost 2 years since my body changed a lot. I mean, it's just 5-8 pounds but around 2 sizes difference because it is all in the midsection. I have not purged at all because I keep thinking I'll reduce. What am I thinking. I need to get rid of it all. Just like you did.

Is #3 a specialty shoe for a specific occasion? If so, keep it. If not, are you going to wear a wedge that high very often? Love all of the other shoes, especially the gold mules. The black dresses will look great on you, you genuinely wear black well.

You made me happy by posting. Waves hello.

bj1111

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@jussie, outfit pics are on the horizon!

@cocolion, I got the first three pairs to wear to the same event, lol! I’ll provably return #3. And I thought of you when I bought #20 after our many discussion so on how to find interesting T-shirts! I finally accepted having to pay more for something I really liked. I’ve missed your wiws.

rachylou

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Stop already? How about bottoms for all the new tops?

Vix

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Hi BJ111 --

For a whole closet redo this isn't that much -- echoing all the above about seeing a lot of versatile items for your style!

It can be hard to turn off acquisition mode once it's relit, though. Have you really started wearing all the shiny new stuff? Maybe that will help refocus your attention to outfit creation vs buying anything but the items you've still got on your list.

Other than that idea, I got nothin'. Enjoy (and yes, post results)!

Suz

(website)

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Nah. Don't stop! Enjoy the new stuff! And yay for you, for clothing the body you have. The black will look great on you.

delurked

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I really like your black sheath dresses and see cohesion in your top selections. Obviously we are mostly enablers round here, so sticking to your wish list may be helpful. I am working my way toward being able to release too small clothing. I’m sure it’s a freeing way to move forward with your closet.

Style Fan

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Can't wait for the WIWs. Love the black dresses. After Angie's post on Friday, I could see the dresses with metallic shoes.

Laura1975

I'll vote keep #2 and return #3. I have no idea how old you are but I'm seeing quite a young trendy style based on the other items you've chosen and #3 doesn't seem to fit with the overall look you've got going on there. I like #2. They can be dressed up or down and if you're comfortable in the heel, why not?

Beth Ann

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Love seeing your new items! You get to decide what the right size wardrobe is for you, and how much of your resources you wish to devote to it! If you think it's time to take a pause, and just, as Angie says, "wear the heck out of your clothes," June is a great time to do it. I usually shop pretty big in late spring and early fall, and just do little refreshers in Jan/Feb, and August.

The item's you've purchased look chic and modern, but also practical for "real" life. I remember your elegant, uber-updated style! Good for you for loving your body right now.

As for the shoes: I prefer 6 to 5, but if red shoes are a signature, you might keep all three pairs.

Janet

(website)

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I agree with Denise and Vix, and this looks like a great step forward for dressing a new size (I feel your pain, I’ve had similar struggles the last few years — just enough weight gain to make some old favorites obsolete). I like the dramatic sleeve on that black blouse. The other tops all seem to have a very similar vibe, but everything here looks versatile. The shoes in 3 look a bit more special occasion than the others, but they are such a different vibe from 2 that it’s hard to choose one without knowing what you “need.”

It’s good to see you post. Any plans to visit the DC area again?

bj1111

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Thank you ladies! @Sterling’s post today on her weight loss and feeling adrift really struck a chord. I did not know how to dress myself. Literally could not put a pair of pants and a top that felt like me.

Thanks again for the validation. I will slow down because I’m running out of spring/summer to wear the new duds. Saving powder for fall items.

Aida

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Fresh shoes are a huge lift, aren't they? If you've got enough spring/summer to wear I think it's not a bad idea to wait on the rest for fall. Get to know what you like and don't like again, and adjust from there.

Anonymous

What Vic said.

Christina F.

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I feel your pain. I thought I was good after last summer, and my weight hasn’t changed, a further year of posting here has made me much pickier! I ended up purging a lot more than I expected to.

It sounds to me like you’re doing very well, and there are lots of good insights above.

annagybe

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I like most of it, but #12 is throwing me for a loop. It’s really preppy, and doesn’t quite seem you.

bj1111

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@annagybe thanks for the feedback. #12 is the dress in #11 styled by br. On me the dress length without the belt and cut severity reads like the Addams family portrait of the trumps with the pope. Very dolce x morticia. I am having it shortened a touch to avoid looking like Wednesday.

annagybe

(website)

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Love your description of the dress.
Anyways I got my numbers wrong & probably need new glasses.
I meant the shirt in #17, pinstripes with embroidery ala Vineyard Vines.

ETA unless you've started leasing a boat slip in Nantucket

bj1111

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@annagybe Occasionally I like matching hubs who is uber prep. He has not met a button down he did not like and lives in jcrew chinos. Good wifey...

Anonymous

Hi bj1111. I read your post a while ago and failed to comment because I didn't understand "ffs". Silly reason for not commenting.

I understand that you are rebuilding your wardrobe as well. I think you did a great job!!! Everything looks modern, interesting, and cohesive.

I'm curious if it was easy for you? The cohesiveness of the end result makes it look like you had a firm grasp on your style and your needs. I am envious that you found so many outstanding dresses.

bj1111

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@sterling, I find urbandictionary.com a treasure trove of definitions for urban slang.

As I’ve mentioned upthread, your thread on budgets struck a chord because you articulated all the thoughts in my head from the reluctance to buy to the out of sorts feeling that comes with dressing a body I don’t recognize.

No it wasn’t easy. Shopping for the items above come at the end of a very long 15 months. Prior to this spree, I wore 1 dress from br, 1 pair of ancient black skinnies, a twin set and two turtlenecks from uniqlo and a bunch of thermal undershirts. That was my work capsule for 8 months.

This fashion cycle also had much of what I considered my style compared to the last few cycles (poison eye for over the top sleeve treatment, cold shoulders and florid florals). And I’ve come around on higher waists and the tops needed to balance the proportions.

It’s getting easier.

Anonymous

I'm so glad it is getting easier for you!! You have built a solid wardrobe, but my greatest admiration comes from your earlier capsule of only a few pieces. THAT is amazing. I bow to you.

Looked it up. Now it all makes so much sense. I feel your pain and laugh with you!

Angie

(website)

Fashion Stylist

GOOD JOB buying items that fit - and I can see you wear all of these goodies. Enjoy.

Thistle

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Enjoy the new pieces, and love knowing you can wear everything in your closet.

And good for you buying for the body you have. So much better to love ourselves and treat ourselves as if we were a friend.