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Louise

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Suz's lost diamond thread http://youlookfab.com/welookfa.....rs-diamond got me thinking, do most of you permanently wear them? I take my engagement ring off in the shower, in bed and if I went to the gym, swimming etc., it stays in my jewellery cabinet. If we are on holiday I will usually keep it on if there is nowhere safe to store it at night and when showering I leave it in my purse. What does everyone else do? I'm thinking I may be abnormal x

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Kari

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I don't have a ring myself, but I believe my parents both wear theirs all the time, even while swimming and showering, unless they are cleaning the ring or doing something REALLY messy. I've wondered too what is most typical & what I'd choose to do. I've never worn rings so it would be hard enough for me to get used to having something on my finger!

Ana

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Louise, I actually do exactly the same thing as you do with my ring. : )

Desmo April

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When I wear my ring, I wear it all the time--sleep, shower, travel, whatever. My one exception is riding, I never wear my ring when I ride my motorcycle. The setting on the ring doesn't play nice with my gloves.

The problem comes in that I always forget to put it back on. I can go a solid week before I remember to put it back on. Of course, I usually remember just before I head our for ride!

MINI

I wear my engagement ring and wedding ring together all the time. When showering, cooking, swimming, sleeping etc...Both of my rings are super simply designed rings anyway, so even though I wear them all the time, I don't really feel like they're there. I think it just almost became a part of my body. I just like the feeling of them reminding me of the day my husband proposed me when I look at my rings on my finger from time to time

Mander

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Both of my rings have flat settings, so the stone doesn't stick up from the band at all. What can I say, we are poor and bought cheap rings with small diamonds. So I usually wear mine all the time, unless I'm doing something like kneading bread or other cooking that involves sticking your hands into the food. It's no fun to clean bits of raw hamburger out of the tiny crevices in your partly-hollow wedding ring...

I do sometimes take my ring off when I'm washing dishes, because the skin on my finger tends to break out if I don't get all the soap off or don't get it totally dry when I'm done. When I do this I tend to put it on the window ledge and then forget where I've put it until I notice a day or two later that I don't have my ring on and have a minor panic.

I've also started wearing my engagement ring rather than my wedding ring, because it is a nicer ring and doesn't cause the same issues with my skin. My husband doesn't care, and he's the only one who would notice.

rae

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I take both rings off to shower, wash dishes, and cook. I live in fear of tiny food particles getting stuck in my setting.

Janet

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I only take my rings off at night, and to shower. I wear them all the rest of the time, and I've gotten so accustomed to them I feel naked without them!

soobee

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I wear mine all the time, and only take them off to moisturise.

Anonymous

I recently lost mine last tuesday was when I noticed it was gone... but I never wore it much because of the setting.... I like the look of just a band... I probably won't replace it but I would love to get a new wedding band with diamonds in it....

marianna

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I never take mine off. I sleep/shower/etc with it on!

Queen Mum

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I can't sleep with rings on, so I remove my rings at bed time...or while sitting around watching TV in the evening... and I dont' put them back on until I've gotten myself "done up" for the day. If I don't go anywhere for the day, it wouldn't be uncommon to never put them on. Sometimes I get out of the house and realize I forgot to put them on. Sometimes I can't find them when I'm ready to go... Once I couldn't find them for several days and finally found them in the pleated part of the foot rest of my recliner..LOL.
I cook in them unless I'm mixing up meatloaf or something else messy, and I normally wouldn't take them off just to wash dishes or do light housekeeping.
So, as you can see I'm not terribly anal about when and where I wear my rings. I aim to wear them every day but it doesn't always happen.

Suz

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My mom wore hers for 60 years without taking it off!

After she gave it to me, I wore it pretty much all the time but took it off for heavy exercise or cleaning. Ironically, the day the stone disappeared was a day I was especially careful with it, taking it off for my kettlebells class. (The stone was in it then).

I do not have an engagement ring with a stone (of my own), just a simple band, which I wear all the time.

Scarlet

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I wear mine all the time except for washing. I also don't wear it swimming--I am afraid it could come off.

bella

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I was thinking that I was an anomaly until I read Kim's response. My wedding rings are like my shoes. I put them on in the morning (together with my watch) before leaving the apartment, and take them off as soon I get home in the evening, right after I kick off my shoes. (We are a no-shoes indoors household). Hubby does the same. If it is a Sunday and we are just relaxing at home, I will never put on my rings or my watch.
I don't lose them though, because I always take them off and put them on in the exact same place. They live in a little ceramic bowl on my dresser.

Refugee

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I only wear mine when I leave the house. And since I work form home, I don't leave that often. I have horribly dry skin and have to put lotion on every time I wash my hands, so it would be a lot of putting it on and taking it off. I know how I am and I would constantly be forgetting where I had set it down if I wore it at home.

Queen Mum

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ha- I'm glad to see I have some company in the "relaxed about wearing the rings" camp

velvetychocolate

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I wear mine almost all the time, round the clock. I will take them off if I'm making homemade meatballs or something icky like that, but my husband and I have a tradition - if one of us takes our ring(s) off, we wait for the other one to propose and put the ring(s) back on. My husband lost his wedding band one day while gathering up leaves in the backyard - took us a day to find it, but I got down on one knee and "proposed" to him and put the ring back on.

If I take mine off, and place in a bowl on the counter or something because I'm doing something extra-icky (usually mixing something with my hands), when I've washed up, he gets down on one knee and "proposes" to me all over again. The funny part is that our dog, a giant black lab, sits right next to the person down on their knee and wants to be part of the whole proposal thing. He wiggles right in there and wags and sometimes even puts his paw up.

Anyway, it's just our little tradition - a way of saying that we want to marry each other all over again.

Is that silly?

I feel naked and abnormal without the rings on. I wouldn't be able to sleep or relax. Like MINI says, it's like they have become part of my body.

Louise

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I'm glad I'm not alone. QM I've pottered around the house today and didn't put mine on till we went out this afternoon I probably usually wouldn't have bothered even then but this thread was obviously on my mine and made me remember to put it on x

Angie

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I do a similar thing to you, Louise - and I have four wedding rings (all from the same husband).

Louise

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Angie I tried that on my BF but I can't convince him I need another engagement ring!! x

ironkurtin

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I wore mine 24-7 (we deliberately chose very flat settings) until I started working out. I found they cut into my hands and made it hard to grip overhead weights etc. Just started to wear them again, but they'll likely come off when I start working out again.

Funny thing is, my husband never even noticed!

citygirldc

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Never take my rings off except when putting lotion on or kneading dough.

Louise

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IK I have a flat setting too I hate the way sticky up stones twist round and get caught in my gloves. I work with kids too and was worried about a high set stone scratching a child x

morethanbeige

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I wear mine all the time, except when mushing together raw meat with spices. haha

I used to take my rings off to wash my hands and while at work forgot to put them back on. When I ran back they were gone. It was before I was married, but the loss was so hurtful, I just now always keep my rings on when out.

Louise

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Morethanbeige how awful that someone stole your rings. If I have to take mine off at work if we're making playdough or something really mucky I put it in my purse x

NK

I wear my constantly as well, even though I've heard it's hard on your rings to sleep in them because they may catch on your bedding. I don't think mine are any worse for the wear though, the only time I had issues is when my engagement ring got too thin in the back and broke, but I had it fixed easily enough.

I think if my rings were larger or more valuable I'd probably take them off more.

velvetychocolate

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Louise - you might want to consider buying a chain necklace to put your rings on when you need to mix up stuff like playdough at work.

morethanbeige - what an awful thing to have happen at work. I'm like you - pretty much only taking rings off when making meatballs or something like that.

Angie - just read your post and Louise's follow up reply re: four rings, aloud to my husband. You know...just to put ideas into his head.

Ana

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Morethanbeige, that's terrible! I'm so sorry. Something similar happened to me in high school with a ring my boyfriend gave me. I was heartbroken. Now I try never to take my rings off in public, and if for some reason I have to, I either slip it onto another finger or put it in my mouth. I know that sounds kind of gross, but I never forget it! : ) Most times I can just wash my hands with my rings on though.

lyn*

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My parents don't wear their rings. I asked my parents about this when I was a kid, because I thought it was weird (all my friends had parents that wore rings).

My dad said he didn't need a reminder he was married because he knew in here: and pointed to his heart.

Aww.

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